"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sausage Fests: Why You Can't Avoid 'Em

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Zodiac said:
Even if the gay guy doesn't think you are, girls aren't so smart when it comes to that and who's to say the gay guy will help you when he figures it out (If he does at all.)
Have you been to a gay bar? Most of them are full of straight girls accompanying their gay friends. That might not seem obvious if you've never set foot inside one, but it's generally true.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Have you been to a gay bar? Most of them are full of straight girls accompanying their gay friends. That might not seem obvious if you've never set foot inside one, but it's generally true.
Even if that were true WHY?????? I can go to any college campus and be surrounded by beautiful women. If you have to go to a gay bar to meet women there is something horribly wrong here.....
 

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I went to a gay bar one time (just a dumb college shenanigan with some buddies), and all we saw were flaming gay guys and super butch lesbians.

Needless to say we did not linger.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Being seen coming out of a gay bar by friends/family/people that know you is not.
To each his own. Maybe you're from a more conservative upbringing, but nobody I know would care. Of course gay bars aren't for everyone (and you don't go to the super-gay ones, you hit the more "mainstream" ones to meet straight people)
 

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One of my "friends" continues his ****blocking mission on-line. He starts up a discussion stating that he was laughing at the guys at the party.

None too subtle attempt to curry favor with the ladies by portraying himself as mr. cool while taking value from the other guys he personally invited as being socially awkward.

This guy is a backstabbing prick, snake in the grass.
 

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One of my "friends" continues his ****blocking mission on-line. He starts up a discussion stating that he was laughing at the guys at the party.

None too subtle attempt to curry favor with the ladies by portraying himself as mr. cool while taking value from the other guys he personally invited as being socially awkward.

This guy is a backstabbing prick, snake in the grass.
call him up on it.
 

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^^I was warned by others about the sleazeball, but since I hadn't noticed anything terribly amiss myself, I decided to let it go. It took a couple of months, but he's finally shown his true colors.
 

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DonGorgon said:
there is male over population right now so for every 1 woman looking for sex there are usually at least 5 or 6 males looking for sex and that is what gives women the power to be *****es even when they are ugly

THE SOLUTION???

Well its harder now for all men but as usual the better looking you are or richer or popular the better you lay rate will be. just get as many numbers as you can and run strong game to try and turn them into Fs very few men have a better than 10% conversion rate so you will have to work had most of the time..
The average guy sees that most women are taken, snobby, bi**hes, play lots of games, and hate sex. Yet they love money!

The rich or handsome guy sees that most women are available and genuinely sweet and love to get f**ked!

Nightclubs are always in favor of women and popular guys with money. There is indeed an overpopulation of desperate men. Sad but true.

Now everyone cold approaches in the daytime. You may get a number, but you still need to actually get a date. I've noticed guys go in clubs with their sisters, cousins, and mother (If they're attractive) and have a much better shot of getting a chick.

Men these days hate loneliness and know that their life would be a lot greater if they have at least ONE girl.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Have you been to a gay bar? Most of them are full of straight girls accompanying their gay friends. That might not seem obvious if you've never set foot inside one, but it's generally true.
I'm not gay so I have no interest in doing this. I tend to be where the girls go when their emotional tampon friend you described is done shelling out a few drinks to them.

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Even if that were true WHY?????? I can go to any college campus and be surrounded by beautiful women. If you have to go to a gay bar to meet women there is something horribly wrong here.....
Exactly.

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mixing it up sometimes is fun.
I have to ask; Are you gay or bi?
 

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Desperate times call for desperate measures, I suppose.
 

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Girls go out a lot. They just go to better places than you do. They get invited everywhere. You don't.

General population statistics are useless because men die earlier. Are you sarging 70 year old widows? More men are born, but toward the end of life, there are many more women living.

Check out a link like this:
http://www.latimes.com/theguide/la-icumap,0,2003683.htmlstory

Look at how skewed things are in the prime ages.

And like those famous articles about UNC chapel hill, even if a college has 65% women, the bars are still sausage fests because the women don't want those guys. They go to better/exclusive parties where guys without connections will not be.
 

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Kerpal, I'm right there with you man - my college experience was similar, and the job searching thing too. I just graduated in May, and after completing a really cool internship in a different city, I've had to move back in with my parents and am now completely jobless. Obviously I'm shooting resumes around like crazy, but it seems like world just took a cruel twist against a guy who really means well!
 

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JCballin88 said:
Kerpal, I'm right there with you man - my college experience was similar, and the job searching thing too. I just graduated in May, and after completing a really cool internship in a different city, I've had to move back in with my parents and am now completely jobless. Obviously I'm shooting resumes around like crazy, but it seems like world just took a cruel twist against a guy who really means well!
Where in PA are you located, if you don't mind me asking.

I'm in Pittsburgh, and the job market sucks for recent grads, as does the population of eligible young women, no matter when I go I can't find them.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I actually graduated from school in the Pittsburgh area (but am from Upstate NY). This summer I did an internship in Williamsport PA, which is pretty different area than what I experienced in Western PA.

So now I'm back in NY but looking into moving to Pittsburgh where I have some family as well as friends from school...just can't find anything I can live on full-time yet.
 

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I'm not gay so I have no interest in doing this. I tend to be where the girls go when their emotional tampon friend you described is done shelling out a few drinks to them.
*sigh*

This is EXACTLY why there is no competition when I go out to gay bars to meet straight girls. I can lead him to water, but I sure can't make him drink.

Sh0t said:
Girls go out a lot. They just go to better places than you do. They get invited everywhere. You don't.
I think this may be a root cause for guys on this forum whining about there not being any girls when they go out, it's because they go to places like f*cking sports bars where women aren't really interested in being.
 
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*sigh*

This is EXACTLY why there is no competition when I go out to gay bars to meet straight girls. I can lead him to water, but I sure can't make him drink.
Considering you are the ONLY one doing this its not a wonder why. I really don't see the benefits of going to a gay par since every girl I've talked to that sees a guy at a gay bar instantly thinks he's gay.
 

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I give them more credit than that Vice.

The guys want to be where the girls are. They just can't get in. That is the case out here in Socal/LV/PHX for sure. They go to sports bars after they get turned down.

Guys also try to get invites to cool parties, but the host will say "bring more girls than guys, or no chance".

If you aren't connected, it's tough. Then on top of that, you have 10-20% of the more attractive women on Friday and Saturday nights working in strip clubs instead of in night clubs, wondering where the customers are at. The ratio skews more.
 

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Not really. They just get swooped up by a "sponsor." Namely, a chode who will pay out of his ass and kiss her ass 24/7.

The scenario you discuss is only possible in glitzy towns like Los Angeles, and Miami. Otherwise, these chicks are playing beer pong in their garage.

Sh0t said:
Girls go out a lot. They just go to better places than you do. They get invited everywhere. You don't.

General population statistics are useless because men die earlier. Are you sarging 70 year old widows? More men are born, but toward the end of life, there are many more women living.

Check out a link like this:
http://www.latimes.com/theguide/la-icumap,0,2003683.htmlstory

Look at how skewed things are in the prime ages.

And like those famous articles about UNC chapel hill, even if a college has 65% women, the bars are still sausage fests because the women don't want those guys. They go to better/exclusive parties where guys without connections will not be.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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