Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Sarging at the mall.

greenlake

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Intro:Today was great!!! I actually fought over my AA and win after 2 months of stuggles. I was so excited the whole weekend cause today is my first day working at the mall. but they say they don't need me working today when i called them(cause it's a call in shift.) but that's great for me since i felt terrible today due to a different diet program. But guess what? that leave me 5 hours of doing anything i want!! yayay!! so i decided to go to the mall anyway. i decided to called my friend when i got in the car and he liked the idea of picking up girls at the mall so he went along. good thing he went along or else i think this wouldn't happen(or it would take longer.)

Dillards:i got there before him and decided to do some warm up before he arrived cause i don't want to look bad again(due to past wings experience.) i walked up to a old man and say hi and then say hi to the girl who work at the perfume section in dillards. when i got out to the plaza, i spotted a asian girl talking to some guy and his wife(i guess). she was giving me e/c and i just stare back at her with a grin. 2 times actually!! the second when i just look back and didn't look away until she does.

"no matter what happen, u'll still be you."

Hollister:after that i went into Hollister and walk around a bit. i notice this one girl who works there not only give me eye contact w/smile once but TWICE!! so i give it back, this really boost up my confidence. too bad she wasn't there when i came back. another asian girl who works there was giving me some eye contact and smile too. so my confidence level just went up the roof!! finally my friend got here. he spotted a asian girl and ask me what nationally hhe is. so i told him "i dunno, let's find out" and i walked up to her, no hesitating.
greenlake: hi
*she was shock*
greenlake:don't be nervous, i think u're cute.
asian girl: oh heheheh thanks
*she just look relax afterward.*
greenlake: i was just wondering what nationality are u?
asian girl: vietnamese.
greenlake: oh really? me too. tell me something in viet.
asian girl: i dunno, like what?
greenlake: chao ban, khoe ko?
asian girl: hahah
greenlake: what's ur name?
asian girl: thao, what's ur?
greenlake: greenlake. hey thao, u knoww hat i just found out? hollister is way cheaper than abercrombie.
thao: yea, this is my favorite place to shop and they have clearance today too.
greenlake: i can see that"
*looking at the clothes she got*
thao: hahah yeah.
greenlake: well it was nice talking to u.
thao: yea
*shake hands*

"no matter what happens, u'll still be you."

Guess Jeans:I went in there and this one indian girl with nice hooters walk up to us.
indianhooters: hi, we have 40% discount today on these items.
greenlake: really? how about 50% discount for me.
indianhooters: no sorry.
greenlake: aww, maybe tomorrow.
indianhooters: hahah yea tomorrow.
i was planning to go direct with her but there was a guy who stand next to her the whole time so i didn't.

J crew:My friend told me he want to go in this sotre so i say yea and we went in. there was some girls in here. i decided to direct this one girl but was too nervous. u'll know why. anyway, my friend was wondering if they have extra small size polo.
i don't know so i asked the chubby girl who work there.
greenlakE: hey, do u guys have extra small size??
chubby: i do'nt think so. i think the small size we have is small.
greenlake: oh c'mon, i'm anerexic.
*this pretty cute girl walked by and laugh at it while the chubby girl was looking dead serious.*
chubby: u can try abercrombie.
greenlake: but i like to go here because there are nice people like u.
*chubby girl just give me a wierd look.*
that kinda discourage me a bit. what funny was she wasn't even my target, i was trying to converse. well guys that was the reason why i got a nervous witht he next one. okay...that was the worst rejection of the day.

"no matter what happens, u'll still bee you."

plaza:while we walking, my friend spotted a 2 set of hot indian(i think) girls. he told me they got a nice body and i told him let go talk to them. he say no he don't want to, so i told him just to follow me and i'll do it myself. so i walked up to them...
greenlake: hey, u guys are pretty, i want to get to know u guys.
young one: sorry, we're taken.
oldone: actually, i'm married.
greenlake: kool, how long are u guys married.
oldone: i'm 24 and this is my younger sister.
greenlake: wow, no wonder why u guy look similar.
oldone: we gotta go, our mom is over there.
greenlake: okay.
both: thanks, it was nice meeting you.
greenlake: u too.
i know the older one wanna talk more but their parents are actually there and i think her husband was there too. uh oh..... hahahah.

"no matter what happens, you'll still be you."

Dillards:We went back to dillards after that, my friend wanna try out some shirt so i waited for him. while waiting, i walked around and look at someo f the items. i was standing in fronto f the counter looking a belt and this pretty hispanic girl walked up to me
hispanicgirl: hi
greenlake: hi how r u?
hispanicgirl: i'm fine.
*notice she was waiting for sometihng.*
greenlakE: hahah, i'm just looking.
hispanice girl: ohh hahah. ok.
*i walked around for a bit. then i went next to her.*
greenlake: i like these jeans.
hispanicgirl: yea, DKNY got some nice clothes.
greenlake: do u wear them? i meant for girls.
hispanicgirl: no, i usually wear guess.
greenlake; ohh, "gguess" who?
hispanicgirl: hahah.
greenlake: i dunno if any ever told u this, but i think u're pretty.
hispanicgirl: aww thank you.
greenlake: hopefully i made ur day.
hispanicgirl; yes u did.
i walk away afterward, i know, should have stay there.

