"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hi folks

I'm new here and I have a question for all of you.

I'm 35 and never been married wich is not very common in my
community. Righ now I'm single and dating but nothing serious.

I noticed that as older I get as often I get the "Why did you
never get married before?" question from woman when dating in a serious prospect date.

Maybe they think being a divorced guy gives you some points or never
married guys are a bad investment.

Anyway when dating a woman around 30 that never been married I make myself a mental note that maybe she is a *****, not family oriented or whatever, but there are not good reasons for that.

In your oppinion which could be a cool answer to that question from her to make those weird ideas dissapear from her head and get more value at the same time.

Thanks

John.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Johndd said:
Hi folks

I'm new here and I have a question for all of you.

I'm 35 and never been married wich is not very common in my
community. Righ now I'm single and dating but nothing serious.

I noticed that as older I get as often I get the "Why did you
never get married before?" question from woman when dating in a serious prospect date.

Maybe they think being a divorced guy gives you some points or never
married guys are a bad investment.

Anyway when dating a woman around 30 that never been married I make myself a mental note that maybe she is a *****, not family oriented or whatever, but there are not good reasons for that.

In your oppinion which could be a cool answer to that question from her to make those weird ideas dissapear from her head and get more value at the same time.

Thanks

John.
I think you're looking into this a bit too much.

Say you were more focused on being adventurous, enjoying everything in life, pursuing many other goals and that marriage was not a major priority for you during those years.

Say you've had relationships with some pretty women, but none were attractive enough for you in other aspects for you to even consider marriage.
 

Randy_Johnson

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CarlitosWay said:
I think you're looking into this a bit too much.

Say you were more focused on being adventurous, enjoying everything in life, pursuing many other goals and that marriage was not a major priority for you during those years.
I'd say to definitely say something like this. Getting married doesn't validate you, how you lived your life did. While other people were out settling down with women they weren't sure about, you were having a good time and holding out for someone truly great. That's not a bad thing.
 

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thank guys

Thanks guys for the answers. You are totally right. I'm looking into this a bit too much.

John
 
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