"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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roommate dilemma: pt.2

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I really, REALLY want to **** my roommate now. She's driving me nuts! She won't keep her hands off me, and I'm becoming more and more awkward. Not good.

I've written about this before, so in short:

I've known her for about 8 years, but didn't become interested in her until 3 years ago. We messed around a little, but she always told me I was just a "friend", despite making out with me a bunch of times, and getting jealous if I talked to other girls. A year and a half ago we had sex ONCE, but because we were so drunk/high/tired/stupid when it happened, it was ****ing bad. Which begat an awkward aftermath. A couple days later she told me she wanted to continue being "friends", because it "wasn't the right time". Or something. I said "No way, Jose!", and a bunch of stuff happened after that. We ended up not talking for a year.

Recently we decided it would be smart if we lived together.

As far as the roommate aspect, I couldn't ask for better. As far as me wanting a rematch, we have a problem.

Tonight, for instance. We were sitting around talking to the other roommates, and the topic of them being a little quieter when they have sex came up. Again, she brought up how she's not getting any, and hasn't for like the last 4 or 5 months. While she was talking to them, she was gripping my finger in her hand. She turns almost everything she says into some sort of sexual double entendre.

Me: I fixed the curtain rod, but I could't get the screw all the way in.
Her: You have a problem with that, don't you?
Me: :confused:
Her: Getting screws all the way in.
Me: :rolleyes:

And she doesn't stop with the touching. Grabbing my arm. Putting her feet on my lap. Pinching my cheeks. Grabbing my fingers. Smacking my leg. Yup. I keep catching her looking at me too.

But tonight ended much like every other night recently, with me barely reciprocating, then zoning out in contemplation as she tells me that she's going to bed.

If we weren't roommates, I'd be all over this. I tried spinning more plates, but I just don't want anyone else. Last friday I went out with these two South American girls. One was hot. The other, not as hot, but entertaining. I spent the entire night thinking about my roommate, and ended up getting stupid drunk.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are you saying that she slept with your other roommate?

edit: I just read the last reply in your other thread and I think you should run as far away as you can from this broad, even move out of her house.

You need options my friend.
 
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you two decided it would be smart if you moved in together??? WRONG.

not so smart. listen,

you said you guys "shagged" before and it was horrible. it was a storm aftermath following this event and didnt talk for a year.

now you are contemplating on doing this again?? and you live together now so there is nowhere to run if this hits the fan.

mac is right, you need options. and dont take that as a stab. but this would ileviate this feeling you have.

both you and your roomate are feeling the same way. she doesnt want YOU. she wants to get laid. and you just happen to be the Penis in the next room. dont sabotage your relationship and other relationships that may potentially happen if you bring someone to the house.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Guys! I KNOW this is a bad idea. But like most bad ideas, it's just too difficult to resist.

How do I do it? I've been talking to other girls, some from the past, some new, and I'm not interested. It feels like I'm forcing myself to get her off of my mind, because basically I am.
 
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Ok, I'm awfully similar to you. So my only advice will be to game her like any other women. Use social proof, make her jealous, let her know that your going on other dates, remember you are the prize.

Make her come to you, however you need to be a man when your around her, be affirmative, be strong, be manly, take control.

When you do make the move, take control, lead etc...
 
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