Ok, so I just had a thought today on the friends zone, which may or may not have been obvious before to some of you.
Basically, until you've heard the words "let's just be friends" from her mouth, you can assume that there is always a possibility she may be interested in you. This is especially true when you first meet a girl for the first time. If you don't give her reason to say "let's just be friends", then you're still in the game.
I just feel that there are always those relationships that I've known where the couple will say "we were friends, and then became more". A friend of mine who is getting married was friends with his fiance for like 5 years before they got together.
I think the key here is to realize that women are much less apt to jump into a serious relationship with a guy until they are comfortable with him first. This means that they usually have some trust issues, they are usually afraid of getting hurt, and things of that sort. A guy, however, tends to not feel this as much, and he will jump into a relationship much more haphazardly. This causes some problems because the girl will not feel comfortable getting into something like that so fast, so she'll pull out the LJBF card. This doesn't seem to always mean I'm not interested, but sometimes it's more like a signal to slow things down.
Anyways, patience is the key, and I think the best way to develop a great relationship is to make sure you don't apply any pressure to her, actually be "friends" with her (it doesn't mean emotional tampon, but just have fun like you would with any other friend), and just let her show you when she's ready to take the next step. This may or may not come depending on how well you two get along, and if it doesn't, you'll both be friends, and you'll see other folks, and you'll avoid that awkward LJBF speech.
I just had a crazy experience where the girl LJBF'ed me, but when I said that was fine, she didn't really even want that, because she just ignored me. Strange.
Basically, until you've heard the words "let's just be friends" from her mouth, you can assume that there is always a possibility she may be interested in you. This is especially true when you first meet a girl for the first time. If you don't give her reason to say "let's just be friends", then you're still in the game.
I just feel that there are always those relationships that I've known where the couple will say "we were friends, and then became more". A friend of mine who is getting married was friends with his fiance for like 5 years before they got together.
I think the key here is to realize that women are much less apt to jump into a serious relationship with a guy until they are comfortable with him first. This means that they usually have some trust issues, they are usually afraid of getting hurt, and things of that sort. A guy, however, tends to not feel this as much, and he will jump into a relationship much more haphazardly. This causes some problems because the girl will not feel comfortable getting into something like that so fast, so she'll pull out the LJBF card. This doesn't seem to always mean I'm not interested, but sometimes it's more like a signal to slow things down.
Anyways, patience is the key, and I think the best way to develop a great relationship is to make sure you don't apply any pressure to her, actually be "friends" with her (it doesn't mean emotional tampon, but just have fun like you would with any other friend), and just let her show you when she's ready to take the next step. This may or may not come depending on how well you two get along, and if it doesn't, you'll both be friends, and you'll see other folks, and you'll avoid that awkward LJBF speech.
I just had a crazy experience where the girl LJBF'ed me, but when I said that was fine, she didn't really even want that, because she just ignored me. Strange.