Roly's Bootcamp journal

[Roly]

Approaching sessions log # 3

" Nothing in life is to be feared, it is to be understood." - Marie Curie



State of mind: Shaky and tired.


I approached this girl in my Media Tech class today, she was just new and came back in. Let's call her nice, pretty catholic girl. I sat down next to her and she was scribbling on some paper. I don't really remember how the conversation went, but she seems like a nice girl we had a casual conversation and talked about things like food and sports. She had a nice, light sense of humor, I can tell she was into me but then again she was qualifying me at the sametime by asking me about what religion I'm in. I told her I was a buddhist in a jokingly tone and she wasn't digging it and gave me that serious face. Then she went on and talked about her ex boyfriend and her freakin experiences, I tried to change the freakin subject right away and then what really freaked me out the most is when she started asking me if I ever cheated on a girlfriend before. i said, in a calm tone, " eh, they don't mind." Then she went on and said, " If you were ever my boyfriend and I caught you cheating on me, " I will personally kick your ass." Whoah, she seems to be a bit in the insecure side, but then again, I like a chic with an attitude. I asked her a question- " What are you going to do tonight?" Early in the conversation, and she said," I'm going to the movies". " By yourself"?, " Yeah", she said. " Why don't the two of us go tonight then?" I said, or something like that. " Yeah sure",she said in a eager tone. Dunno, but I failed to even mention it at the end of the conversation. Crap, is it me or do I have a problem closing my approaches? So far, I had 3 approaches where I know they were attracted to me, yet I'm still not coming through with it. I need to work on this.

 

[Roly]

Staying Committed to the Lifestyle.

" You can't help someone up the hill without getting to the top yourself" - H Norman.


lessons I have learned from Progressing:

Man Oh man, these couple of days had been such a learning experience. It's no bull that being the man is not about a list of methods and techniques like all these dating masters and wise man keep preaching over and over again. But Being the man is about having that Great State of mind. I have learned it is the absalute engine, the soul, the heart, the fuel and core to BECOMING THE MAN. I believe in the end of it all, there has to be and going to be a time where WE DONT NEED TO RELY on this site anymore. ( Well maybe to only come back and give solid advice like Pook and Senior Fingers, mad props to you guys.) You know Michael Jordan? He's not the greatest athlete of all time, because he's naturally gifted with god given athletic talent. What Made Michael Jordan totally seperate from the rest was his absalute Commitment to his game and his unstoppable Mindset and Confidence which made him the Greatest player of all time. This is what I'm talking about man, I've been reading Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich for the past couple of weeks and it said that whatever a person thinks about himself, that is what he is. If you think you suck, Then most likely YOU DO SUCK, If you think you are a badass, Then YOU ARE a badass. Strive to achieve that GREAT STATE OF MIND guys, imagine it guys, it's the most incredible feeling a MAN can have. Imagine that feeling where you are secure with yourself, powerful, happy and confident. To some it might take a couple of weeks or days, to some it can take years, but you know what? Part of being the man is also about learning to be persistant and NEVER GIVING UP and Never giving in.

So far, I've been making some progress by following these several set of principles:

(1.) Learning to live a positive lifestyle- This one is a biggie guys, You want to know how much negative bull**** is out there? Man oh man, there's tons guys. Whether it is in TV, Magazines ( You know what? screw Men's health, they had this section of 2004 best guy movie and it consisted of Shrek 2 and Napoleon Dynamite. WTF?!!) radio, and even your family and friends !!! As a man, you must learn to activate that negativity zapper and blast those negativity away! remember guys, negative thinking= negative results. I have also surrounded myself with positive, cool, ambitious people who looks like they're going somewhere in life. Hell, this does not mean, I'm going to turn into an egotistical freak, no no, that's all wrong either. Egoticism and vanity will never get you anywhere, it is also a good idea to learn to be a people's person with all sorts of people and learn to be enthusiastic with the many types of people you encounter and inspire them to be the best people they can be.

(2.) Not Relying on Stimulants such as Drugs, Alcohol, Parties, Sex, Women etc. For happiness. Think about this guys, this is one of the reasons why this country is so messed up right now. They rely too much on stimulants or cheap thrills for happiness instead of confronting their problems and eliminating their inner demons, they rely too much on stimulants to get away from their problems for a quick two to four hours or so only to let their problems come back the following day. This process keeps repeating over and over again until they explode. I've also realized the fact, THAT I DONT NEED WOMEN TO BE HAPPY AND FULLFILLED IN MY LIFE. As soon as I got this mindset in my brain, man oh man, I started seeing some results. I'am a WAY MORE comfortable around them, I stopped seeking their approval and have a more fun and relax mindset about them. Don't get me wrong, I simply adore and admire women, But I have come to realize that I DONT NEED THEM, THEY NEED ME. Happiness is a CHOICE guys, you're unhappy because you chose and made yourself unhappy. Life is really whatever you make of it.

(3.) DISCIPLINE- I started committing myself to this concept and I started receiving that confident vibe about myself and life. I mean discipline, by committing myself to my daily workout and regimen. I mean discipline by limiting my TV and Video game time and start working on important things such as college applications. I mean discipline by doing the many aspects of life moderately at a time: Example, not eating so much sweets and drinking carbonated water, setting my priorities and doing what I got to do despite what anybody thinks.

(4.) Spiritual Meditation- This is an activity where you can basically collect and gather your thoughts and motivate yourself. For me I do some martial arts, then I would later sit down and take a couple of deep breaths and concentrate on the pressure points of my negative emotions and I would picture myself in a moment where I'am feeling those negative emotions, then I would concentrate on my pressure points and exhale. Then I would lie down somewhere comfortable and do some positive self talk to motivate myself. Then I would do the exhale thing again, hell you might think this is weird, but it works for me. I do this routine every morning before I get my day going and it gets me on a positive mindset.

(5.) KNOWING AND FOLLOWING YOUR GOALS IN LIFE! Notice that I did not say dreams, I said Goals. Dreams are just a bunch of make beliefs and fantasies. When I say GOALS, it is something deep down in your heart, you feel you can achieve despite all the negative criticism you take from your friends, pierce and family. Trust me man, If DEEP DOWN you BELIEVE and it is YOUR DESTINY TO ACHIEVE THIS GOAL, THEN WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT, YOU WILL ACHIEVE IT. Believe in yourself!

(6.) Commitment to being THE MAN- the three words to describe this concept would be persistance, motivation and dedication. You guys know what you got to do from here, I'm definitely not going to preach about this concept about this concept like the rest of the guys.

Looking at all my posts in the bootcamp journals. I can say wow, my mindset has totally change these couple of weeks. It's simply amazing how in a matter of days, one life can be totally switch around. Hey, I'm still working on BECOMING THE MAN, and I will NEVER GIVE UP until I do. To be honest, I don't normally like to be one of those guys that likes to preach about this, but I feel I finally had something to say. This had nothing to do with " The Game" and all that bull****, these advice I feel are all directed to BEING THE MAN and LIFE itself.