"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Rudy TubeSteak's Bootcamp Journal

Rudy_TubeSteak

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Today is the day I start all over again. (Once again lol). I got a new name (previously Ragin’Asian) and starting bootcamp as well. Well lads don’t worry about the new name…It’s just my fathers name and the other part cracks me up every time it gets mentioned but nonetheless don’t take it seriously or flame me on it. So here we go.

Ive been a member of sosuave.net for a while now…but I’ve been *****footing around and been getting bad results from skipping steps and being too ****y. I admit I’ve made really bad mistakes and judgment which has resulted in less than impressive consistency.

Here is my little background so you all know where I stand progress-wise:
University Life
1.I live on campus which is awesome and there’s always HBs running around
2.There is also an on-campus nightclub which is another goldmine.
3.I study teaching and there are plenty of hot women and cool people.
4.My schedule is fairly loose which means plenty of time sarging and socializing

Social Life
1.Living on college is awesome. All my best friends live with me here. There are also hotties living close by too.
2.The people I live with are probably just as wild as me. We all drink and party a lot. Awesome social proof especially with the other hotties.
3.I also have friends in each college (7 colleges in total) which is also another contributing factor with social proof.

Love/DJ Life
1.I have only had sex with 2 women but nonetheless wild monkey love. These were just random drunken hook ups but the second one turned into a 2 month 5perweek f-buddy thing. No one knows I’ve only slept with 2 women. A lot of people think I’m a manwh*re which is not true but that’s their opinion.
2.I have kiss closed a lot of women (18-27 age group). I prefer the older age group I don’t know why (21-30). Most of the hook ups I’ve had are mainly drunken ones or “just happened” My goal is to get the girls I really desire.
3.I get LJBF’d a LOT!!! It does get really frustrating but if it’s not there then I guess it is not there. But if it is my fault then I will have to work on properly attracting the ones I like.

Pre-Uni Life (High School)
1.I was king kong AFC. I would obsess over a girl who I’ve never even talked to before. I never had a girlfriend in high school or any real female acquaintances. I guess leaving town and starting new has been one of the most crucial times of my life.
2.I was really small, skinny and didn’t really put in real effort in looks, physique and style.
3.My social circle was pretty small, with mainly other AFC friends and no female friends. I struggled to acquire social proof or status. I was merely one of the “familiar faces” I was never popular with many people.
4.I have never kissed anyone in high school (shame lol).

Current Life/Improvements
1.I go to the gym regularly, got good clothes, nice place and basically a good foundation for my little DJ journey.
2.I have a nice car with is convenient if I want to drive to places. I got many things which I’m proud of because I worked very hard to earn them.
3.I’m still an AFC but I have come a very long way from what I used to be.
4.I’m taking up sports, getting fit and bulking up as means of improving myself as well as for enjoyment.
5.Keeping up to date with DJ articles and other DJ-related books.

Goals
1.Eliminate fear, low confidence, self esteem issues and self-doubt
2.Unleash my fun, creative and powerful self which have been buried for a long while.
3.Create an awesome social circle, status and proof for myself but not for anyone’s validation or expectation
4.Be a man…Be a real man, none of this tailor made b*ll**** created by society, media and feminist eras.
5.Excel at everything I want. No excuses. No whining. No time limits but no wasting time either. Make the most out of everything. Make a name for myself. My father died when he was only 37 of a massive heart attack. He was an active man and also a basketball coach. I was only 4 when he died. I have the same heart abnormality so that means I could go leg up anytime. Could happen in 1 or 10 years.
6.Find my passions and enjoy them fully. Find the right woman and let her enjoy my passions and hobbies. If she doesn’t like it or gets in the way she is welcome to leave any time.


Anyway guys I better update you with the first day of my bootcamp…I’ll also try to set up my msn space so you can view pictures and stuff.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Week 1 Day 1

Woke up late today but wasn’t really planning on doing anything in the morning. I’m on lecture recess so I have a full week off but I’ll try to get something productive done.

Started the day by going to gym and then straight to library to meet people. I’m not going to rate/classify girls like HB7.9832 because I personally think it’s a waste of time and putting them on a pedestal. I either go for it or not, 1 or a 0. Hot or not.

