ValiantMale
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Thought I'd give some value to everyone from what I've learned over a decade in the field and 6 years of coaching. I was originally going to make a post about trends I've noticed in the men I've coached which I feel would be an interesting topic but I might save that for later as I think these days on SS there aren't as many coaches as there used to be back i nthe day to relate with/share experiences as a coach.
Anyways, here it goes: Tips for gaming in the field!
Tip #1: If you are day gaming, GO SOLO!. If you are Night Gaming/Clubs/Bars/Parties, always go with friends! Just don't hover around friends who won't benefit your sets!.. Move around, you want to be seen having a blast with your friends, but alone when you approach unless its a multiple person set! Your guys/friends should already be primed at nightlife andk now how to handle the ****blocks, distract the other women. We all take one for the team, in hopes that it is reciprocated in the next set or next time we go out.
Tip #2: No more than 4 drinks the whole night, you don't want to be wasted, just loose enough to let your true confidence shine.
Tip #3: Don't go into interview mode.. Nothing turns off a girl more than boring interview questions about where she's from, what school she went to or goes to, how far she lives from the bar, etc
Tip #4: Stand directly facing her, not perpendicular to her, or side by side. She's not a dude.. Women are receptive to face to face conversations, it's how they talk to close friends, best friends, romantic partners, etc.
Protip/Hack: If you can manage to stand very close to her without it being uncomfortable,t his will trick part of her brain that tells her she knows you well already/or that you guys are alot closer than you are. This is a psychological thing and this is probably the #1 secret of alot of major pickup artist that they will not publish nor share with the dweebs they coach! Thank me later. (if you have to ask what happens if she backs away or he rbody language is uncomfortable, she probably isnt attracted to you-- move on)
Tip #5: Don't be concerned with if she is seeing anyone or has a boyfriend. What I noticed after more than a decade of gaming is in recent times, many women are open to the prospect of sex with a guy they just met, irregardless of whether they have a man at home--and don't like to be reminded that they are in a relationship. The ones tha tare good girls are going to stay at home, so don't worry about ruining a good relationship.. Focus on having fun as it is pivotal to have as much practice as possible both in approach, conversations,and in the bedroom whenbuilding experience.
Tip #6: be consistent. The more you go out and practice, the better you'll get and guess what, you'll develop your own methods.. No two people are the same.. While there are objective fundamentals to game, much of a mans game is going to be unique to him in some way or another.
Tip #7: Lead with sexual confidence.. Intelligence, wit, sharing experiences or building a "character" in her mind can all be important tools, but the sexual confidence is what "available" women are looking for.. They want to have a good romantic time. Most women have already experienced alot of dining out, conversations, flowers, etc from many men--especially if they are attractive. What most men lack is the sexual confidence/passion. Why that is is probably due to alot of shame.. or feeling bad for how society has objectified women for so long or unhealthy diets affecting EQ or performance.
Tip #8: Do not fear a temporary disconnect. Where I saw alot of my clients fail is.. After having an initial good approach, good conversation, them feeling defeated at a woman leaving the set to go back to her friends, or go dance, etc. In some small occasions its good to follow them -- but unless you feel a subtle invitation, its always better to smile and be respectful and also show that you got your own thing going on in this place.. Women like to tease, they like to scour around like cats, before you run into each other again and continue where you left off.. It's almost like a scene in a movie where 2 high value people of the opposite gender meet and go aroudn doing their own thing before meeting again and capitalizing on each others interest.. Movies and programming has alot of affect on women, even moreso than men. Regardless, they also sometimes do this to see if there is any other prospects they may be missing out on before settling on you. No worries, because when you do get tha tdisconnect,it also gives YOU a chance to see if there are better prospects. THat, and you can't also expect a woman to completely ditch her friends to spend the whole night with you. As men, we might do this but we're hardwired a bit differently.
The point is, you should reconnect if it seem worth it, and the 2nd connection is where you both should be a bit more loosened up and things should be more spicy.
Tip #9: If gaming the club, don't go for the number unless you have ha dsome significant impact on her.. Its moot compared to capitalizing the same night. If you leave things for later, chances are she wont even remember who you are or care. At the very least, you should have some level of impact on her-
Tip #10: If she's all sh1t tests, she doesn't see you as higher value than her/does not respect you.. You can choose not to bother or you can prove your worth. Your choice. Girls that have high interest in you won't sh.t test you plain and simple.. But they also will not try to come off as easy or desperate.. so have a bit of discernment, but do not be phased.
Tip #11: The final tip: Always THINK OF THE END GOAL. What I learned in 6 years of coaching men of all walks of life is this: Most men are defeated because they are phased by simple words, actions or lack of actions.. because they forget or don't put emphasis on the end goal: the sex. At the end of the day you are trying to close a deal. You're trying to capitalize on pleasure and accomplishment of reaching the goal of giving her the concentrated attention and satisfaction that women seek, while reaping the confidence, satisfaction and benefits that come with it. The men I've seen who are successful often are unphased by all the little mishaps and jabs and sh.t tests that lead up to their end goal.
