In most clubs, the hottest girls are usually dancing in little circles with themselves. Do you guys usually try to sarge these sets, or do you just stick to girls hanging out by the bar? I rarely hear any of the mPUAs talk about walking up to girls on the floor and asking them to dance, maybe because they are moving targets and a bit more difficult to get at. What do you guys do when you spot an HB target in a set that is dancing? Jump in and dance with them? Wait till they go to the bar?
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Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
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Well bud, I've been trying to master the club scene in the past few weeks. Right now I'm averaging between 4-5 numbers a night at the club. And most of them, I meet right on the dance floor. Now just approach and ask to dance any girl that's not already dancing with a guy, It's not that hard to do. You don't even need to do any small talk or anything, just go straight for the dance. Then, what I found, as your dancing, if you show your confidence and carefree attitude while just dancing, it's just as good as having a conversation with the girl.
Also, you don't have to be a good dancer, as long as you relax and just have fun with it, she'll notice. Sometimes you can do some small talk in her ear as she's grinding up on you. Or when the song is over, some girls even try to strike up a convo with you. Then at that point just do what you normally would do.
Also keep in mind that I usually get rejected more with the girls in groups, their not usually there for the men. In which case a wingman would come in handy, but I don't have a good wingman, so in that case you just have to keep trying. Eventually you do find a girl or girls in a group that end up being very nice.
Well bud, I've been trying to master the club scene in the past few weeks. Right now I'm averaging between 4-5 numbers a night at the club. And most of them, I meet right on the dance floor. Now just approach and ask to dance any girl that's not already dancing with a guy, It's not that hard to do. You don't even need to do any small talk or anything, just go straight for the dance. Then, what I found, as your dancing, if you show your confidence and carefree attitude while just dancing, it's just as good as having a conversation with the girl.
Also, you don't have to be a good dancer, as long as you relax and just have fun with it, she'll notice. Sometimes you can do some small talk in her ear as she's grinding up on you. Or when the song is over, some girls even try to strike up a convo with you. Then at that point just do what you normally would do.
Also keep in mind that I usually get rejected more with the girls in groups, their not usually there for the men. In which case a wingman would come in handy, but I don't have a good wingman, so in that case you just have to keep trying. Eventually you do find a girl or girls in a group that end up being very nice.
WillieSacks
Senior Don Juan
Numbers are all good and everything but wait until you start taking chicks home Danny, that'll be even more fun, next thing you know, getting numbers will be seen as a failure for you.
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
It really depends.
You have no way to know until you try, and it's NOT easy to try and not look like a desperate sleazy dude.
- Some girls are just attention wh*ring, and the fact that they are dancing with their girlfriends sets the perfect situation to blow you off when you approach, while still looking hot and desirable when you don't
- Some girls are happy with boyfriends, they just happen to be there to have a good time with their friends and have no intention to do anything further than getting some compliments from cheap guys here and there. Usually you spot these girls by their more casual and less sexual outfit.
- Some girls are looking for good looking guys, but they need the friends circle to protect themselves from all the horny and drunk dudes. So when an ugly guys comes along, she gets back into the circle for protection, while it's a good looking guy, she leaves the circle for the guy in no time. A good sign for this kind of girls is while all the friends are enjoying the music, she would look pissed/lost/sad from time to time, and she checks the environment around her very often to see if there are any good prospects.
- There may be other cases...
So the conclusion of all this is that you should give it a try, but you need to find a subtle way that has more chance of succeeding. It's up to your improvisation because there's no fixed way to achieve that.
Personally, since I'm a good dancer, my tactics usually involves dancing close to the girls without lookig like you are desperate. By readig the girls reactions, you will know who's here for what...
Hope this helps.
You have no way to know until you try, and it's NOT easy to try and not look like a desperate sleazy dude.
- Some girls are just attention wh*ring, and the fact that they are dancing with their girlfriends sets the perfect situation to blow you off when you approach, while still looking hot and desirable when you don't
- Some girls are happy with boyfriends, they just happen to be there to have a good time with their friends and have no intention to do anything further than getting some compliments from cheap guys here and there. Usually you spot these girls by their more casual and less sexual outfit.
- Some girls are looking for good looking guys, but they need the friends circle to protect themselves from all the horny and drunk dudes. So when an ugly guys comes along, she gets back into the circle for protection, while it's a good looking guy, she leaves the circle for the guy in no time. A good sign for this kind of girls is while all the friends are enjoying the music, she would look pissed/lost/sad from time to time, and she checks the environment around her very often to see if there are any good prospects.
- There may be other cases...
So the conclusion of all this is that you should give it a try, but you need to find a subtle way that has more chance of succeeding. It's up to your improvisation because there's no fixed way to achieve that.
Personally, since I'm a good dancer, my tactics usually involves dancing close to the girls without lookig like you are desperate. By readig the girls reactions, you will know who's here for what...
Hope this helps.
Kewl. I'm still trying to get numbers much less get them home with me.WillieSacks said:Numbers are all good and everything but wait until you start taking chicks home Danny, that'll be even more fun, next thing you know, getting numbers will be seen as a failure for you.
And I can dance better than ever single person in the club. I realyl should have it easy.
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
Yes!
I know, I can't wait til the day comes. Basically my plan is to just take steps towards that moment. I Can't wait until I'm good enough to leave the club with some chicks. But I'm making sure I make progress every week. And I'm definitely going to write a field report when it finally does happen.WillieSacks said:Numbers are all good and everything but wait until you start taking chicks home Danny, that'll be even more fun, next thing you know, getting numbers will be seen as a failure for you.
I have a great speaking voice yet I can't dance so I obviously prefer to talk to the babes at the bar or anywhere else where I feel composed rather than get up on the dance floor and make an idiot out of myself. :rock: :yes:
This is a very good observation. This is the girl you should look for.Le Parisien said:- Some girls are looking for good looking guys, but they need the friends circle to protect themselves from all the horny and drunk dudes. So when an ugly guys comes along, she gets back into the circle for protection, while it's a good looking guy, she leaves the circle for the guy in no time. A good sign for this kind of girls is while all the friends are enjoying the music, she would look pissed/lost/sad from time to time, and she checks the environment around her very often to see if there are any good prospects.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.