"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rock Bottom - Break Up

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jaxon

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Yeah dude been there, done that. What can I say? It sucks balls. I'm not sure how in love with this chick you were or how many relationships you've been in that were this serious, but life will go on! The sun will rise tomorrow the same as it always does.
The best thing I can say to do is to accept it and move on, then cut off all communication, at least for a while. It will suck not talking to her or seeing her, but it's the best thing for you to help you get completely over it. I could go on and on here but in general you need to be very active and social.
Go to the gym, hang out with buddies, your family, whoever and whatever--just stay busy. Any down or alone time will inevitably be spent thinking about her, causing you to get sad and depressed.
I've also been in a bad rut before and the best thing you can do to counter that rut is to do whatever is necessary to get out of it. If you're in debt, create a budget and set up payment plans. If you're out of shape, work out. Consider going back to school to take some more classes or something, learn a new skill...keep busy and active and always be improving yourself!
 

MVPlaya

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Get the rest of your life back in order, namely the job part.
 

redd

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You know what think basically know what i need to do and stop sulking! **** this i fell into thd trap of depending on someone she was holding me back in alot of ways too, i feel like ive got the chance now to do whatever i want!. no more replys needed, will be deleting post.
 
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