"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Novice1

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An army officer, eh?

6 year army vet here.

Shout out to you on your path :up:



Ok, before we begin to discuss strategies...what are your current relationship goals?

Are you looking for a long-term romantic partner? (girlfriend, wife).

Or something casual with no long-term monogamous commits (friends with benefits?).
i want casuals, will commit 100% of my 20s on this dream of mine.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cheeky_James

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Brother im 8(smv), I'm mascular and 5'8
I just saw your pic.
Hmmmm I think you are over-rating your smv honestly. Sorry dude,
At 5’8 tall with your face and physique of the pic ..
Idk .. 6-7 honestly I reckon.
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there’s a guy online Scotty GLL - check out his YT channel, his image and infield pickup videos.

He’s was/is a weightlifter afaik and has tattoos.

also read some stuff by 60YOC and especially his advice on “risking sleazy” with women.

I think a BadBoy makeover would be a good idea for you. Just my 2c.
This is Scotty.
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Cheeky_James

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just got my haircut (taper fade), my testosterone is oozing hahahahaha
Have the hair high on top to give more height …
I edited last post and added pics of this Scotty guy fyi
He’s slimmed down these days. He used to be a tank back in the old days w the bodybuilder physique.
 
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