"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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saw the something at the club last night.. care to disect?

garruk

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so last night a bunch of my friends went out to the club to celebrate a birthday and for some wierd reason, EVERYONE was there (all in different groups). girls/guys i party with often, girls/guys i ahvent seen in years, etc.

anyways, i saw this girl in my regular social circle. shes hot and she knows it but she's been dating this guy for awhile now and from what i know its relatively serious. she's also a HUGE flirt. she showed up with the guy shes dating and his freinds and then pretty much ditched him to socialize and flirt with other guys (including my group because we had a table).

by the end of the night, i guess her guy had enough and essentially called it quits on her. She was outside the club bawling her eyes out. like seriosuly crying HARD.


now im bringing this up because i dont understand whats going on here. if she cares so much about her relationship, why the he!! would she be out there flirting with all these guys?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alex DeLarge

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This guy she is dating is way too uptight. I've been out with girls at the bars/clubs that I've been dating and when they do this, honestly I have absolutely no problem with it. Because I want to do the same thing lol. I always flirt with chicks in front of the girl I'm seeing, not on purpose, but it's just the natural way I am with girls.

Some people (like this guy) really need to get over themselves. She's just socializing, so what if she's a flirt. It's not like she's fvcking all of the guys right on top of the bar.
 

zekko

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Alex DeLarge said:
Some people (like this guy) really need to get over themselves. She's just socializing, so what if she's a flirt.
If the guy doesn't want to put up with it, why should he?
Different people want different things.
The dude should go find a girl better suited to his needs.

Also, clubs and relationships aren't the best mix.
 

evansblue

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I'm not sure why you're so curious about other people's relationships. It really isn't any of your concern.

The guy obviously was able to get her, and she was crying over him. I think it's a safe bet to say this guy knows what he's doing. Don't be a hater.
 

f283000

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garruk said:
now im bringing this up because i dont understand whats going on here. if she cares so much about her relationship, why the he!! would she be out there flirting with all these guys?
Because that's what women do at the clubs whether single or taken /threadclosed :crackup:

But I do suspect that maybe they could be having some issues in their relationship who knows. I don't think it's healthy for you to be even thinking about it. Concentrate on your own life brother.

The fact of life is that women will flirt/dance with other guys at the clubs whether their bf is present or not.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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