I was searching for a book and thought this girl next to me looked familiar so I made a little convo with her. There wasn’t much in it so it stayed that way. I also said hi to another hippie looking girl and asked to borrow her pen. I made small talk with other girls in the library but I already knew them and just saying hi. They don’t really count because my aim is to approach strangers. The next girl was studying in a little booth and looked up when I walked past. I then came over to ask for the time and made my exit because I needed to be somewhere else. She was pretty hot but she looked busy and was on the phone to someone previously who sounded like her bf. On checking my books out I noticed this girl behind who may be in one of my classes so I had chat with her. For some unknown reason I didn’t feel all that confident or smooth today at the library. Maybe because I wasted half the day or the whole bootcamp thing just made it all different.

I could have easily chatted some girls at the bus stop on my way home but was cut for time so I just walked straight passed.

I drove into town to get some food and stuff and to also just get out into the setting. I was mainly scoping out the place and trying to get eye contact. I talked to a polish exchange student on the cue but had to cut it short because she had to go. I also made conversation with the checkout chic rather than just stand there like a stun mullet. There was a lot of hotties around but found out later on they were shopping with their partners. I was only meant to be there for a short time….now I’ve bought only a few things but stayed there for a bloody long time.

Overall I managed to chat to 6 girls…the way I did it I wish I did better eye contact and quality conversation rather than just mumbles. I’m usually good at this but it’s good to know what I’ve done wrong so I can correct it later on. Also I should really aim for girls who aren’t busy so I can actually do a better approach.

My aim the next day??

I want to go to the gym again then walk around uni campus and also head to the library. This time I’ll have to fix my body language up a bit and try to get quality eye contact with girls. I’ll also have to give great eye contact and smile more when talking to girls. Might even get a number or two hehe.

Tomorrow night is also dollar drinks at the clubs so I’ll will see how things go ill update and let you all know.

Approaches: 6
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 0
 

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Week 1 Day 2: Dollar Drinks

I did the usual gym then library routine but only managed to do one cold approach. I talked to a few people but I already knew them from before so they don’t count. The girl I talked to have a hot tight body but the face let it down lol but still I’d hook up with her in the right context. She was busy with work and so was I so we only fluff talked for a little bit.

At the gym there were 2 hotties but didn’t get around to talking to them. Both of them were giving me good eye contact but my routine and their routine made things a bit awkward and opening them would be hard. Next time I will just have to go for it by getting close and smiling and saying hi. So I just concentrated on my thing and finished up to go home.

Damn, having a little nap before going into town sure do spice things up a bit. I took an energy drink before clubbing just to get that little kick also. So I went out with a lot of friends but I always manage to break off and do my own socializing. I managed to chat up this girl next to me and she was a hot number. She knew a few of my friends so I thought I better approach others.

I saw this little hot blonde walk in the club and immediately had great eye contact and waved to each other. I knew this girl from before but never talked to each properly. I’ve been introduced to her but that was only it. But we always give each other eye contact and smile. So when she walked passed me later on, I just stopped her and talked to each and introduced myself again. We only talked for a couple of minutes then I invited her to dance and we just went for it. I was mirroring her movements on the dancefloor, so like we were dancing off the same beat. I was doing my own moves and she was doing hers, and only doing eye contact when she was staring into my eyes. Then after one song I placed my hands around her hips and began to get a little closer. So yea I started to brush my side of my face onto hers and that initiated our very nice make out session. We danced a little bit more before I told her I was thirsty and I want to get a drink. We kissed a little bit more then parted ways because we wanted to chill out with our own friends.

I kissed her everytime we bumped into each other which was very nice. Then I said goodbye to her when my group moved to a different club.

Then I was chatting with this drunken American exchange student and she kept grabbing everyones ass to start off her little own tight butt contest. I think she mentioned she liked my butt the most. She lives on my college so I just invited her over to my place.

We both fooled around for a couple of hours minus our clothes. Then I slipped on a condom and arrrgh I was way too drunk. Lesson #1: Don’t get too drunk or else you might not be able to get your wang hard. Lol it is like playing pool with a length of rope. So I decided to give up…and mention that this is a mistake because we were both way too drunk lol.