Anyways, here it goes: Tips for gaming in the field!
Tip #1: If you are day gaming, GO SOLO!. If you are Night Gaming/Clubs/Bars/Parties, always go with friends! Just don't hover around friends who won't benefit your sets!.. Move around, you want to be seen having a blast with your friends, but alone when you approach unless its a multiple person set! Your guys/friends should already be primed at nightlife andk now how to handle the ****blocks, distract the other women. We all take one for the team, in hopes that it is reciprocated in the next set or next time we go out.
Tip #2: No more than 4 drinks the whole night, you don't want to be wasted, just loose enough to let your true confidence shine.
Tip #3: Don't go into interview mode.. Nothing turns off a girl more than boring interview questions about where she's from, what school she went to or goes to, how far she lives from the bar, etc
Tip #4: Stand directly facing her, not perpendicular to her, or side by side. She's not a dude.. Women are receptive to face to face conversations, it's how they talk to close friends, best friends, romantic partners, etc.
Protip/Hack: If you can manage to stand very close to her without it being uncomfortable,t his will trick part of her brain that tells her she knows you well already/or that you guys are alot closer than you are. This is a psychological thing and this is probably the #1 secret of alot of major pickup artist that they will not publish nor share with the dweebs they coach! Thank me later. (if you have to ask what happens if she backs away or he rbody language is uncomfortable, she probably isnt attracted to you-- move on)
Tip #5: Don't be concerned with if she is seeing anyone or has a boyfriend. What I noticed after more than a decade of gaming is in recent times, many women are open to the prospect of sex with a guy they just met, irregardless of whether they have a man at home--and don't like to be reminded that they are in a relationship. The ones tha tare good girls are going to stay at home, so don't worry about ruining a good relationship.. Focus on having fun as it is pivotal to have as much practice as possible both in approach, conversations,and in the bedroom whenbuilding experience.
Tip #6: be consistent. The more you go out and practice, the better you'll get and guess what, you'll develop your own methods.. No two people are the same.. While there are objective fundamentals to game, much of a mans game is going to be unique to him in some way or another.
Tip #7: Lead with sexual confidence.. Intelligence, wit, sharing experiences or building a "character" in her mind can all be important tools, but the sexual confidence is what "available" women are looking for.. They want to have a good romantic time. Most women have already experienced alot of dining out, conversations, flowers, etc from many men--especially if they are attractive. What most men lack is the sexual confidence/passion. Why that is is probably due to alot of shame.. or feeling bad for how society has objectified women for so long or unhealthy diets affecting EQ or performance.
Tip #8: Do not fear a temporary disconnect. Where I saw alot of my clients fail is.. After having an initial good approach, good conversation, them feeling defeated at a woman leaving the set to go back to her friends, or go dance, etc. In some small occasions its good to follow them -- but unless you feel a subtle invitation, its always better to smile and be respectful and also show that you got your own thing going on in this place.. Women like to tease, they like to scour around like cats, before you run into each other again and continue where you left off.. It's almost like a scene in a movie where 2 high value people of the opposite gender meet and go aroudn doing their own thing before meeting again and capitalizing on each others interest.. Movies and programming has alot of affect on women, even moreso than men. Regardless, they also sometimes do this to see if there is any other prospects they may be missing out on before settling on you. No worries, because when you do get tha tdisconnect,it also gives YOU a chance to see if there are better prospects. THat, and you can't also expect a woman to completely ditch her friends to spend the whole night with you. As men, we might do this but we're hardwired a bit differently.
The point is, you should reconnect if it seem worth it, and the 2nd connection is where you both should be a bit more loosened up and things should be more spicy.
Tip #9: If gaming the club, don't go for the number unless you have ha dsome significant impact on her.. Its moot compared to capitalizing the same night. If you leave things for later, chances are she wont even remember who you are or care. At the very least, you should have some level of impact on her-
Tip #10: If she's all sh1t tests, she doesn't see you as higher value than her/does not respect you.. You can choose not to bother or you can prove your worth. Your choice. Girls that have high interest in you won't sh.t test you plain and simple.. But they also will not try to come off as easy or desperate.. so have a bit of discernment, but do not be phased.
Tip #11: The final tip: Always THINK OF THE END GOAL. What I learned in 6 years of coaching men of all walks of life is this: Most men are defeated because they are phased by simple words, actions or lack of actions.. because they forget or don't put emphasis on the end goal: the sex. At the end of the day you are trying to close a deal. You're trying to capitalize on pleasure and accomplishment of reaching the goal of giving her the concentrated attention and satisfaction that women seek, while reaping the confidence, satisfaction and benefits that come with it. The men I've seen who are successful often are unphased by all the little mishaps and jabs and sh.t tests that lead up to their end goal.
