"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Rough Starts

flint

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Alright, so I'm not going to get too much into this too much but for the past month I've really started trying to get back into this game.

I've been approaching every week, and I've gotten a number every week for the past 4 weeks. I'm completely aware that 1 number a week is not strong and that its a numbers game and this needs to jump up to like 10 a week. But I have to say my confidence is not going up from this. Out of the 4 numbers I've gotten 2 were fake, 1 I left a message and she never called back, and 1 I called tonight, she hung up, and sent me a text apologizing that she hung up but that she just wasn't interested.

The point is that its starting to feel like I'm going to be getting burned a lot and it sort of sucks.

Also I'm only 5 feet tall, and I've always told myself I couldn't date anyone because I was too short. And all of the numbers I got felt like I did pretty well but I guess not. So now I'm doubting myself.

Basically I'm just ranting but I'm wondering if any of you guys were off to a rough start before you started getting good at this and have any advice for me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Masculinity

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flint said:
Out of the 4 numbers I've gotten 2 were fake, 1 I left a message and she never called back, and 1 I called tonight, she hung up, and sent me a text apologizing that she hung up but that she just wasn't interested.

Also I'm only 5 feet tall, and I've always told myself I couldn't date anyone because I was too short. And all of the numbers I got felt like I did pretty well but I guess not. So now I'm doubting myself.
You're being too harsh on yourself. Girls will be girls and they will give out fake numbers, do stupid nonsense, back-stab friends, get jealous, hate players, and al that other bs they do--they aren't going to stop and this isn't about you.

You are shorter than average, so what? It is only a negative thing if you let it become a negative thing. Women can smell insecurities and low self esteem from a mile away. When you are doubting yourself consider the following: Have all man who are short failed with women? If you are short, it is probably a genetic predisposition from your parents. Your parents mated successfully and I'm assuming one is fairly short.

Napoleon was shorter than you and he made wonders. What makes you think you're incapable of doing things? Sure, we all have bad days or bad phases, even Mistery gets rejected. It is the ability to bounce back and get back on your feet that makes you golden. They are just women, you should be way more important to yourself.
 

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Some short men can do very well with women. It's as if their insecurity (feelings of inferiority about their size) makes them try harder; kinda like a superiority complex - different side of the same coin.
 

vatoloco

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Dude, I'm not gonna lie. At 5', it's gonna be tough. But you're gonna have to close many women. You're gonna get rejected. But you're also gonna score. It's all a numbers game.

In my experience, I have seen short guys with women... but they're jacked. They're in very good shape. They're usually with women at or just below their height. If you work out and get in good shape, your odds will be better.

Plus improve your attitude.
 

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The less attractive you are the more game you have to actually spit buddy. Just keep reading the DJ bible and don't let the rejections sweat you, Just keep doing what you do.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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