"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Routine concept here, but I could use a little insight

The Comeback Kid

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Hey guys - it's been awhile since I've been on the board(s) here, but I need your help/insight on a new situation. So far at college, things are going well, I'm meeting many of the ladies, everything is great. However, I have my eye on one girl, but am unsure the best way to go about it...

...My roommate and a few of my other friends on my floor know a small group of girls, all of whom are attractive. I'm friends with these guys, but not best friends; I go out to parties with other people (one of my best friends back home and a couple other people we both know), but we do eat together in the dining hall, etc.

While my friends on the floor know the girls decently well (they all go to the same school at our University), I just met them a couple weeks ago, and have only seen them a couple times - usually at parties, or somewhere on my floor just chillin' when I get back.

One of these girls, in my opinion, looks really attractive. I've seen this girl a few times, but not a whole lot has happened each time. The first time, they were chilling in my room when I got back, and I met her. The second time, she ran into me at Late Night (snack place in the dorm, where people go after parties) and my friends and I (friends who I went out with) sat with her, the third time I said "hey what's up?" at a party - she seemed happy I was there, but she had a few girl friends there, none of my friends were around to play wingman, and it seemed a few guys were trying to hit on her at the same time. And then last night, she was one of the girls chillin' on my floor when I got back.

Just some notes from each time (perhaps over-thinking, but maybe clues too):
1st meeting - nothing happened lol...we just met
2nd meeting - When I saw her at Late Night, she seemed happy to see me (maybe just because it was the night after I first met her), we had a little hug, and then I sat with her for Late Night. The interesting note here is that I saw her friend at the party I was at, and her friend texted this girl saying that she saw me there.
3rd meeting - I didn't really say anything to them at the party I saw them at, but apparently they saw me enough to text one of my friends on my floor saying they saw me (my friend says she had a smiley face in there too, but I'll believe that when I see it lol). I saw her later that night at Late Night, but she sat with her best friend, while I had to keep my buddy from passing out into his food lol.
4th meeting - Not a whole lot happened here, but I did see her, and we did share some eye contact. I said hey, what's up, etc. My friends on the floor were talking about a sports video game and how good they each were, then I chimed in that I'd beat anyone in Madden (I'm pretty good at the game), and the girl joins the convo and says to me "Well, I'll beat you" with a little smirk. I let her know she's welcome to play me if I bring the game up to school . My roommie said later that the girls said things about me that were good, but he's not allowed to tell me what they said...he's probably just joking.

That's everything I can tell you from the experiences of seeing her. I figure there were no real "signs" here, but it can't hurt to write them here anyway. The thing is though, I can't tell any of the friends on my floor I'm kinda "into her." Luckily, they all find a different girl most attractive, but if they know I'm into this girl, chaos occurs (from past experiences).

So, what's my next move? I can't really consult with my friends on the floor quite yet (remember - they know the girls well more than I do), I don't know her all that well, I don't really see her during the week (so it's tough to isolate her), and I don't like talking to girls online...what should I do?

As always, help is appreciated. :up:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mayfly

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Just ask her out to coffee or go rock climbing if your school gym has it. Simple. Take initiative.
 

The Comeback Kid

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Mayfly said:
Just ask her out to coffee or go rock climbing if your school gym has it. Simple. Take initiative.
I hear ya - that probably is the best thing to do.

The reason I feel I can't make the move right now is because I don't really know her that well. We've only seen each other weekend nights after parties. For some reason, I think knowing her just a little bit more would help if I was to ask her out. The obvious tip here would be "so find a way to see her more," but I barely ever see her during the week (though she lives nearby).

And not that it really matters, but if she was to say no, I wouldn't hear the end of it from my friends on the floor, and everytime this girland her friends would come by the floor, I'd have to see them and it would be a little awkward.
 

JDA70

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Do you want her? Of course you do.
So don't let any of that smack talk
from your friends bother you if she says no.
Don't let others control you like that.
If they talk some BS just put it back in their face
by saying hey at least I tried what did you do?

Now when you see her no matter whats going on
ask her for her cell phone number.

How you get to know her better is by getting
her number and setting something up.

Don't wait around, just do it.
 
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