"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Round 2 Possible?

NewAndImproved

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Last semester (6-7 months ago) I found out through a friend that this girl dug me. We had a class together previously and had some brief exchanges that I thought were awkward so I was kinda surprised. Plus, usually I can just tell. She's about a 7, studious, pretty shy so I swooped on in and had her back in her room the Saturday night after I found out this info. We briefly watched a movie, made out and then I left...This was back in the old days when my mind couldn't even conceive of going futher than that, lol. But I figured I'd have another chance. Called her a few times being completely direct but she kept coming up with excuses...I ignored her and of course a week later she called me asking if I was going to our mutual friend's party. I continued with the gaming there but then she started floating around, flirting with other guys. I then met this dude who apparently had been blown off by her too. He started saying all these things about her and in my drunken state I let it get to me. I called her out and she was basically like "it's the end of the year, I just want to have fun." I said ok and I thought we left on good terms.

This year, I bumped into her a few times early on but never stayed too long. We crossed paths at a party and I started negging her and her friend but when I ejected to meet up w/a girl who never played any games with me, she seemed pretty disappointed. Since then I've just been negging her whenever I see her, really as a confidence booster to start the night. I'm a shy guy so it helps, especially when she starts whispering to her friends afterward (IOI?). But now I'm wondering if it's time/possible/worth it to make a move again? Or does she just see me as I now see her--a confidence booster?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Comeback Kid

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She sounds like a tease. Back in high school, I know a girl who acted as if she really liked me, and then poof! She disappeared. This cycle repeated itself, and since this was in my high school AFC days, I did not know what to do. The correct thing to do then would have been to cut her off and not play her games.

As for your situation...proceed with caution, and try to get to know other girls (as Relationship-Buddy said). She didn't seem relationship-minded when she said she "just wanted to have fun," but at the same time you can never really know for sure. See what happens the next time or two you see her, and go with your gut (either make a move or move on...don't stall).
 
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