"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Root Cause to AFC Behaviour

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Root Cause to AFC / Overly Nice Behaviour - in an existing relation ship (resulting in you gettin dumped)

Most of you would be able to relate to this little transitional phenomena that occurs in a relationship when you are conscious that you are turning into AFC mode but can't stop it..can't control it...or don't want to control it.

You want to do all the nice things.


In Reality.

Your gut has told you that it's over...but you don't want to believe it.
Cause you can't accept rejection.

So here your mind plas little tricks on you to convince yourself that "No it's not rejection...may be she's just mad at something else..."
"Let me try to please her...let me bring her gifts..."


LETTING GO is the answer. Accpeting the defeat of your EGO is the answer.

"You are not special. You are not Beautiful. We are all singing all dancing crap of the world."
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The root cause is FEAR.

False
Expectations
Appearing
Real
 
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The desire for acceptance is the root cause of AFC behavior.
 
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Almost everyone i know tries to "justify" their mistakes and to present them as something right or unavoidable. Accepting failure (generally) is a very painful process but it has to be done. I recently had to do it and it was very depressing. Also, when your self esteem drops, it's hard to think logically and you really have to make an effort to keep yourself from doing something stupid.

Two great pieces of advice:

- No matter how far the wrong path you've been turn back NOW.

- We are the sum of our habits. Do not postpone a positive change.
 
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