Rule #9. Don't be contained by formula.

[CornbreadFed]

Can yall tell me where this rule came from? I am sick of seeing this rule and many others being ignored by the manosphere. Yall wonder why more men are struggling and more women suck today? Maybe, it just might be you. A true DJ doesn’t need the sun and moon perfectly aligned to get laid. Yes, we all need principles, but if you can’t make grey area decisions you’re handicapping yourself with women.

A good example is the reactions in @BPH’s topic. A lot of guys would have missed a real shot because they let ego get in the way. Every LTR I’ve had ghosted me at some point in the talking phase. **** happens! Also, the first date police are getting ridiculous. Of course you shouldn’t blow a thousand dollars on dinner, but not every date has to feel like a high school hangout either. Sonic, a movie, Applebees, the local canteen…whatever. The date itself isn’t what makes it work.

The point is this:
You don’t need sky high IOIs to get laid.
You don’t need a Bugatti or a six figure job to get laid.
You don’t need to look like Hercules to get laid.
You don’t need a battle plan to get laid.
You don’t need curated OLD pics to get laid.
You don’t need a big city social circle to get laid.

Dating is only as hard as you make it. You can either be a doer or a complainer.

Last, If you’re not having fun with women then you won’t ever be successful with them. I get venting on occasion, but if most of your posts are rage fuel, maybe it’s time to step back, reset, and figure out what’s wrong. Frustration is temporary, bitterness is permanent.

That rule comes from Pook, and I’ll link the cliff notes below. Somewhere along the way, we drifted too far from the fundamentals that actually work, and now we’re drowning in half-baked, heretical nonsense. Time to get back to basics.

Notes from the Book of Pook

Cliff notes- Book of Pook 1. Rejection is better than Regret. When hesitant, always default to action. You are hesitant because things haven't gone the way you want.If you are hesitant, things won't go the way you want. Catch-22 To break this, when hesitant approaching, always default to...

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[Captain Redbeard]

Don't underestimate the power of social media to warp people's perceptions. If all you consume is pill content you'll start thinking that all women are sloots and if you don't have everything perfect you'll never even get a whiff of pvssy (which is a fascinating contradiction).

I agree with the sentiment of this post. Go out, have fun with women, and don't worry so much about every tiny detail. The way I see some people here talk about women, I'm convinced that they don't even want to spend time with women and have sex. The bitterness bleeds through every post.

It all comes back to the idea that there is an "optimal" dating strategy. But what is optimal for you may not be optimal for me.

Taking action will always be the key driver of success.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Can yall tell me where this rule came from? I am sick of seeing this rule and many others being ignored by the manosphere

I share your frustration, hoss, as I'm sure many of us do. Sadly, I suspect it'll continue to be ignored... This is akin to folks continuing to be suckered by martial arts gurus who purport to have discovered by The Unbeatable Fighting System, that'll make you, the practitioner, immune from ever getting your ass handed to you in a brawl

The thought of not always getting exactly what we want all the time CAN be unpleasant, thus we're all highly susceptible to any approach or method which offers us a guarantee that will never again have to experience discomfort

 

[plumber]

You have a point about first date. Just have fun. If your having more fun with her along, then its a win. If your sitting with a calculator deciding if she is costing to much, then she is. Enjoy the ride.