"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Roll Call....How did you guys spend your Saturday night?

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Roll Call...How did you guys spend your Saturday night? Me personally, I took walk in the park with my dog, sat on the bench a little bit and ate some ice cream, took a survey of the area but there weren't really anybody or women for that matter on the walking trails.....then I went home and worked out in my garage and did an MMA kickboxing and yoga work out. Then I took a hot bath then went to sleep. It's Sunday here in South East Asia, about to eat breakfast. What about you guys how you spending your Saturday night?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Roll Call...How did you guys spend your Saturday night? Me personally, I took walk in the park with my dog, sat on the bench a little bit and ate some ice cream, took a survey of the area but there weren't really anybody or women for that matter on the walking trails.....then I went home and worked out in my garage and did an MMA kickboxing and yoga work out. Then I took a hot bath then went to sleep. It's Sunday here in South East Asia, about to eat breakfast. What about you guys?
Hi Travel Memoir,
You make SE Asia sound like a balmy corner of Merry Old England...Some Hill Station?
 

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GF & I on my workation in SoCal. Unfortunately, she’s under the weather, so I left her to sleep & went to the hotel brewpub solo & got dinner & a local beer. Bartender gave me a second drink for free. So. Pretty good night so far.
 

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Weekends are for the main gal
Weekdays to yourself or for maybe a contender
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GF & I on my workation in SoCal. Unfortunately, she’s under the weather, so I left her to sleep & went to the hotel brewpub solo & got dinner & a local beer. Bartender gave me a second drink for free. So. Pretty good night so far.
Do you live with your girlfriend? If so, then you've got yourself pretty much a wife lol
 

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Scaramouche, I live close to a park near my neighborhood....it's a rather small one but theres street foods for sale and a basketball court and there's people walking by. Wherever you are is thats where you'll go...so you've got to make the most of whichever location you're currently in.
 

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Scaramouche, I live close to a park near my neighborhood....it's a rather small one but theres street foods for sale and a basketball court and there's people walking by. Wherever you are is thats where you'll go...so you've got to make the most of whichever location you're currently in.
Hi TravelMemoir,
I can understand your being cagey...I have a similar hideaway,though no Street food or Icecream.
 

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Lol...I know this is a little off topic but I'm able to track my brother's locations in the states off a Map App on my phone. I know exactly where he is currently right now in the states which I find amazing. In a way, do you think the government spies on us and our conversations daily? Lol, if you wanted to be a fugitive and go off somewhere, I got bad news for you, you gotta get rid of that smartphone. In Instagram there's commercials where you can track your lover down and see their conversations and text anonymously...wow dude ! that's hillarious man....you would think The government woud spy on us citizens on a daily basis with these phones.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do you have a Playstation 5? Did you have a Playstation 4 by any chance and if you did, have you played and beaten Final Fantasy 15 and was the experience worth it? lol...I'm into RPGS.
I’m playing FF 12 - The Zodiac Age. I have a Switch, so I just turn it on when I’m in bed or just lounging around the house.

I put about 70 hours on it already. I have a plate that is in mid air right now due to inattention, my house is a disaster, and I’m eating so much junk food I’m starting to gain weight on my weight. I get addicted/obsessed with things easily so it might be time for me to give it a rest…
 

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I’m playing FF 12 - The Zodiac Age. I have a Switch, so I just turn it on when I’m in bed or just lounging around the house.

I put about 70 hours on it already. I have a plate that is in mid air right now due to inattention, my house is a disaster, and I’m eating so much junk food I’m starting to gain weight on my weight. I get addicted/obsessed with things easily so it might be time for me to give it a rest…

Where you from? You have a house? Congratulations.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Saturday Roll Call here....It's Sunday morning about to be 2:30 am here Where I'm at. This past Saturday evening, I went to the Park to walk my dog, had some ice cream, sat on the bench and went bird watching. Then after that, I went back to my Parent's hotel that they owned to talk to a few local cute women with my Wing woman and friend who happened to be one of the staff there. We had snacks, desserts and sang karaoke. Good times, how was you guys Saturday night?
 

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Is Saturday night considered as important as it once was in seduction?


I had a recent Saturday night where I went out to a bar (a bar that has a well known reputation for being the bar where motivated for sex middle aged divorcees tend to go) and it was a complete dud.
 

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Is Saturday night considered as important as it once was in seduction?


I had a recent Saturday night where I went out to a bar (a bar that has a well known reputation for being the bar where motivated for sex middle aged divorcees tend to go) and it was a complete dud.
Lol while you maybe skilled, I don't think you should be venturing alone, having social proof would give you an advantage. I think it maybe a good idea to have a few 'laughing-joking sessions' with a group of friends or people before you do a Pick up approach with anybody there. Yeah Day gaming and weekday bar lounges where the environment is more open seems more ideal these days.
 

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I don't think you should be venturing alone, having social proof would give you an advantage.
Yes, it would. I promote the idea of going out to bars with at least 1 other guy.

I do not have that luxury. My male friends/acquaintances locally are married males. These are either childless married males who have no interest in going to bars or married males with children who have no interest and no time to accompany me to bars.

I lack the presence of available males in my life to join me at the bars on a Friday or a Saturday night.

It's possible to roll solo to bars and meet women. However, non-bar approaching is better suited for solo males.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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