A lot of it is practice and another big factor, GETTING OVER YOUR FEARS. This may actualy come before anything else. If u have fears over girls, drop everything and get over it. I learned that the hard way. If ur afraid to ask a girl out bc youve never done it before, face the fear NOW, do it. You cannot live your life in fear over doing this s.it. Your chances with girls will only start when you are fearless, when u stop obsessing over little bullcrap things like omg she looked at me.
2 weeks ago I hit my breaking point. The girl I thought I asked out to homecomming eneded up making out with some other guy in front of my face allrite. The problem was I followed all these dj rules and bull crap. But I was following the rules like a godamn checklist while doing it in fear. Also, the girl was a cycatic slvt, but thats a totally different story.
Get rid of the fear, and then having more and more options will only bring u up. 2 weeks ago my only option hooked up with a guy infront of my face. Now, I have about 5 options. 1 of witch I hooked up with already and is fukin obsessed with me, but shes kinda below the standards, fukable, but below.
LOL, so I came to realise options by itself are not good enough. You gotta destroy any fear first.
Options+comfort=more success than u wanted