Risky Decision

[theGAME50]

i have a great girlfriend who treats me like GOLD.

we are both 19, i have been dating her for over a year.

this is the first and only girl i ever had sex with

i made a date with a girl i have a huge crush on. deep down inside, i want to hang out with other girls, but i want my girlfriend too. i don't want to lose her. but if i lose her, is it that bad? the first month would be horrible. would i forever lose something great?

is what i am doing wrong?

i mean i know cheating is wrong... but wouldnt it be bad if i stuck with one girl for the rest of my life?

i dated a lot of girls before her, and know how other girls are. my gf is the 1 girl who i met who matches everything i am looking for. she is like no other girl. its unbelievable. why do i want to hang out with other girls?

 

[Docs]

Desire/Reading too much crap on the boards.

Seriously, whatever decision you make, it's usually final. If you want to experience more girls, go ahead. You may find one better, or one worse in the end. You could also stay with her...for stated reasons, because you're happy.

 

[MightyMate]

Cheating is fine. Try others before dumping the one You care about.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Nice I had this same argument the other day with some marriage councillor... won't go into specifics though.

Your feelings obviously are not deep rooted enough for you to LOVE your girlfriend. Obviously there are other things you desire from other women that your GF is not giving you. Plus you are young, so being foolhardy is what your supposed to be doing...

Tell your GF that she isn't being all she could be. If she makes an arguemtn get her really riled up, see if you can fuel desire within the two of you...

If the conversation between the two of you is dead in the water, tell her you'll think about it. **Hopefully you two aren't living together, that would be nutz(and stupid).** Stop seeing her for a month or two, each time you talk to her, tell her what you are thinking, and doing, tell her what you feel about her... Just don't seem desperate to get back with her if you are(you shouldn't be desperate) tell her what you remeber about her, all that sappy BS... and than tell her who you've been ****in(if she knows em, just say what the girl is like)

If your going to do it, plan it, if it's more than an hour in advance, wingin it ain't going to work. So set a time limit for your relationship, tell her you need some time apart. One month should do, and get back together for a week. Let things cool down between you two, and see if you can learn from other people what energy is missing between your girl.
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What do you think of other guys who cheat on their wives? What makes it different than a gf?

 

[djbr]

Fear.

 

[theGAME50]

ok thanks...any more advice????????

 

[Gonzalo]

It's only cheating if you get caught.

But then, Murphy would say: if you cheat, you WILL get caught.

Your call.