Right or Wrong? - A moral question.

[Mr_rogers]

As the title suggests, I've got a moral question for you guys.

I've known this guy for about 3 years now, and we're pretty decent friends. We get along pretty well, and we hang out from time to time.

Just recently, I was invited to a party by a girl that this friend has liked since he was really young, but he's always been terrified to ask her out or anything. I went to the party and ended up hitting it off with this girl that my friend has liked for so long.

Is it right for me to pursue this girl that my pal can't/won't make a move on?

Yes, it is right.:

- He just finished High School where this girl is just going into the 11th grade. That means that any relationship they have would be long(ish) distance, since they'll live about an hour apart and go to different schools.

- He hasn't made a move on her during the 6+ years that he's known her, so it isn't likely that he'll ever do it.

No, it's wrong.:

- Because I know that my friend likes her, snatching her away right in front of him would sort of be like stabbing him in the back.

- It would be kind of odd to be with this girl when my friend was around, considering that he'd be eying her up.

- There would be some sort of resentment being formed by taking "his girl", if you know what I mean.

So, I'd like to hear some opinions. Should I go for her, or wait until my AFC friend finally gets the balls to do something?

P.S: No, I don't have oneitis for this girl, because I'm interested in 2 other girls at the same time, but I like the same one as my friend much more than the others.

 

[Dutchy]

I think you should help your friend with hitting of with this girl. Teach him. Bring them together, he needs her more than you do. Oh and I think that it would feel like you where stabbing him in the back when you would snatch this girl. The choise is up to you though

Greetz from Holland

 

[LikRetsam]

Manlaw states that a man may call dibs on a woman for 2 weeks (14 days) at the end of which if he has not yet managed to seduce her, she is up for grabs for the rest of the group.

This post does not require extensive length but seeing that you have actually posted a thread about this, I think you need more help than just the answer to the question.

This woman is not his and there is no one else to blame for that than him. Don't even take any lip from anyone about a situation like this. There is no backstabbing involved. You have not betrayed him because he and her DO NOT EXIST. If it is akward to be around him, then drop him. If he is eye raping her, then confront him. For the love of God, act like a man and quit thinking like a preschooler.

I would also like to state that the above post is retarded. A lesson I hope each and every one of you will learn early in life is that the squeaky wheel doesn't get the oil. It gets replaced.

I don't want to be too blunt or come off as an ass hole, but to think that you owe him anything, especially tips on how to get her, is to have your head very far up your own ass. In fact, if he was a self-respecting man, this would have ended when she showed interest in you and not him.

Should you really feel that you can't just take her then I suggest that you approach him and let him know that unless he makes a move, you will because she has given you IOIs.

 

[GaryUranga]

I think thats crap advice, bros before hoes on this one, you can just meet another girl anyways

 

[LikRetsam]

Bros before hos? Care to elaborate on why exactly he owes anything to a chump that hasn't acted in 6 years?

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

I think thats crap advice, bros before hoes on this one, you can just meet another girl anyways

i agree with likretsam on this

BBH only goes so far. only a dumbass takes EVERYTHING into 100% meaning.

 

[oakraiderz2]

I think thats crap advice, bros before hoes on this one, you can just meet another girl anyways

Like lik said, 6 years is MORE THAN ENOUGH TIME. They're not even that good of friends anyway, merely "decent" friends.

 

[American_Psycho]

Bros before hoes only applies if the guy is one of your best friends, it sounds like this guy is more of an aquaintance...

 

[Tom Juan]

Yes. If the chump is too scared to make a move on her, no use letting that pvssy go to waste!

 

[AC/DC]

Start talking to the girl. If it starts going somewhere, tell your friend that ur interested, and you'd like to see where it goes, and youre LETTING HIM KNOW. YOU ARE NOT ASKING FOR HIS PERMISSION, YOU DO NOT NEED IT.

 

[Dutchy]

Wait a minute, this guy is more of an aquaintance? I thought he was one of your best friends! My English is ok but sometimes I make a mistake. Srry bout that.
If he is more a guy you just know instead of your best friend go for it.
Bros before hoes only counts on really good friends, not guys you happen to know.

Srry

 

[vegasorly]

As the title suggests, I've got a moral question for you guys.

I've known this guy for about 3 years now, and we're pretty decent friends. We get along pretty well, and we hang out from time to time.

Just recently, I was invited to a party by a girl that this friend has liked since he was really young, but he's always been terrified to ask her out or anything. I went to the party and ended up hitting it off with this girl that my friend has liked for so long.

Is it right for me to pursue this girl that my pal can't/won't make a move on?

Yes, it is right.:

- He just finished High School where this girl is just going into the 11th grade. That means that any relationship they have would be long(ish) distance, since they'll live about an hour apart and go to different schools.

- He hasn't made a move on her during the 6+ years that he's known her, so it isn't likely that he'll ever do it.

No, it's wrong.:

- Because I know that my friend likes her, snatching her away right in front of him would sort of be like stabbing him in the back.

- It would be kind of odd to be with this girl when my friend was around, considering that he'd be eying her up.

- There would be some sort of resentment being formed by taking "his girl", if you know what I mean.

So, I'd like to hear some opinions. Should I go for her, or wait until my AFC friend finally gets the balls to do something?

P.S: No, I don't have oneitis for this girl, because I'm interested in 2 other girls at the same time, but I like the same one as my friend much more than the others.

This whole generation is a joke. You know what, if you guys want to nail girls in a spur of the moment, go right ahead. See how far it gets you. Sorry for having morals, and not being an animal. Seems to be the going rate around here. Have funs with your kids, and STD's. But to tell ya' the truth, I doubt any of you are getting laid in the first place. Why? Because a guy who actually does get laid, doesn't have to kiss and tell. Least off all, on the INTERNET! You guys really need to get lives. I can't believe I've even contributed to this garbage. I must be in need of a life of my own, just on the basis of sharing my thoughts with you morons. Have fun bragging to each other about how many sluts in you banged in under 2 minutes. I'm sure it is a great experience for all of you.Look I don't care what you do. Go ahead, bang away at those skeezers. Myself, I don't think it is a good idea to do so. How well could you possibly know a girl after 2 hours? Enough to sleep with her? This is the point I'm trying to get across. What these people seem to not understand is, is that you are sharing your body with someone when you have sex. Plenty of bad things could happen when you do this. How much thought could you possibly give this in what, 2 hours? Oh, and Bruno, I'm quite capable of speaking on my own behalf. I appreciate the help, but I'm not in any real need of it, so thanks, but no thanks. So as of Jul 21, 2006 do what ya' want. You wanna bang sluts after 10 minutes, go right ahead. When you wake up the next morning pissing out razorblades, just remember I told ya' so.

 

[penkitten]

if this was your gf would you want him to try to get with her?
wait until they break up.

 

[Mr_rogers]

if this was your gf would you want him to try to get with her?
wait until they break up.

If you read carefully, you'll see that they aren't even in a relationship.

 

[WesCottII]

Do it. But tell him first.