"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Root Cause to AFC Behaviour

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Root Cause to AFC / Overly Nice Behaviour - in an existing relation ship (resulting in you gettin dumped)

Most of you would be able to relate to this little transitional phenomena that occurs in a relationship when you are conscious that you are turning into AFC mode but can't stop it..can't control it...or don't want to control it.

You want to do all the nice things.


In Reality.

Your gut has told you that it's over...but you don't want to believe it.
Cause you can't accept rejection.

So here your mind plas little tricks on you to convince yourself that "No it's not rejection...may be she's just mad at something else..."
"Let me try to please her...let me bring her gifts..."


LETTING GO is the answer. Accpeting the defeat of your EGO is the answer.

"You are not special. You are not Beautiful. We are all singing all dancing crap of the world."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The root cause is FEAR.

False
Expectations
Appearing
Real
 
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The desire for acceptance is the root cause of AFC behavior.
 
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Almost everyone i know tries to "justify" their mistakes and to present them as something right or unavoidable. Accepting failure (generally) is a very painful process but it has to be done. I recently had to do it and it was very depressing. Also, when your self esteem drops, it's hard to think logically and you really have to make an effort to keep yourself from doing something stupid.

Two great pieces of advice:

- No matter how far the wrong path you've been turn back NOW.

- We are the sum of our habits. Do not postpone a positive change.
 
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