Hollister:We walked back to Hollister to find the girl who work there earlier. too bad she wasn't there anymore. but i did manage to talk to the manager there is pretty hot imo.
*she was folding clothes and saw me.*
manager: hi
greenlake: hi
*walk up to her*
greenlake: how can i help u?
manager: ohhh, i work here.
greenlake: i know, do i look like a hollister boy?
manager: hahah, what's that?
greenlake: do i look like i can work here.
manager: yea, u got the look and the style.
greenlakE: hahah that's funny. i'm actually wearing Hot Topics right now.
manager: no, u got the style. u wanna apply here?
greenlake:uhh i would but it's too late now.
manager: oh, why?
greenlakE: i apply for abercrombie.
manager: ohh
greenlake: that mean we're rivals.
manager: hahah yea that's right.
greenlake:let's duel!!!
manager: hahah ok.
greenlake: so how long have u been working here?
manager: 3 weeks actually.
greenlakE: reallY? u look like a manager to me.
manager: yea, i'm a manager in training.
greenlake: okay, give me the mean look.
manager: i can't do that. i'm too nice.
the convo was just about me asking her being a manager and ask her if she know a friend of mine who work there.

so while walking around the store waiting for my friend to try out his shirt, i spotted the asian girl with a pretty hot blonde girl. we(the blonde) look at each other twice but neither of us smile. my friend finally came out and wewent to the counter to pay for it. guess what? the blonde one is the cashier. so me and my friend was talking and he brought up about him can't stop spending money on clothes. so something just pop in my head and i ask the blonde girl...
greenlake: hey, do u ever have a shopping spree?!?!?
blonde: no, i just buy the one i like!!!
greenlakE: okay, how do u stop it?!?!?
blonde:starbuck?!?!
*the music in hollister was too loud*
greenlake: no, how do i stop it?
blonde: ohh, u can control it or invest it in something else.
greenlake: how about i give it to u.
blondE: that would be fine.
greenlakE: hahahah
my friend was walking away so i just stop the convo and followed him.

the manager say bye when we got out and i told her "come and give me a visit at abercrombie whenever u can". she say "ok i will".

"no matter what happen, u'll still be you."okay, u guys must wonder why i kept typing that down. because that was what i kept telling myself before and after the approach. it's really tue and works for me. i feel great today. my goal today was just to control AA so i didn't really went for the number close. but i'll try it next time. remember guys. sometimes we'll have to go back to base 1.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dillards:i got there before him and decided to do some warm up before he arrived cause i don't want to look bad again(due to past wings experience.) i walked up to a old man and say hi and then say hi to the girl who work at the perfume section in dillards. when i got out to the plaza, i spotted a asian girl talking to some guy and his wife(i guess). she was giving me e/c and i just stare back at her with a grin. 2 times actually!! the second when i just look back and didn't look away until she does.
Definitely a good way to improve confidence...if one is nervous get in the eye contact/hi mood...get u too feel better.
"no matter what happen, u'll still be you."
Actually, i beg to differ....u'll be u and more ;-)

Hollister:after that i went into Hollister and walk around a bit. i notice this one girl who works there not only give me eye contact w/smile once but TWICE!! so i give it back, this really boost up my confidence. too bad she wasn't there when i came back. another asian girl who works there was giving me some eye contact and smile too. so my confidence level just went up the roof!! finally my friend got here. he spotted a asian girl and ask me what nationally hhe is. so i told him "i dunno, let's find out" and i walked up to her, no hesitating.
greenlake: hi
*she was shock*
greenlake:don't be nervous, i think u're cute.
asian girl: oh heheheh thanks
*she just look relax afterward.*
greenlake: i was just wondering what nationality are u?
asian girl: vietnamese.
greenlake: oh really? me too. tell me something in viet.
asian girl: i dunno, like what?
greenlake: chao ban, khoe ko?
asian girl: hahah
greenlake: what's ur name?
asian girl: thao, what's ur?
greenlake: greenlake. hey thao, u knoww hat i just found out? hollister is way cheaper than abercrombie.
thao: yea, this is my favorite place to shop and they have clearance today too.
greenlake: i can see that"
*looking at the clothes she got*
thao: hahah yeah.
greenlake: well it was nice talking to u.
thao: yea
*shake hands*
Very good approach my man and she'll be thinking about it for a while. i bet girls really do think about it often.


"no matter what happens, u'll still be you."