So yea overall this was a pretty good night. I would have liked to have approached more girls sober but it was impossible in that situation. I learnt a couple things which will be handy in the future.

Approaches: 2
Total Approaches: 8
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 2
 

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Originally posted by Rudy_TubeSteak
I’m not going to rate/classify girls like HB7.9832 because I personally think it’s a waste of time and putting them on a pedestal. I either go for it or not, 1 or a 0. Hot or not.
Great idea. I hate it when I automatically would put them on a pedestal by rating them. A simple yes, no, go! Would be best. I'll incorporate that next time I go out to do BC.
 

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The_Shezzler

The conversation I had with the checkout girl was very brief. It would have lasted about 15 seconds until i gathered my shopping and made my exit. Also she looks like shes still in high school, wrong age group.

We just talked about how her day was, her name and so on. Just the normal polite and courteous thing to do expected from a gentleman like me :)

Yea man Ill try include what exactly I say in my conversations with girls but I'm just trying to complete week 1 to get my approaches down pat.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Week 1 Day 3: The Aftermath

Damn I was so drunk the previous day. I couldn’t sleep because the girl I took home kept bumping me. But she was naked and very warm so that was pretty nice. I had to go drive elsewhere but I thought I was still over the limit. Silly play.

I didn’t get to do any approaches because I was feeling like I was used as a saddle. Plus, I had other things to do that clashed with my time. I was going to chat up the assistant at the chiropractors (I made a post about her in my previous handle) but decided I’m next’ing her because she made it clear she wasn’t interested because she didn’t return phone calls. And I’m not interested in people who are a waste of time. Life goes on. I’m moving on. Keep on sarging.

By the time I got home at lunchtime I was really exhausted. The girl I took home was still sleeping in my bed lol. So I decided I give her cuddle and kisses. That was nice. After lunch I slept until dinner time. Total waste of a day.

At night I nearly slept in her bed because I got high, something I kind of regret. I was in clingy/needy/couple territory. I didn’t want to. My head was spinning out of control and all my senses were spat out in the process. I was kissing her that night and it kind of felt really weird. So I left to go back to my room. I don’t want to hook up with this girl anymore. It’s finished. She is a bit bent and I would not be respecting myself if I keep on doing things with her. Plus she needs to get her bra that she left at my place.

Lesson #2: If you live on college, do not see the girl you hooked up with the following day. Even if you think you will be bumping into her please avoid her at all cost. It doesn’t matter if you like her or not, you will be giving her the gift of missing you. If you do see her it sends a message that you are clingy and haven’t got anything productive to do. Also it makes things really weird. But if you do bump into her, make it very brief but not make it obvious that you are avoiding her.

Approaches: 0
Total Approaches: 8
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 1
 

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Week 1 Day 4: The NightRider

Man I still feel worse for wear. Woke up pretty late and wasted half the day already. Instead of approaching girls I went out fishing with a friend of mine but didn’t catch anything. Oh well.

The night rolls in and I was pumped to go out. I feel a natural high coming in. I was a part of this college competition at the uni club. It was a paper, scissors rock promotion competition. And guess what, I won the M*therf*cker. The prize? Free drinks for me and my friends. Also a keg was part of the deal for the end of the semester so I was stoked as. Needless to say, that buzz it gave me stayed on for the whole night.

I was so pumped up and opening girls left, right and centre. I must have managed to talk to about 20 girls that night. There was also this other girl who I met at the races who was apparent digging me but I was out and about that I didn’t get to spend much time with her. I’m going to try and DJ on her next time I see her. Overall I would count about 8 new girls (the ones I can remember now) who I approached last night. I don’t do number closes at night nowadays. I meet pretty much the same people around all the time and if I try get their number or contact details it ruins the mystery or spontaneity that I may just rock up at the same joint. One friend told me that one of her friends was so excited just to see me out although I’ve only met her once before. Now I know she will be out again in a few days so I held off asking her phone number. She will see me again and she may get lucky if she plays her cards right.

And yes, my stupid ass got so drunk again so I didn’t pick up at all…but who cares I had the time of my life. I won stuff and was on a natural high. I could have easily picked up a couple of girls last night. I had the best juvenile fun in a long time. It’s good to have one of those nights once in a while.

