Same Night Lays - Night Clubs - Advice needed

[Crissco]

I go out to clubs every weekend, get numbers, make outs...etc...Half of the time they flake or if i text them later in the night they dont want to come out.

Any advice you guys can give me to help me with SNLs?

 

[Tiguere]

keep trying. same night lays by strangers are very rare to the average guy.

 

[3countriesPlan]

Same night lays are much easier if for example you are get a table or booth with a group of people that includes a number of single girls. Think about if your friends have ever had a bday at the club, most of the time some people are hooking up. Going in and then closing is pretty tough, very hard to take them home, you might also consider trying to find hotels nearby or other places. One girl blew me in a dark driveway near the club.. etc stuff like that

 

[irocknike23]

like someone said keep trying. a lot of time the girls are down to make out and give numbers because their drunk...sadly when your texting them in the middle of the day their not

 

[Mike32ct]

keep trying. same night lays by strangers are very rare to the average guy.

^This. SNLs aren't as common or easy as you might think.

Here's a few random tips:

1. Watch how she dances with you. If she keeps her back to you the whole time and won't dance face to face, ditch her a*s and move on to greener pastures. (If she won't even let her face get near yours to possibly kiss, why on earth would she F you?)

2. Notwithstanding #1, keep making out to a minimum. Leave her wanting more. Getting too physical on the dance floor can sometimes make it HARDER to pull. (I know. It's counterintuitive.)

3. Try to pull her directly from the club rather than get numbers and text later. Yes, getting numbers and texing is a legitimate method, but it's a lower odds / higher volume method.

 

[Mike32ct]

Make outs will hurt your chances of getting a one night stand. I learned that a few months ago and actually got advice from girls on it, they said that "we know that make outs in a club are harmless, but when a guy takes us home we know were gonna have sex with him"

Agreed. I'm not sure of the exact reasons why it is so, but experience shows it to be true. I've had some really heavy "you two should get a room" type makeout sessions in the club or bar. Guess what? I was never able to pull those girls. All of my pulls involved zero kissing to a light, quick makeout.

Maybe heavy making out just makes it WAY too obvious you want to F her. You are laying (pun intended lol) your cards on the table and thus activating her anti-sl*t defense.

Plus, I think there is some element of leaving her wanting more. You are sending the message to her that, "Hon, I want to fool around with you, but this (the club/bar) just isn't the place. Come back with me."

Plus I think minimizing the making out in the bar/club shows a level of class, restraint, and most importantly non-neediness compared to the 100 other guys that desperately want to jam their tongues down her throat.

I was amazed that you could even pull with ZERO kissing sometimes. It's totally counterintuitive, but I've done it.

 

[Aaron B]

you probably aren't being aggressive enough

single-minded determination is the order of the day (while being detached from the outcome, of course)