Guess Jeans:I went in there and this one indian girl with nice hooters walk up to us.
indianhooters: hi, we have 40% discount today on these items.
greenlake: really? how about 50% discount for me.
indianhooters: no sorry.
greenlake: aww, maybe tomorrow.
indianhooters: hahah yea tomorrow.
i was planning to go direct with her but there was a guy who stand next to her the whole time so i didn't.
Hahaha....hey this taught u a lesson of what to do next time, eventho this was good.....good playfulness here


J crew:My friend told me he want to go in this sotre so i say yea and we went in. there was some girls in here. i decided to direct this one girl but was too nervous. u'll know why. anyway, my friend was wondering if they have extra small size polo.
i don't know so i asked the chubby girl who work there.
greenlakE: hey, do u guys have extra small size??
chubby: i do'nt think so. i think the small size we have is small.
greenlake: oh c'mon, i'm anerexic.
*this pretty cute girl walked by and laugh at it while the chubby girl was looking dead serious.*
chubby: u can try abercrombie.
greenlake: but i like to go here because there are nice people like u.
*chubby girl just give me a wierd look.*
that kinda discourage me a bit. what funny was she wasn't even my target, i was trying to converse. well guys that was the reason why i got a nervous witht he next one. okay...that was the worst rejection of the day.
Defiitely don't take this seriously, too bad she dosen't know ur gonna get the cute ones ;-) Funny how the uglier girls dont' respond to us as well as the more attractive girls, Greenlake ;-)

"no matter what happens, u'll still bee you."

plaza:while we walking, my friend spotted a 2 set of hot indian(i think) girls. he told me they got a nice body and i told him let go talk to them. he say no he don't want to, so i told him just to follow me and i'll do it myself. so i walked up to them...
greenlake: hey, u guys are pretty, i want to get to know u guys.
young one: sorry, we're taken.
oldone: actually, i'm married.
greenlake: kool, how long are u guys married.
oldone: i'm 24 and this is my younger sister.
greenlake: wow, no wonder why u guy look similar.
oldone: we gotta go, our mom is over there.
greenlake: okay.
both: thanks, it was nice meeting you.
greenlake: u too.
i know the older one wanna talk more but their parents are actually there and i think her husband was there too. uh oh..... hahahah.
Yes....it was the ONLY reason the convo cut short was cuz of this. I wonder if her husband went up to her the way u did ;-)

"no matter what happens, you'll still be you."

Dillards:We went back to dillards after that, my friend wanna try out some shirt so i waited for him. while waiting, i walked around and look at someo f the items. i was standing in fronto f the counter looking a belt and this pretty hispanic girl walked up to me
hispanicgirl: hi
greenlake: hi how r u?
hispanicgirl: i'm fine.
*notice she was waiting for sometihng.*
greenlakE: hahah, i'm just looking.
hispanice girl: ohh hahah. ok.
*i walked around for a bit. then i went next to her.*
greenlake: i like these jeans.
hispanicgirl: yea, DKNY got some nice clothes.
greenlake: do u wear them? i meant for girls.
hispanicgirl: no, i usually wear guess.
greenlake; ohh, "gguess" who?
hispanicgirl: hahah.
greenlake: i dunno if any ever told u this, but i think u're pretty.
hispanicgirl: aww thank you.
greenlake: hopefully i made ur day.
hispanicgirl; yes u did.
i walk away afterward, i know, should have stay there
.
"....and i want to get to know you"
Change "Should've" To could've. You could've stayed but u chose not to as ur goal is to just get rid of AA.


so while walking around the store waiting for my friend to try out his shirt, i spotted the asian girl with a pretty hot blonde girl. we(the blonde) look at each other twice but neither of us smile. my friend finally came out and wewent to the counter to pay for it. guess what? the blonde one is the cashier. so me and my friend was talking and he brought up about him can't stop spending money on clothes. so something just pop in my head and i ask the blonde girl...
greenlake: hey, do u ever have a shopping spree?!?!?
blonde: no, i just buy the one i like!!!
greenlakE: okay, how do u stop it?!?!?
blonde:starbuck?!?!
*the music in hollister was too loud*
greenlake: no, how do i stop it?
blonde: ohh, u can control it or invest it in something else.
greenlake: how about i give it to u.
blondE: that would be fine.
greenlakE: hahahah
my friend was walking away so i just stop the convo and followed him.
In the game, also teaches u how to interact with most people. eventho u wanted to seduce and she prolly wasn't in that same vibe...atleast u were doing the convo well with statements. looks like ur convo skills are pretty good.

Nice work today man, ur above 95% of the guys on here for doing direct at a mall without the real use of a wingman. Remember to use this as fuel for next time, and if next time might not be as a high of a feeling in ur mind...that means that its probably becoming more second nature since ur getting more use to it. U should make a new thread of a log

Sarge on!:up:
 

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Dude, those were great approaches. Nice job, it was a motivational read. Thanks for sharing.
 

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attraction- thanks man, i just create this thread cause some of my sosuave buddy wanted me to. i glad it motivate u and hopefully everyone else. killing 2 birds with one stone hahah. :cheer:

kneghtryder-hahah I always welcome any sosuave member joining my quest. yup....my quest, not your. ;) but if u ever come down to Tampa, FL then call me up. i'm always ready to learn and teach. :box:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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