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Don Juan
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This is a short post to describe a technique I have had a lot of success with. It’s not much use for a ONS but great for potential LTRs.
Basically it’s a twist on the CA method of rewarding her with compliments, kino etc when she invests something personal in the conversation but the timing is slightly different. It assumes a good level of rapport is already present and works on three principles:
1) On the first few meetings she will be trying to appear perfect. She will almost certainly be putting more effort into this than you realise because of the insecurities all women have
2) Her fantasies of a long term partner will involve someone she can just relax and be herself around, without having to make this effort, someone who loves every part of her
3) She will not be able to keep up the perfect act forever
So all you do is carry on as normal and occasionally when the perfect act slips i.e. she says something stupid, does something clumsy, reward her with some light kino or a SOA. Usually she will have realised her faux pas and be visibly embarrassed. Here I would say something like, “that’s kind of cute actually.” It also works if she tells you she has some weird hobby or habit that she most people find strange. In this case she is taking a gamble by showing vulnerability, so it is an excellent time to use it. I usually bust on her for it a bit later though so she knows I’m not just supplicating..
This technique shows that you like and appreciate the real her, which is something she rarely finds, and allows her to relax around you. And as any psychologist will tell you, a woman must be relaxed around you to feel sexually aroused.
Note this is to be used SPARINGLY and only in the early stages of dating! Use banter and busting on her more but slip this one in occasionally and she will start looking at you VERY differently. You are starting to take shape as the fantasy guy in point 2 above, and her imagination will do the rest. Also, keep it to harmless quirks. Don’t start encouraging any sort of antisocial traits or behaviour you would not want her to display in public.
Basically it’s a twist on the CA method of rewarding her with compliments, kino etc when she invests something personal in the conversation but the timing is slightly different. It assumes a good level of rapport is already present and works on three principles:
1) On the first few meetings she will be trying to appear perfect. She will almost certainly be putting more effort into this than you realise because of the insecurities all women have
2) Her fantasies of a long term partner will involve someone she can just relax and be herself around, without having to make this effort, someone who loves every part of her
3) She will not be able to keep up the perfect act forever
So all you do is carry on as normal and occasionally when the perfect act slips i.e. she says something stupid, does something clumsy, reward her with some light kino or a SOA. Usually she will have realised her faux pas and be visibly embarrassed. Here I would say something like, “that’s kind of cute actually.” It also works if she tells you she has some weird hobby or habit that she most people find strange. In this case she is taking a gamble by showing vulnerability, so it is an excellent time to use it. I usually bust on her for it a bit later though so she knows I’m not just supplicating..
This technique shows that you like and appreciate the real her, which is something she rarely finds, and allows her to relax around you. And as any psychologist will tell you, a woman must be relaxed around you to feel sexually aroused.
Note this is to be used SPARINGLY and only in the early stages of dating! Use banter and busting on her more but slip this one in occasionally and she will start looking at you VERY differently. You are starting to take shape as the fantasy guy in point 2 above, and her imagination will do the rest. Also, keep it to harmless quirks. Don’t start encouraging any sort of antisocial traits or behaviour you would not want her to display in public.