Lesson #3: If you live on college and see the same people around (at the clubs or any social setting), don’t get their phone numbers until you’ve actually had some kind of action with them or if there’s a very real attraction present. I’ve kissed some girls who never knew my number and it gets them excited the next time I bump into them (1 or 2 times a week). Then we exchange numbers at that point. It just gives the impression that you are always busy and that when they bump into you, it’s like a special treat for them.

Also at this stage of the bootcamp I am very prone to oneitis or putting girls up on a pedestal. So needless to say if I have the girl’s number then I am more likely to get tempted to think way too much about what to say to her on the phone or get tempted to ring her more times than I should. So by not having her number I can go on about my normal daily thing and go on sarging more girls. Easy?

Oh and also let me repeat this:
Lesson #1: Don’t get too drunk!!! You might not be able to perform when you’ve had a lot to drink. Hell it’s easy to approach and open girls but that’s as far as you can go…Unless you are one of those males who can get absolutely wasted yet not incapacitated when it comes to DJing.

Approaches: 8
Total Approaches: 16
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 0
 
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There is not a lot of approaches done at the moment because we are on holidays. Uni starts back on monday so hopefully there will be more people out and about. I am also running low on cash which is a bummer.

Right now I'm just concentrating on studies and perhaps more DJ reading. Next week should be more action packed.
 

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Week 1 Day 5: Waaay too busy. (Friday to Tuesday)

Man this is a bummer. I haven’t been out approaching at all for a few days. I’ve been busy with assignments and studying for tests it puts me out doing all the things I wanted. I did go out on Saturday but it wasn’t that special. I did make 2 approaches though but there was nothing special about them. Maybe it’s my limiting beliefs telling me that I am not going to have any luck at all tonight. But at least my conversation skills have been a little bit better and more playful. That’s my style and I have fun doing it.

Maybe I went really well but didn’t capitalize so I have this week to make up for it. I want to concentrate on myself so I can improve my inner states. Here’s what I’m doing now:

*Smiling ALL the time
*Going to the gym more times than usual
*Less drinking for now
*Studying hard. The feeling of doing very well gives me a natural high. So I’ll try keep this up for as long as I can.

So far so good. My states have been on the positives. One of my setbacks has been my extreme rollercoaster ride of emotional states. Some days I feel like king kong ain’t got sh*t on me and some days everything I touch turns into turd. I plan to turn this around.

Hell yea I’ve just ordered “The Art of Attraction by Robert Greene” and “Way of the Superior Man by David Deida” so I can’t wait to give them a read to further equip myself.

Although I’ve only completed 2 approaches I know for sure that my personality skills have improved. I’m funnier, playful, and cheeky and generally mean in a C&F way

Wednesday (tomorrow) I plan to have a fresh new day. This is what I aim to complete:
*5 Approaches
*As much eye contact as possible to strangers as well as people I already know
*Be nice and charming to all the girls in classes
*3 Phone numbers

If I can’t do this then I have to think of a reward or something I like that I can hold off until I complete my little goal for the day.

Approaches: 2
Total Approaches: 10
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 0
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Week 1 Day 6: The Prelude to a Big ONE.

I have a pub crawl to go to this Friday and I’m going as G.I. Joe. I’m pretty excited about it and today is costume shopping day!!! I go out driving with a friend to look for stuff as well as approach girls. I managed to chat up 3 girls and they were girls who work behind counters. For one day of going to places this was a slack effort. Not happy

Thursday night clubnite is probably one of the biggest nights of the week for partying. It is just close by to where I live so that makes it even better. As usual I enjoy drinking with my friends and a friend from home came up to visit me so most of the night I was with him and another friend. He is probably one of the most AFC person I’ve ever come across. He won’t talk to girls because of the fact that he doesn’t know any of them. So I slap him on the head. I said well do you really think I know all these people here? So I show him how to initiate conversation like this.

Also that night I ran into a dirty ex-FB I used to see a lot. I rang her up to see her but decided to turn her down because it felt a little weird. Plus I want new girls not get bogged down with girls from my past with strings attached.

