"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sarky Line for Chicks Using Mobile Phones

Boschy

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This was used on me by a male workmate the other week as I was texting a message to someone. Which means I was holding the phone in front with the screen facing me. It was a good put-down and I thought it might work on chicks.

"Hey, come on, put that thing away. It's not a mirror."

I use this whenever I see a woman reading her phone screen and they always laugh. (Well, one out of about 50 so far didn't like it, but we all know that's a sign to avoid those types.) Works with female friends too, just to spice things up. Deliver the line in a cheeky way, then follow-up.

I use it in a club or somewhere similar as I walk past her, then will walk back past later. She won't usually be ready to talk to you until she's finished mucking around with the phone. Saying it at the bar or supermarket checkout is great....she'll finish up while you're there, then you just chat.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Another phone-related opener... It's 101 stuff.

When a woman drops her cell phone (and she inevitably will), approach and say, "Don't you hate when that happens?" Wait for a response. And then introduce yourself. I had a chance to open like this yesterday, but I was with another girl.

By the way, your spelling error in the title of the topic is probably just a typo, but in the event that it isn't, "sarky" should be "snarky".
 

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Boschy said:
"Hey, come on, put that thing away. It's not a mirror."
Love this one, thanks mate.
In fact I was attracted by the thread title too! I was expecting to hear something a bit nasty and put down, so this was a pleasant surprise. Its not sarcastic at all really, just fun and playful.

(Sarky-Snarky? Round here its 'sarky' short for 'sarcastic'. 'Snarky's a new one on me, Demon: is it the same thing?)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Muzzlehatch said:
(Sarky-Snarky? Round here its 'sarky' short for 'sarcastic'. 'Snarky's a new one on me, Demon: is it the same thing?)
"Sarky" is informal British English for sarcastic whereas "snarky" is informal American English for sharply critical. That's Oxford's interpretation, anyway. "Snarky" also means sarcastic in American English.

"Sarky" is nowhere to be found in American English dictionaries, including Princeton's WordNet. I've never seen "sarky" before, and I thought it was a misspelling. As it happens, I'm not British. But they mean the same thing, so who cares?
 

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Yeah sarky is meant to be short for 'sarcastic'. Gets regular use in Australia.

Another phone line from a PU book I think is "Has he called yet?" which my friend uses, but I like the mirror line better :p
 
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