"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Me and my girlfriend were talking today, and we've been going out about a year. We're 18. It came up that she had run away when she was younger, and I sypathetically said 'oh, that must have been bad, where did you go (as in where)?". She said, 'How dare you ask me that question?", I said "What, it was just a casual question?", she then replied "It's hardly a casual question", then she just stormed off without saying anything"

What do I do? I feel like I should apologise, but ideally just want to leave it, but won't that make things worse, as I don't really feel what I should be sorry for. Should I just apologise, or just leave it a couple of days and see if she calls me (she should eventually), what should I say?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She sounds like a psycho, even for an 18 year old girl. Beware.

And you should have your balls cut off if you apologise for that. That's ridiculous, you did absolutely nothing wrong.
 

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u did nothing wrong.. leave her alone she doesnt know whats going on (psycho problems) so let her come to you first, it might be a week-two weeks,

she will come back and appolize for running off like that, dont contact her remember
 

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she must have a bit of the crazy in her! There is no reason for her to completly blow up like that unless she is very ashamed of what she did. Either way you should get out of her life. Sombody like that is not healthy to be around.

Your Choice, but you did ask.

Peace 'n Beatz
 

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Now I get a text from her saying that 'obviously you're not stupid enough to apologise, unless you meant to be that cruel'.

What do I answer to that, or just ignore her? I'm getting angry now!!!
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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ralf6655 said:
Now I get a text from her saying that 'obviously you're not stupid enough to apologise, unless you meant to be that cruel'.

What do I answer to that, or just ignore her? I'm getting angry now!!!
dont text her nothing, ignore her, she disrespected u like that, by running away, leavin u hanging

trust me, silence is the biggest thing u can do to a girl it will drive her nuts, cnat u see? u didnt talk to her, now shes texting u cuz its gettin to her head.
 

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Tell her that you care about her feelings, and since she brought it up, that you thought that she wanted to talk about it.


If she keeps acting irrational, tell her that you can understand why she ran away because she doesn't seems capable of rationally handling and dealing with her problems.



btw, she's psycho
 

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She ran away to join the circus.

The circus of prostitution!!

Yeah, this is a low quality girl. Keep that in mind, and it should be easy to ignore her.
 

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ralf6655 said:
Shouldn't I just try and sort out the situation?
What are you Dr. Phil? Hell no you shouldn't try to fix her! You are a friend not her Dr.

Ditch her ass and find sombody who will be fun to hang out with not a head case that will only pull you down. Maybe losing you as a freind will wake her dumb ass up!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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listen lets not get harsh,, Ur girl has problems straight up. problems that she needs to deal with by herself, KEY WORD, not with u

so let her deal with it. and let her come to u and and appolize. if she keeps on texting you and bringing u down with negatively stuff such as, "obviously you're not stupid enough to apologise, unless you meant to be that crue"

then keep on ignoring her, silence is the best way to treat ur girl, its the best way to punish them, withdraw all the attention.

and stay clam, she needs to relize what she did was wrong, so just stay low for a while, let she come to u
 

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Just ignore the situation - no need to bring it up. I sense much more storming out for no reason in your future....
 
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