"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sarging when you don't want to

WhitePimp

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Here's a weird phenomena I've noticed in myself. A lot of the times when I'm out playing with my band or at a party, I really won't feel like meeting anybody new. Maybe it's part lack of interest or boredom of girls or whatever, but I often just feel like hanging with my friends and not worrying about girls. But part of me feels like I NEED to get someone's number just to feel like I'm not being a social recluse or whatever and to keep my skills sharp(I really don't sarge that often outside of social gatherings), and then I wind up never calling the girl because I was never really interested in her, but rather the act of getting her number. There's some girls I will absolutely bust a nut over trying to get them out, but others I just want to build up to the number getting then never call. I'm starting to think I really don't care about the actual girl but rather the strategy involved in working her and thats really not how I want to be.

Anyone else experience this? My brain's at war with itself because I have all these numbers that I feel might be going to waste, but there's no real strong desire in me to call any of them. Should I just chill my ass out?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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johnmich

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You like the challenge and easy girls bore you, thats who you are

edit- i know this doesnt help you
 

Mission

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Yeah chill out, if you just want to hang with your friends then do that.

--Mission
 

white cloud 8

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Go pick up "The Book of Five Rings" by Miyamoto Musashi, and read the chapter on 'Zen'. It will answer most of your question(s) if you are willing to open your mind to it.

BTW: I'm serious
 

poohead

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i can't get motivated to hit on a girl if she's not at least a 9. i have no reason to be picky, and yet i still am.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NorPacWolf

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You want to live a fun, gratifying life first and foremost. This does NOT mean sarging 24/7 or turning it into a job. If you want to, just chill. Pickup is meant to enhance your life, not take over it.

Wolf
 

Charm

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poohead: Since your idea of a 9 and my idea of a 9 are different, i'll not comment on your decision not to hit on girls less than 9's.

However... a great chef does not get there by cooking filet minion or veal marcalla every day. They all work through the basic foods too, and a lot of times they cook very simple meals when they still know how to cook the fancy more complicated ones.

In this same light, you could work your game on anyone, even if they aren't a veal marsalla. Just get in your practice, satisfy your apetite from time to time and have fun. That is, if you enjoy cooking :)
 

mpimpin

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I Find myself in this same situation from time to time. Just chill and hang out with your friends. Many times this actually has the effect of girls starting to come on to you. We want what we can't have and lose interest in what we can have.
 
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