"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Richard Nixon was an AFC

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heh...found this humorous. Apparently he also used to linger around and actually drive his future wife to dates with other men!

In January 1938, Nixon was cast in the Whittier Community Players production of The Dark Tower. There he played opposite a high school teacher named Thelma "Pat" Ryan.[21] Nixon described it in his memoirs as "a case of love at first sight"[31]—for Nixon only, as Pat Ryan turned down the young lawyer several times before agreeing to date him.[32] Once they began their courtship, Ryan was reluctant to marry Nixon; the relationship dragged on two years before she assented to his proposal. They wed at a small ceremony on June 21, 1940. After a honeymoon in Mexico, the Nixons began their married life in Whittier.[33] They had two children, Tricia (born 1946) and Julie (born 1948).[34]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Nixon#Early_career.2C_marriage_and_war_service

curious what kind of advice he would've gotten on this forum. Dump her, stop trying, she's using you etc. The guy persisted
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I remember hearing about that in the Oliver Stone movie "NIXON" and thinking...what a chump!

her other options must have been "meh" at the time.
 

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King George was apparently another AFCer...proposed marriage to the Queen Mother twice times before she finally accepted on the 3rd time

can you imagine his post here

"Fabulously wealthy good looking member of the royal family...yea so this girl I'm dating turned down my proposal twice...should I go in for a 3rd?"
 

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He was also a dumbass and horrible president. Not a very good example to follow.
 

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There are examples of persistence done right... Nixon is not one of them.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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floydb25 said:
He was also a dumbass and horrible president. Not a very good example to follow.
still accomplished more than every chump on this forum combined
 

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Why, because he managed to get a position in power? He didn't do anything but **** it up once he got it. That's what matters.
 

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He may have been an idiot, but he was the last American president to actually balance the budget.
 

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I don't think he was an idiot, based on his writings and interviews. I think he was massively insecure. You can actually see it quite clearly in his body language from back in the day. There's a lesson to be learned there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Atom Smasher said:
I don't think he was an idiot, based on his writings and interviews. I think he was massively insecure. You can actually see it quite clearly in his body language from back in the day. There's a lesson to be learned there.
Criminal = Idiot
 

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Bill Clinton was a pimp, I know a woman who met him and got moist just talking with him.
 

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Bill Clinton was a pimp, I know a woman who met him and got moist just talking with him.
I've had dinner with him three times, as my brother-in-law is a politician who is associated with him. I have to word that a little vaguely for privacy reasons.

He is definitely a very charismatic guy. It seems to have something to do with the fact that he seems to "invest" himself in you when you talk to him. But he reeks of dishonesty. You can smell it on him.
 

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I've had dinner with him three times, as my brother-in-law is a politician who is associated with him. I have to word that a little vaguely for privacy reasons.

He is definitely a very charismatic guy. It seems to have something to do with the fact that he seems to "invest" himself in you when you talk to him. But he reeks of dishonesty. You can smell it on him.
Any more detail on the dinner? Sounds like it would be a very interesting read.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have to be extremely careful because you'd be surprised how easily this could be traced back to me via Google and other means.

Suffice it to say that we talk much about power and influence and hardly anything about politics. We talk a lot about family issues loo. There are lots of things I would love to tell you guys but can't, simply because of the tracing issue.
 

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dutchmaster said:
Any more detail on the dinner? Sounds like it would be a very interesting read.
They talked about top secret s---. Seriously. This forum is loaded with CIA Ninjas and guys who have their fingers on the pulse of the world. F---ing amazes me every single time I enter this forum.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fEwi8TpbLFM&feature=results_video&playnext=1&list=PLB60337500BBBD115
Only politician I would want dinner with lives in Southern Russia. Dude, would turn my sorry azz into a man. That is for sure.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAfMHoizoLo&feature=related
In saying that, he would be AFC to horny American boys because he interrupts moments with his leader in order to take calls from his Momma. Proving yet again, that the toughest SOB's on the planet are Momma's boys.
 

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I've had dinner with him three times, as my brother-in-law is a politician who is associated with him. I have to word that a little vaguely for privacy reasons.

He is definitely a very charismatic guy. It seems to have something to do with the fact that he seems to "invest" himself in you when you talk to him. But he reeks of dishonesty. You can smell it on him.
If he offers you a cigar next time, back your a$$ into a corner. :D
 

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If he offers you a cigar next time, back your a$$ into a corner. :D
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

That's the best one you've ever come up with!

I always carry a Smith & Wesson military police tactical knife on me so I figure I'm safe. Perhaps I should hedge my bets with some bear repellant I usually carry when I'm hiking.

Come to think of it, I was assuming that was Hillary's foot I felt on my leg under the table last time...
 

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Last night I had dinner with BigJimbo.

He ordered a salad.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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