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[godofanxiety]

HI. I have this problem, namely I hate my body. Well, not completely, I have an okay build, but my willy's nothing to write home about and it has kinda sh!tty shape as well, nothing for medical books just for her mental collection of "ugly d!cks".

So, I'm not comfortable having to take my pants off, whip it out and be alpha as fvck.

I know, I've read all the articles and different opinions of women about the subject and I know none of us has the perfect body, but this sh!it really drives my confidence into the dirt. That translates into other things, like initiative, touching, you name it. Halp

 

[zorg198]

Dude,

If you let woman opinion takes a toll on you than you have inner security issues. you love yourself and you need to be the best as you are.

 

[Desdinova]

All d1cks are ugly. Don't believe me? Do a google image search.

A d1ck is a necessary part of reproduction and she's gonna have to deal with that, regardless of what she things when it comes to what it looks like.

Moved to Anything Else...

 

[princess_124]

HI. I have this problem, namely I hate my body. Well, not completely, I have an okay build, but my willy's nothing to write home about and it has kinda sh!tty shape as well, nothing for medical books just for her mental collection of "ugly d!cks".

So, I'm not comfortable having to take my pants off, whip it out and be alpha as fvck.

I know, I've read all the articles and different opinions of women about the subject and I know none of us has the perfect body, but this sh!it really drives my confidence into the dirt. That translates into other things, like initiative, touching, you name it. Halp

If they really loved you, they wouldn't care about the shape or size of it. If they anything to u , point out their flaws

 

[godofanxiety]

Dude,

If you let woman opinion takes a toll on you than you have inner security issues. you love yourself and you need to be the best as you are.

Thanks man, that makes sense. I need to be the best me, but it's gonna take some effort as I'm not used to loving myself.

@princess_124, we are in stage when it's early to talk about "love". Also, she hasn't seen it yet.

It's weird how men are sort of reduced to that one organ. At least in my mind

 

[Atom Smasher]

Yes, it seems our sexuality focuses right down to that one place. But that's more in our minds than theirs.

OP, is REALLY as bad as you're making it out to be? What do you consider a bad shape? Maybe we can help you look at things differently.

 

[Tictac]

One of the stranger threads I've seen on SS.

If you have functioning 'equipment' and are skilled in its use, who cares?

Women surely will not.

 

[SeymourCake]

Anyone who uses the word "****" as oppose to "penis" is either a) gay, b) a porn addict, or c) both.

 

[godofanxiety]

Yes, it seems our sexuality focuses right down to that one place. But that's more in our minds than theirs.

OP, is REALLY as bad as you're making it out to be? What do you consider a bad shape? Maybe we can help you look at things differently.

No, it's probably not, I never had any complaints or weird looks or anything. but it is kinda rotated, I don't know how to put it .

You're right about our minds being the problem, whenever I have sex it is me doing all kinds of bad thinking, like "what if I'm doing it wrong, am I this am I that, IS IT SHRINKING". Horrible.

It doesn't help that I'm hopefully out of a year long dry streak, I hope I'll remember where to even put it when it comes to that

I think it's time to hit the bible again

 

[godofanxiety]

Anyone who uses the word "****" as oppose to "penis" is either a) gay, b) a porn addict, or c) both.

YOU'RE RIGHT, the **** am I doing with a woman when all I need is gay porn.

your eyes pierce into the heart of the problem

 

[Huffman]

Listen to this.

Have you ever had sex with a woman? If so, you maybe found out that most women's vaginas look weird. If you've ever gone down on women, maybe you also found the taste to be a bit annoying at first.

See what I did there: weird and annoying, but not ugly and horrible. Did that stop you from having sex? No. Rather, you decided you don't mind. That's what women will do with your d1ck.

Also, before you even get it out, she will already have decided that you're going to have sex. It won't stop you from anything, it's just a stupid fear in your head.

 

[Huffman]

Just reread the thread and you say you have performance anxiety. What helped me:

With some women, her orgasm isn't really the primary target, or the angle at which you slam your d1ck... rather she gets off on YOUR pleasure. Be a bit more passionate, breathe hard, moan a little. Damn, if you have to, look at some porn that says "passionate" and see what they do. I find some latino porn can be pretty good.

She wants you to enjoy her, it gives her validation that she is beautiful, desirable and accepted. Once you realize this, you probably will start being alot more dominant along with it - just taking what you want and she will even like it. Wow, how could life be so simple?

So if you have a bad day, you don't last very long, she doesn't orgasm, no problem. Just make sure you enjoy yourself and let her know.

If you feel guilty (or not tired yet), you can still go down on her, she will orgasm sooner or later. Possibly you can do another round after that. And before you know it, it's been over an hour. Boom, you turned the evening around big time.

 

[godofanxiety]

Thanks, Huffman. I will try that route of sort of "selfishness". I do think that she herself has a hangup or two, still she seems interested enough to want to see me often, sexual context or not.

I will try focusing on her body and how it pleases me (instead of how can I please her) and will let you know.

Thanks again, people, it's insane the way I get so locked up in my brain that I can't do ****. I've been recommended various drugs, but for now I'm gonna try the clean route. and even if she loses interest and breaks up, well, a lesson is a lesson.