"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

"Safe" kino?

abbas

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 19, 2003
Messages
40
Reaction score
0
Location
Yurup
I would like to have some advice on kino that is safe to use on girls you can't risk "official rejection" on (like work colleagues and such).

Not looking for any detailed instructions, just good ways to start, what to avoid and such...
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

booga

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 27, 2005
Messages
93
Reaction score
0
Repeat after me: there is no mitigating rejection. Trust me, I know. U just have to suck it up.
 

hydrocodone

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 26, 2005
Messages
41
Reaction score
0
Originally posted by JC Jerkson
The Jlaix Facelick:

Is when you lick a girl's face and scream "I'm Rick James bytch!"

LOL! I did it twice this weekend. Mike did it once.


JC Jerkson

that does work.i tried that at a retirement home to like 20 old ladies. man was that a wild night
 

SynapsyS

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 6, 2005
Messages
158
Reaction score
0
Age
38
Location
Perth, Australia
Originally posted by hydrocodone
that does work.i tried that at a retirement home to like 20 old ladies. man was that a wild night
You need glasses; old ladies are NOT Cane Toads.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

abbas

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 19, 2003
Messages
40
Reaction score
0
Location
Yurup
Always this ****ty answers here at sosuave.

Of-****ing-course there is a good way to start of kino (that is: safe kino) on girls you don't want to show dedication to in an open way.

Who asked evey guy just registered to answer. Some experienced voices would be appreciated.
 

DJ4Real

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 6, 2005
Messages
942
Reaction score
0
There isn't a such thing as "safe" kino. No matter what kind of kino you do, may develop negative opinion about it.
 

SynapsyS

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 6, 2005
Messages
158
Reaction score
0
Age
38
Location
Perth, Australia
Who asked evey guy just registered to answer. Some experienced voices would be appreciated.
I take that as an insult. But hey, I don't hold grudges ;)

Of course, I didn't actually offer any advice, so it was probably relevant at least.

On what DJ4Real said, there is no "safe" kino. But not for the reason he suggested.

The problem associated with kino is that it works TOO well, especially if you're subconsciously using other techniques as well. All of a sudden, that average looking receptionist is hanging all over you. In this way, kino isn't "safe", so I'd suggest you only practise it on people you're interested in, rather than just random people you aren't necessarily interested in.

Syn.
 

DJ4Real

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 6, 2005
Messages
942
Reaction score
0
Originally posted by SynapsyS
I take that as an insult. But hey, I don't hold grudges ;)

Of course, I didn't actually offer any advice, so it was probably relevant at least.

On what DJ4Real said, there is no "safe" kino. But not for the reason he suggested.

The problem associated with kino is that it works TOO well, especially if you're subconsciously using other techniques as well. All of a sudden, that average looking receptionist is hanging all over you. In this way, kino isn't "safe", so I'd suggest you only practise it on people you're interested in, rather than just random people you aren't necessarily interested in.

Syn.
It can go one way or the other. Either she can love you for the kino, or she could think you are a weirdo.
 

h2o

Banned
Joined
Sep 3, 2004
Messages
930
Reaction score
3
Age
42
Location
welcome to my world
I'm a student, so my experiences are classroom/lab related.

I think actually, it is good to start subtlely, with fingers/hands. When exchanging items from her hands to yours, touch her hand or finger tips...ie, when handling money, writing utensils, etc.

Try getting in their personal space. I mean, stand close to her when talking or interacting, and possibly a bit closer than normal. I think doing this, you can sense if she is comfortable with your close proximity, and if she is, and also gets in your personal space, then it should be a go-ahead to proceed with more kino...such as, lightly touching her upper arm, or etc.

I personally always start small, with finger tips, then to getting in their personal space, and then to hands, then light touches on arms...

The personal space thing may be the best thing to try for you though. Some ideas I'd suggest are...if for example she's standing beside you, reach for something around her, so as to be almost whispering distance. Side to side is pretty good for this, then proceed to face to face really close.

...I think the key is reciprocation. If she is comfortable or is showing interest, she will reciprocate with light touches as well. No need to get too intimate in the classroom (or workplace for you).

that's just imo. and, I think most guys here would not recommend "sh!tting where you work" so to speak, or however the phrase goes ...they suggest you not date women you work with. I personally don't know about work, because I work from home, parttime, so no co-workers and only clients. But, in the classroom/lab when I do this, I usually play it safe a little, starting small like I said, because like you...if you are too bold early on, then you have to deal with the "awkwardness" that you made a move and got rejected, and see her again literally everyday. so be patient with it, and meet other girls elsewhere while you're at this.

cool name btw. i sense that you speak another language besides english.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

abbas

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 19, 2003
Messages
40
Reaction score
0
Location
Yurup
Originally posted by h2o
I'm a student, so my experiences are classroom/lab related.

I think actually, it is good to start subtlely, with fingers/hands. When exchanging items from her hands to yours, touch her hand or finger tips...ie, when handling money, writing utensils, etc.

Try getting in their personal space. I mean, stand close to her when talking or interacting, and possibly a bit closer than normal. I think doing this, you can sense if she is comfortable with your close proximity, and if she is, and also gets in your personal space, then it should be a go-ahead to proceed with more kino...such as, lightly touching her upper arm, or etc.

I personally always start small, with finger tips, then to getting in their personal space, and then to hands, then light touches on arms...

The personal space thing may be the best thing to try for you though. Some ideas I'd suggest are...if for example she's standing beside you, reach for something around her, so as to be almost whispering distance. Side to side is pretty good for this, then proceed to face to face really close.

...I think the key is reciprocation. If she is comfortable or is showing interest, she will reciprocate with light touches as well. No need to get too intimate in the classroom (or workplace for you).

that's just imo. and, I think most guys here would not recommend "sh!tting where you work" so to speak, or however the phrase goes ...they suggest you not date women you work with. I personally don't know about work, because I work from home, parttime, so no co-workers and only clients. But, in the classroom/lab when I do this, I usually play it safe a little, starting small like I said, because like you...if you are too bold early on, then you have to deal with the "awkwardness" that you made a move and got rejected, and see her again literally everyday. so be patient with it, and meet other girls elsewhere while you're at this.

cool name btw. i sense that you speak another language besides english.
Great reply!
 
Top