How many dates/kisses/action have you had? I'm sensing that you're just having friendly platonic conversations, which is alright as a starting point, but you're gonna have to escalate things eventually...maybe a Ricky October work on that?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ricky: September 2005
- Thread starter Ricky
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
al77
Master Don Juan
Ricky, clear your mailbox plz.
Al 77 I will clear it later tonight.
I'll give a statistic summary when I hit 100. 93 now. To be honest when you just want to hit the goal, the last 7 or so may not be my best work. Something about the urgency of reaching the goal!
I actually have a theory about why the date level and action level is low. I think I need to invest more time into each interaction.
Amazingly the crossover phase from fluff into deep rapport did happen pretty well with one girl, (although a friend clockblocking me certainly didn't help). She is one of them that hasnt responded to my emails.
There are some lessons learned here.
1) If you get her email and phone number, sometimes it might be better to call. This is contrary to all my previous experiences. Normally I was good at working the email game for a while. But in particular it should be tailored to the type of the person.
Ex musician girl is more auditory, she may not want to type long emails but would prefer to chat on the phone.
I'll give a statistic summary when I hit 100. 93 now. To be honest when you just want to hit the goal, the last 7 or so may not be my best work. Something about the urgency of reaching the goal!
I actually have a theory about why the date level and action level is low. I think I need to invest more time into each interaction.
Amazingly the crossover phase from fluff into deep rapport did happen pretty well with one girl, (although a friend clockblocking me certainly didn't help). She is one of them that hasnt responded to my emails.
There are some lessons learned here.
1) If you get her email and phone number, sometimes it might be better to call. This is contrary to all my previous experiences. Normally I was good at working the email game for a while. But in particular it should be tailored to the type of the person.
Ex musician girl is more auditory, she may not want to type long emails but would prefer to chat on the phone.
Crap.
Some nights even with girls giving me IOI, i just can't move. Tonight was like that. Even at one point 3 girls who i saw looking at me swung into my vicinity. Unfortunately i was on the cell with a friend at the time. They left before i finished. FVCK.
And i'm drunk and $40 poorer. But it was fun.
At 96. 4 more for the goal, but need way more than that for fun. Do have a date this Tuesday.
Some nights even with girls giving me IOI, i just can't move. Tonight was like that. Even at one point 3 girls who i saw looking at me swung into my vicinity. Unfortunately i was on the cell with a friend at the time. They left before i finished. FVCK.
And i'm drunk and $40 poorer. But it was fun.
At 96. 4 more for the goal, but need way more than that for fun. Do have a date this Tuesday.
Got to 100 at the airport on the way out of town on the 30th. It was a great one. In fact I saved my 100th for a really great girl (who happens to live in North Carolina)
Wow this whole experience taught me so much. Here are a few brief thoughts about it and I'll tell you what I"ve been up to since then as well
WRAPUP
Ok the stats
Out of the 100 new women I met, some of the conversations were short, some much longer but all in all most of them went well (I will detail a few of the bad ones as well)
1) I got approximately 12 emails and phone numbers. Sometimes I got both, sometimes I didn't. Now before you say that isn't such a great stat I have to say that out of the women I asked for email or phone numbers from only 1 turned me down.
2) I was invited to a private party from one of the girls and negotiated a date with another girl totally in a foreign language. Some of the other girls I'm in contact with, and some flat out haven't returned my email.
My take on this? If sufficient rapport is established, typically during a longer convo than the email is more likely to be returned. Also some girls take a while (I just today got an email from my top pick of the group 2 weeks after I sent her one)
3) In the process I met alot of other people including guys. They have invited me to various events. Before this month I knew very few people in Boston now I know a hell of alot more
4) Bad events: On two occasions two sets of two girls gave me crap about hitting on them. This is crap. I gave it back to one set of girls. One time I was talking to a girl and a drunk guy comes up and bumps into me. I instinctively pushed him, then realized it was the girls boyfriend. I could have killed him especially since he was so drunk, but after pushing him, I shook his hand and said hey whats up and carefully ejected from the situation in a cool manner.
Great events: After I had reached 100, I talked to a girl working the counter at the rental car agency of the airport I flew into. I had no interest in her per se, but we started small talking. She paid me one of the nicest compliments I have ever received. She said she was feeling sick all night and just talking me helped her to feel so much better.
This is my mission. By seducing ladies, by having charisma and showing you care in initial conversations you make these girls feel great. It is for this reason that the world needs more Don Juans.
Instead of being a dishonest Kissass, genuine interest and good seductive conversation can truly make a girls day.
I love this!
So October is off to a big start. I have a few different goals. I'll keep a rough estimate of how many women I;ve met but I am focusing on some deeper rapport builidng convos. That and I still am running some game on a girl I absolutely love to this day.
Wow this whole experience taught me so much. Here are a few brief thoughts about it and I'll tell you what I"ve been up to since then as well
WRAPUP
Ok the stats
Out of the 100 new women I met, some of the conversations were short, some much longer but all in all most of them went well (I will detail a few of the bad ones as well)
1) I got approximately 12 emails and phone numbers. Sometimes I got both, sometimes I didn't. Now before you say that isn't such a great stat I have to say that out of the women I asked for email or phone numbers from only 1 turned me down.
2) I was invited to a private party from one of the girls and negotiated a date with another girl totally in a foreign language. Some of the other girls I'm in contact with, and some flat out haven't returned my email.
My take on this? If sufficient rapport is established, typically during a longer convo than the email is more likely to be returned. Also some girls take a while (I just today got an email from my top pick of the group 2 weeks after I sent her one)
3) In the process I met alot of other people including guys. They have invited me to various events. Before this month I knew very few people in Boston now I know a hell of alot more
4) Bad events: On two occasions two sets of two girls gave me crap about hitting on them. This is crap. I gave it back to one set of girls. One time I was talking to a girl and a drunk guy comes up and bumps into me. I instinctively pushed him, then realized it was the girls boyfriend. I could have killed him especially since he was so drunk, but after pushing him, I shook his hand and said hey whats up and carefully ejected from the situation in a cool manner.
Great events: After I had reached 100, I talked to a girl working the counter at the rental car agency of the airport I flew into. I had no interest in her per se, but we started small talking. She paid me one of the nicest compliments I have ever received. She said she was feeling sick all night and just talking me helped her to feel so much better.
This is my mission. By seducing ladies, by having charisma and showing you care in initial conversations you make these girls feel great. It is for this reason that the world needs more Don Juans.
Instead of being a dishonest Kissass, genuine interest and good seductive conversation can truly make a girls day.
I love this!
So October is off to a big start. I have a few different goals. I'll keep a rough estimate of how many women I;ve met but I am focusing on some deeper rapport builidng convos. That and I still am running some game on a girl I absolutely love to this day.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.