right/wrong?

[Huggy]

Hi,

I have a situation which im finding it hard to work out.

I am 20 years old and live in my own place, and work a fulltime job for the last 4 years. Now there is this girl who works there and i have known her for about 2 years.

Now only recently last month or so, we have been flirting like mad and always having a chat and laugh. One major bump in the road is that she is already going out with a guy she lives with, she is my age and he is 25 i think.

They have theyre own house and a morgage etc, now I am normally quite good at telling when someone likes me and i think she does, just from some fo the signs.

Catch her looking at me then looks away

Laughs at my pants jokes

Offers me rides home or picks me up on my way

Says some very flirty things which are sexual aswell

Now I know she has a boyfriend and that, but i cant help who i like and i really just wana go up to her and say "Are you interested or just playing?" but i hate rejection and it would make it awarkward for me at work aswell. Im really stuck on what to do! Also when we have been talking i have said in convo "I cant stand girls who play boys" and she replied "Her mate does be she never does."

I have been the last day or so trying not to talk to her as much but im finding it difficult, as she will always come and start a convo or something and i dont want to her to think im completly not interested

Please need some help

Prefallaby from females thanks

 

[KillaCam]

Let me ask you this. Do you really want a girl, who would be willing to drop their partner, their mortgage, their entire relationship, for someone who is good to flirt with?

If she can throw that away, she can throw you away in a second.

If she's going around like this, they are in trouble. But you will get caught up in that trouble.

Drop her cold. Move onto women who will not ruin your life.

 

[mattb717]

I second that

 

[khash]

I second that too

 

[Qmanchoo]

I dont second that at all because you don't know her situation.

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Let me ask you this. Do you really want a girl, who would be willing to drop their partner, their mortgage, their entire relationship, for someone who is good to flirt with?
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None of that matters if she is unhappy with the man she is with. People make mistakes and get dragged into situations, maybe that's her case? You just don't know...

I think you owe it to yourself to go out with her a few times and find out what's going on. If shes that into you maybe something really good could develop...

I mean, you might say "what about the other guy!" well, if he was doing his job and keeping her interested she wouldn't be flirting with you.

Maybe she wants a one night stand, maybe she sees you as a BF, maybe she's unhappy with where she is... you don't know until you find out.

 

[studentisready]

Sounds like you've developed feelings for her. If you go up and give her an ultimatum she'll only stay with her man. She might be after some discreet action on the side (if you havent fallen too heavily for her you might enjoy it). Continue flirting with her but START WORKING ON OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY!! Treat this girl as just another woman your working on and maybe get her out for coffee. If you want her, you might stay friends with her and text message her (while all the time working on other prospects) then she might text you when shes had her latest argument with her boyfriend. Thats when you can take her out for a drink and suss things out and go in for the tongue kill. Your not doing the morally wrong thing as regards her current boyfriend. Thats her moral responsibility. Also realise that you may have fallen for her too much and it may be a case of unrequited love which you'll just have to accept and move on ( it happens to most men at some point) but I dont know the situation. Only you and her know that. But again I reiterate START WORKING ON OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY!!

 

[KillaCam]

I dont second that at all because you don't know her situation.

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Let me ask you this. Do you really want a girl, who would be willing to drop their partner, their mortgage, their entire relationship, for someone who is good to flirt with?
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None of that matters if she is unhappy with the man she is with. People make mistakes and get dragged into situations, maybe that's her case? You just don't know...

I think you owe it to yourself to go out with her a few times and find out what's going on. If shes that into you maybe something really good could develop...

I mean, you might say "what about the other guy!" well, if he was doing his job and keeping her interested she wouldn't be flirting with you.

Maybe she wants a one night stand, maybe she sees you as a BF, maybe she's unhappy with where she is... you don't know until you find out.

You ignored the second part to my post.

Regardless of her situation, he will get caught up in it. Whether she's an attention wh0re or a desperately hurting woman in a bad relationship, Huggy will get caught up in the trouble. Whether it's that flying fist from her boyfriend, or him being used as an emotional tampon before she moves on to someone else.

It's trouble he doesn't need. If her relationship is really that damn bad, then she needs to stand up and get out of it. When the dust clears, that's when Huggy can step in. Otherwise he's gonna be involved in something that will only bring negatives.