"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sarging gay bars for straight women

thedeparted

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Last night I went out with a female friend and she was talking about how she and her girlfriends go to gay bars. I think they just like the music, the dancing, and the "hot" guys. (The gay guys tend to be pretty buff and dress well, women often dig it.) I would say she is about a six, a 5 face, a 7 body.

Anyway, I have been in the "wrong" part of town and hit on by gay guys, and it will improve your game massively, b/c you experience it from the female side. While this guy is trying to chat you up, you are noticing that he doesn't stop jiggling his leg or something.

I've never actually gone into a gay bar, just sat at some cafes in that part of town before I knew the area well. But I felt no risk and it was a good learning experience.

So I would say if you have the confidence, you will find it EASIER to pickup women in the gay bar, b/c a lot of them there are NOT gay -- they might just be there with some gay friends -- or else they are BI. Plus they will NOT have their shields up b/c they're not expecting it from you. And you will not have much competition.

But I'd also say that a straight bar is just about the WORST venue for a DJ since the competition is cut-throat, the girls are on guard, the noise impairs a lot of your verbal game, etc. etc.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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JimmyBizzle

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Oh man, I got one for this.

About 2 years ago I was on 6th street in Austin with some friends and a local girl we knew was taking us bar-hopping. Well one of my friends is the biggest homo-phobe I know, so this girl wanted us to walk into this gay bar with her so we could freak him out. We were all hammered so we agreed.

Once inside the girl invited me onto the dance floor with her and I said I'd only do it if she stayed really close cause the last thing I wanted was another dude dancing on me.

Well while I was out there I started dancing with another chick who was really hot. She was all up on me and I started making out with her and it kinda freaked her out. She couldn't believe I was straight and in there. Long story short, I went back to her place and f***** her all night.

So yes, it works. My only advice would be to make sure you go with another female friend so you can have some line of defense from any unwanted advances from a dude.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Latinoman said:
Gay bars is for gays. Period.
And you would think people would realize that more than likely most of the women there are gay too.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bible_Belt

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Another ex of mine from school had a gay friend, and we took him and his bf to the strip bar and bought a lap dance for one of them, who we guess is the woman of the couple. It was pretty funny to see the gay guy get whacked in the face by some giant stripper t!ts as he made a face like 'eww! icky!'
 
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