Review and Analysis of my current situation

[Desdinova]

My life has been a constant rollercoaster for the last 3 years or so. I'm pretty fvcking exhausted from everything, and there isn't much of an end in sight...

My Job

I still love my work, but I'm exhausted from the constant change that's been going on. Things are better now than they were a couple of months ago. However, the new management isn't as lax as the previous management we had before. It went from "You made a mistake? Okay, just try not to do it again" to "Why did you fvck up? And by the way, I CC'ed the head boss". This whole thing has been difficult to adapt to, and I'm still struggling with it.


My Divorce

Even though it's finalized, a new problem has emerged. I'm now dealing with the unresponsiveness of my lawyer. He isn't responding to neither me, nor to my ex's lawyer. I have a court order for costs to be paid, resulting from my lawyer's unresponsiveness. I've been trying to get him to deal with this issue, but I'm again being ignored. My next step is to hopefully work with my ex-wife in obtaining some extra proof of my lawyer ignoring hers, and using all the evidence to file a complaint in the hopes of getting some or all of these costs covered by HIM. My ex-wife hates my lawyer and loves revenge, so I have a feeling I'll actually be able to count on some co-operation from her.


My Parents

My parents just finished doing up their wills. I get everything. This is going to be elemental in how my life pans out within the next few years. Both of my parents are going downhill quite quickly health-wise. My dad is suffering from COPD and I cannot see him lasting longer than another 2 years. My mother has diabetes and does little to manage it. With my dad having COPD, he has been increasingly reliant on me for help


My Kid

My parents watch my kid when I need someone to look after him. I need to look into child care for him because of my parents' failing health. I will likely require this to be in place when the next school year rolls around, and I haven't had the time to do it due to work, divorce, and parent issues. This is also going to cost me extra money.


I've been so damn run down by all this 5hit I'm going through. I've been trying to keep myself going, upkeeping the house, and trying to keep a bit of fun in my life. My motivation to take care of all this has been awful, and work is demanding that I take less time off to deal with personal issues.

I need a fvcking secretary. I need all this 5hit to go away. I need to de-stress. I needed to rant.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Yep, I know exactly how you feel. Perhaps not exactly in the sense of going through a divorce, dealing with the kids in it, job turning to crap and parents slowly dying....but I know what you're getting at. There are plenty of days, hell weeks even, that it seems damn near everyone wants something from me. Kids want to do X activity, gotta pay fees for whatever the hell kids activity needs, people at church giving me grief for not being there every Sunday because once or twice I feel like I need to do something for myself so I don't fly off the damn handle and start choking the everliving sh!t outta someone.

All these little things add up, and then people have the gall to wonder why middle aged men (who they'll state should 'know better') decide to do some things just for themselves and no one else. Then they'll call us selfish. But oh it's ok for a similarly aged woman to take an entire spa day costing several hundred dollars, followed up by some shopping at the mall, lunch at some high-end place, then come home exhausted so she takes a nap from all that "work", then gets up to go out ride some new c*ck.

But men are selfish.


Ordinarily I'd strongly advise moving away to a new city, new career, new everything. But with divorce and probably some crap written about how you can't move too far away or whatever and family nearby, that probably won't happen. So instead, you better start making time for yourself on a regular basis, at least twice a month. During those days it's all about you and no one else, not even your kid. You do whatever the hell you want and do not under any circumstance let anyone give you a guilt trip for it.

You also need to start the process of finding a reliable babysitter. Make it clear when interviewing the babysitter you're looking for something long-term, like at least a couple years because you want your kid to know that person well and trust them.