Approach A
RT: Whoa look out!!! (As I stick my ass out to girls who I think is cute. If the slap me ass then it’s on) Watch where you are going (From there the girls actually open me. It is better that you do this with a few friends alongside as social proof otherwise it will look weird.)
HBs: Hey haven’t I seen you around somewhere. Don’t you study this…..etc. (She and her friend talk to me which is a bonus but I didn’t close in on them because we were going different ways)

Approach B
RT: Hey aren’t you American? You have that American look I can tell.
HB: Um yea I am. (She introduces her name but I forgot already. She looks really uptight and *****y. But it’s not my problem she ain’t having fun like I am so I move on)

Approach C
RT: (Playfully kicks her on the shin). So how do you know my mate here?
HB: Aww you hit me…Yea I live in the same house as him. (Blah Blah Blah usual who where what convo. I keep on playfully hitting her at closing time but it was all awkward as everyone was hitting on her but if had more time it could have been way better. She looked like was enjoying the little play around we are having.)

Approach D
RT: Whoa what’s in the bag? Have you got a gun in there? (Then I poke through her bag pretending to be looking for a gun)
HB: Yup I have a gun in there. I’m going to shoot you. (In a playful tone. Then we have a little convo and bumped into each other again and have some more fluff chat. I also had a conversation with her other 2 friends.)

Total approaches? About 7 but still no action or numbers but that wasn’t my objective. I was merely showing a friend how easy it to initiate conversation. I hoped in changed the way he sees things. He is always on death row, sitting on the outside looking in hoping one girl would just approach him. That is a load of bull**** but I myself used to do that in the extreme AFC days. It feels good knowing all this things and knowing the difference between AFC and DJ behaviour. Now all that needs to be done is putting it into play.

Approaches: 7
Total Approaches: 17
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 0
 
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Week 1 Day 7: The SuperHeroes Pub Crawl and Weekend

It’s put crawl BABY!!! I look so damn hot in my silly G.I. Joe costume. Everyone is in their costumes as well. Even hotties are putting on stupid looking costumes. Theres about 90 people in the whole even. I was having way too much fun to be getting distracted and couldn’t less about approaching. There are already enough hotties that I already know in the pub crawl so all I need to do is work on the ones I already know…So all in all the approach count is still zero on this night because I’m only counting the cold approaches.

There is not much I could write about pub crawl. Apart from I took Spider Woman home to some wild monkey love until sunrise. There is a post by Jariel about how simple it is to work your magic…What happened tonight was the Natural Game in full flight but the problem is it only comes out WHEN it feels like it or when the time is right. Its so simple I can’t even write much about it. Don’t you hate it when you try to replicate how you succeeded only to say “Oh ****!!! It just kind of happened I don’t know what I did!!!I can’t remember how I did it”

The best thing is that when I kissed her I saw other girls looking a bit dirty on me. Does that mean they were digging me before hand and just didn’t do anything about it? I know one girl I’m friends with looked shutdown when I kissed Spider Woman right in front of her. Perhaps I should have gone for her but then again I can put her on the backburner.

My value and skills has gone up a fair bit but I just need to make things count. Inconsistency is my own worst enemy. Way too many things got away and lost it forever.

Approaches: 0
Total Approaches: 17
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 1 (Yup it was full of action alright!)
 

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Week 1 Day 8: The Downside

Damn I feel so bummed out. I feel sick in the stomach as well. But I got egged on to go into town again with this silly friend of mind. He is another desperate AFC but I have to say he’s got balls for approaching every fat chick he could find. I could have hooked up with a girl he was interested in but I have my own code and will never hook up with friend’s interests. This night was only just a quiet one out in the clubs but I still managed to chat to 4 new girls and they were very hot yet clearly taken by other guys.

Also I got violated by 2 drunken cougars when I went to this club full of older people. One was hot but I wasn’t drunk enough and she was clearly very rough and lacks the certain feminine finesse I find attractive in women. Next!!!

I went home and spend a little time with “Spider Woman” who I previously hooked up before. We just kissed and I wasn’t prepared to have sex with her because we were both tired.

The next night was my favourite rugby team’s grand final game. Unfortunately they lost and I felt like **** the whole night which affected my internal states and I just wanted to go to bed.

Approaches: 4
Total Approaches: 21
Numbers: 0
Dates: 0
Action: 1
 
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