S.U.R.F.'s "getting rid of fear" journal.

[S.U.R.F.]

Oh hi guys. This is going to be my journal about my progress from average to better.

#STORY

Heres my story. Chode back in highschool, two one-itis's, pretty tough highschool experience. Read alot of seduction material and philosophy, but never really approached women. Haven't had a legitimate conversation with a woman in a long time (last time I talked to a girl one on one, I fingered her in the school bathroom, no brag). That was like 4 months ago. But I realized that I need to take initiative and get more *****es, instead of waiting for them to come.

Hanging alot with my bros this summer, feeling kind of bored. Decided to start cold approaching. But I'm super afraid of rejection (so far)

#STEPS

1. Preparation (DONE).
2. Greeting random people, hot *****es
3. Approach hot *****es, just saying hi
4. I believe VERY MUCH in the ideas of "mode one", so I'll be doing that.

I'm doing this in steps, I'm so far on step 2, so I'm not actually approaching women. Rather, I walk around doing my daily business, and when I see them, I'll try to say hi or smile or something.

Step 2 will be a small intro to rejection. Then step 3 will be even worse, and step 4 will be even even worse. I want to be invulnerable to rejection, just walking to girls that I find attractive with god mode and asking them out, no bull****. Its actually such a rush.

#MOTIVATION

1. Getting rid of my FEARS
2. Sex, as I no longer masturbate
3. Food, as I promised myself I won't eat anything unless I approach 10+ women that day
4. Self control, a man is nothing without self control.
5. Watching my friends piss their lives away, living in fear.

Pleaase provide feedback (veterans), or any comments and criticisms. Thanks, peace and love.

surfie

 

[S.U.R.F.]

Day 1.

Day 1 was yesterday.

I had to volunteer, so while I was doing that, I managed to greet alot of people 15+. The worse people do is just ignore me. I need to raise my voice a little. Rejection isn't too bad. I've already stopped giving a fk as much.

Went to a movie by myself later that night. Cowboys and aliens was 4/5. Um yeah, no one gives a **** about everyone else.

I think after saying "hi" to about 200-300 hot girls, I'll progress to step 3. Or whenever I feel comfortable.

I'm a big fan of dbot's raw approach datas. So when I progress to step 4, I'll be able to see if his data is true.

Um, physical description, asian, 6'1 - 6'2, skinnish, tanned, buzz cut. I dress like ****.


thats all, I'm off to fill my daily quota.

FEARLESSSS

 

[Mr Wright]

Sounds good. But I'd be careful about the whole Mode One thing, its a great concept in theory. But in practice you can throw a lot of the "maybe" girls into the no category but coming on too strong. But i do recommend going Mode One, because its completely fearless, looking at someone you've just met and telling them you want to eff their brains out. Pretty hardcore. Once you go Mode One, you can go back, so go for it, get it out of your system...its fun and you feel untouchable but for me, it just took the magic out of the interactions. It was less "will they, wont they" and more transactional.


Also, i wouldnt quit masturbating, you'll just get horny, really desperate and your standards will plummet to the point where you'll wake up next to something akin to a beach whale. Worst yet she'll probably never leave your house. If sex is a goal, let sex be your goal, dont worry about depriving yourself of an orgasm.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Mode One...I just love it. Keep it up man.

 

[S.U.R.F.]

thanks for the feedback guys,

@Mr Wright, I like mode one because of the fearless thing, I wouldn't mind losing some options. I'm more of a shotgun then a sniper.

I'm definitely quitting porn. I also decided that only way I'm going to orgasm from now on is with sex, no porn. I'm still a virgin. Orgasming from masturbating doesn't feel all that amazing. Its nice, but still. I hope sex will be better. If not, then my only goal is fear conquering.

That been said.

Day 2. Today.

Holy fk, today was terrible. The only female I spoke to was this old lady that looked at me, I managed to say hello.

So I completely did not do my quota. Arghhhh.

On the subway, this cute girl sat next to me. I wanted to say "nice bag", because she had this really ugly yellow bag. Of course, I failed that. ****.

I realized that I've only said hello to people that look at me. If they don't look at me, I would just look at them until they walk away, unable to say anything........

Its a fear of rejection, but its also a habit. The idea of me approaching a hot female stranger is just very "out of my reality" right now. Tomorrow is another ****ing day, will try again. Going to sleep early tonight.

I did the math today. Lets say you're this super ugly bald short guy. If you approach 10 really hot chicks a day. In a years time (say you quit work), that's about 3700 chicks you approached. If you only **** ONE IN A THOUSAND, that's still 3 chicks. In 3 years, that's 14.

Truly, the only reason people don't get laid is themselves. That been said, I understand why people don't approach. Its scary as ****.

The only redeeming thing today is that I went to a tattoo shop to ask about getting a tattoo, by myself. Wasn't as scary as I thought. Then again, approaching women probably isn't that scary either.

NOT FEARLESS

 

[pdx1138]

well, for me getting rid of the fear, was done by dating a lot.

After about 8 dates, I found I was no longer nervous/fearful.

Its become a routine.

 

[S.U.R.F.]

day 3 and day 4.

Sosuave was down. Didn't approach any women these two days . Just hanged out with friends and ****. Smoked last night, so I got absolutely nothing down. Arghh.

Did something really scary on day 3, went to buy condoms. Wasn't all that difficult.

I'm moving to a new city, by myself (I'm 18). That's going to break my comfort zone. Just me, my backpack, a few hundred bucks, and a completely new city. I'll definitely have to talk to strangers then if I want to survive. Student life isn't doing it for me right now, so I quit school (temporarily, maybe).

Have to go buy my train ticket today, or tomorrow.



FEARLESSSS.


EDIT: I get this hallow feeling when I think about women. I feel like there are better **** to do, focus on starting something for myself, a business a hobby or something.

 

[S.U.R.F.]

day 5, 6

haven't actively approached anyone. hanged out with friends.

will keep you guys updated.

leaving for a new city soon, so we'll see then. i might not have enough time to update you guys all the time.

 

[S.U.R.F.]

**** it, i already forgot which day it is. so I'm just going to update.

I actually mode one'd a chick. It was a chick I already knew. I saw her on the bus and talked to her after. I almost pussied out, but then I was like "hey, I got a question". "Wanna ****?". She's like "seriously?" I was like yup. She's like "no". I was like "just wanted to ask you that, now I don't have to talk to you anymore".

I just walked faster. Ok, its not perfect mode one, its far far from perfect, but its my first ****ing step. WOO.

Going to new city tomorrow to experience new things. Ye *****es.

 

[Daman23]

Hey man, I wouldn't quit school dude, you learn a lot about life, girls, your comfort zone, in college, not to mention the backbone for your future. I'm sure being on this forum you've heard it many times but girls should never be your #1 priority. Just my 2cents.