Revenge of the EVIL club chick. HEEEELP!

[jakeyboy]

Oh dear. here we go again.

ages ago i posted about this chick who worked in this club i went to. well, i got her number i asked her out, and she flaked at the last moment (didnt pick up my calls and gave me **** about her boss not wanting her to date her clients)

so i nexted her and moved on with my life.

and now she's back.

i went to that same club again, i don't know if she's just being a c0ckteaser, saw her, she greeted me with open arms

and later on into the night i saw her talking with this old foreign guy.. like he's whispering to her and all that. i just felt a bit put off.

so when she was like sending him out of the club to the valet parking, i was walking past her at the same time, so i winked at her and said, "hey babe, i kinda lost your number, gotta get it again later" she said "sure jake"

so here's the bit, just tell me if she's being a huge c0ckteaser.

after sending that foreign guy off she came to look for me, had a couple of drinks each, got a little kino going (hand on her thingh)
and she said she was disappointed that i lost her number. haha and even took her phone out to show me she hadnt lost mine.

so i told her straight, i was pissed at that point when i tried contacting her and she kept giving me bull or just didnt pick up, i simply deleted her number because i didnt see any use in it.

and she said she would definitely see me on a monday (her off day) and we would go for a drink or something.

and i was really curious about the old foreigner, so i asked her what she had goin on with him. she told me he was jsut a regular at the club and what the hell, he bought her a TV set and refrigerator for her new apartment!!! and that was why she felt obligated to hang out with him when he came and i said "gee, now lets see what i can buy you now... a lampshade for you darling? perhaps a teacup?" and she just cracked up.

jesus. i don't have that kind of dough to buy her new ****, and even if i did, i wouldnt. its like she's using him to furnish her new house.

anyways the problem lies here, this is a girl who's flaked on me before, but i wanna give her a chance again under the current circumstances. however, i am leaving the country for a month, attending my sister's graduation. so ill only be back in january. should i call and let her know ill take her out next year, or should i just disappear for a month, and contact her after that? (its a bit weird though)

but i really need your opinion on this girl. c0ckteaser, or maybe she suddenly realized her loss? because of sudden she seems really eager to go out with me

thanks in advance.

 

[Julian]

If i were in your shoes and considering her flakey behavior plus the fact that she has perverted foreign men buy her sh1t i wouldnt have even bothered with her unless the aim was to F-close THAT NIGHT.


Personally i would just dissapear and maybe make an appearance at the club, tell her about the trip and if she is into it, get a f-close. But she definetly doesnt seem like the type i would be trying to "date".

 

[christz]

i think you were right in nexting her. IMO

 

[jakeyboy]

Originally posted by Julian
If i were in your shoes and considering her flakey behavior plus the fact that she has perverted foreign men buy her sh1t i wouldnt have even bothered with her unless the aim was to F-close THAT NIGHT.


Personally i would just dissapear and maybe make an appearance at the club, tell her about the trip and if she is into it, get a f-close. But she definetly doesnt seem like the type i would be trying to "date".

i would have, but i was obligated to my mates that night, it was a solely boys night out and i wasnt gonna just blow off my mates that night for this girl. i was gonna kiss close, but it was sorta inconvenient, cos it was at her workplace.

think ya right, dont think shes date material. ill just disappear, and reappear later after a month and see if she's still interested. i wonder if by then, she'd already conned that old arse to buy her any more crap. and i also wonder what she had to do to make him buy all that for her in the first place.. -shudders-

any other input greatly appreciated

 

[Bonhomme]

good line

i said "gee, now lets see what i can buy you now... a lampshade for you darling? perhaps a teacup?"

Great line (chuckling). Don't buy her a thing. A joke about buying her chickensh1t things was perfect.

She might be worth a shot when you get back if you keep other gals in the picture. But definitely keep her in "backup" status unless she steps up and gives you reason to promote her.

P.S. Make sure you have all the phone #s you do want to keep on a hard copy. Several friends of mine have lost their cell phones, and with them all their #s.

 

[jakeyboy]

Bonhomme

hey mate, i really agree with you on this one, just gonna keep her in the shadows for now, lest she gives me reason to "promote her"

and yeah i do have a hard copy of all the phone numbers. tell me about it, its a pain when you lose all those numbers, its like starting from scratch all over again.

however, have any of you realized that dating/progressing with chicks who work in the bar/club atmosphere is getting increasingly difficult and tedious? like in this case, you never know what she did with that old guy to get all those gadgets out of him. you also can never tell whether she's just entertaining you because you are a customer, or is just a friggin ****teaser to make you go to her club repeatedly, like that foreign bastard does.

its also difficult to kiss close or f close, because she's gotta work and i don't think her boss will take kindly to her smooching on the job.

if any of you guys have dated chicks who work in bars (you met them there first), please gimme yer input.

thanks!

 

[Wyldfire]

She is what I call a "user"...which means she leads guys on in order to get them to buy her things. She has no interest in these guys...she's just greedy and thinks it's okay to take advantage of some poor sap who thinks buying her stuff will get him into her pants.

Don't even bother calling her...she's not worth the effort and all you'll get from her is credit card debt.

 

[Paradox]

Ditto what Wyld said. She was a flake and still is a flake. She will play you like a flute.

Tell you what. Call her on her bluff. Ask her to come home with you when she gets off of work. Watch the excuses come sputtering out of her mouth.

She is, was, and will be a flake. Don't fool yourself. Read this recently posted gold nugget of truth: Stop Reading Into Body And Spoken Language

 

[SuperFlex]

Originally posted by jakeyboy

"gee, now lets see what i can buy you now... a lampshade for you darling? perhaps a teacup?" and she just cracked up.

Next her for someone with a sense of humour!

 

[jakeyboy]

Ditto what Wyld said. She was a flake and still is a flake. She will play you like a flute.

****e. i think what you have said is extremely helpful, i will ask her to come home with me after work, if she doesn't then she's just a teaser/user/****teaser.

i have a feeling the excuse "its 3am in the morning jake!" will come into play. but as we all know, interested women make concessions.

and the post about not reading into body/spoken language, the chick in the club was pretty touchy feely, though i suspect that it may have been friendliness on her part, wanting me to go to the club more often and spend whopping amounts of dough on drinks (hotel club, friggin expensive)

alright, so the plan, disappear for my holiday for a month, come back in the new year, go to the bar, build some rapport that was lost during the month and at the end of it all ask her to go home/out/her place after work. if she does, good for me, if she doesn't, we know she's a "flute player".

thanks for all your feedback guys, anyone else?