"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sarging with my Dad.

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I went up to my dad's to have dinner. He made salad (with fresh peppers) and cold chicken and we decided to go take a walk along the rocky shore by Milford beach. Again the storm was raging up on the beach making for an exhilarating walk. Halfway along a cute brunette , nicely stacked jogged past. From the way she ran I put her as about 16 but anyways. Dad and I got to the end of the beach and the girl was about 100m ahead of us. I asked my dad how old he thought the girl was and he reckoned about 20, so I asked if he minded if I went and found out.
He said go for it so I did.

Straight out of mellow walking mode and into player mode , I took off the woolly pully I was wearing and put my cap on (pic of sarging rig to follow). Closest I got to her was 20M or so so I bellowed "excuse me" and asked her if she was from round here then asked about the track along the shore. Pause. She filled the few gaps that came up (don't fear the pause) and I invited her to come walk back with me. She did which gave me the chance to run the "Auckland Girls" DHV and do some small town boy stuff (which is good and tend s to come up as an accidental bonus of me being "new in town").

I introduced her to my Dad who chatted with us and then ducked aside to let me sarge (competent wingDad that he is) I eventually qualified her by saying I wanted to go catch up to my dad and asked her out for a brew . She said "yes sure". Didn't have my phone so I gave her my card , which I'm aware is about as good as not f---ing closing at all, and joined my dad.

Despite the logistics screwing my close up, I was well happy at working the routine well , and even making a pretty good situational opener on the fly (how the f*** I did it thru boot camp I'll never know).
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So Many Ways

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I have a friend who is really good at memorizing numbers in those scenarios. I've never been able to do it. I'll forget it within a few minutes.

That's a good daytime approach. That's something I want to be able to do within the next month or so.
 

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Yeah my daytime game is killer and my club game sucks ass.

Got the callback from her today as well, quite pleased.
 
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