Revelation: Game is more important than i thought...

[FutureSpartan]

I was thinking today, it helps to have money, power, looks. I won't deny that fact.

But seriously, if you have to rely your ability to attract women based soley those aspects, what do you think would happen if it was taken away from you.

Say you were skinny or overweight and then proceeded to get into great shape. Good for you right? Yeah you're getting more women than before, awesome right? And then you got into a car wreck which forced you from the gym for a few years. or maybe you just let yourself go. Now you're back to where you started. You relied soley on your body to attract women and now you have nothing to work with.

Or you're the rich investor that suddenly loses his assets in a bad deal. Women (golddiggers) were flocking to you then and you were using your wealth to F**k them. their gone now

I no doubt understand that a well-rounded DJ strives to look better every day and be financially independent.

But if you're basing your confidence and success with women on how much money you make or how muscular you are, doesnt that just seem like a hollow shell? I see buff good looking rich guys with very attractive women...but on the same token I also see average/decent looking broke college dudes dating fine girls as well. So to me, being the ideal guy is great, but most girls really don't seem to care if you're not the ideal guy.

Let it ENHANCE the ladies man you already are...I rather myself have tight game with an average body and being broke while at the same time enhancing my success with a better body and more money.

More or less, I am directing my ideas towards the guys here that feel that they ABSOLUTELY must have X or Y trait/aspect before they can do anything else.

Who cares honestly, there are plenty of cute/hot girls around that will F*ck you just the way you are. Fix your attitude first.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Well, right, attitude. Women have to see your potential (DHV). As long as you have potential, you're in. It's good to have traditional supportive women (both old and young) to socialize with (think of them as your source of people who see value (in you) long-term). Then when you go to snag the looser more liberal ones from the clubs and the pubs, you won't have to rely on them for your confirmation (You've already got a set of long-term thinking women over here who see your potential as a marriage mate). When you have that support structure in place, it's much easier to display your confirmed potential to the Attention Deficit Disorder chicks in bars.

 

[muscleman]

If you think your attitude will do all the work for ya, good luck bud. All that wealth, exercise, power, style, whatever, it's all part of the game. A DJ improves all aspects of his life and relies on everything in combination to get what he wants. And of course those aspects enhance what you already have. I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Sure you could get in a wreck and be out of the gym for a while, but what are you saying, you'll still be pullin HBs in a wheelchair? Come on now. And if it's about "attitude", what about all those playas who used to get all the girls, then settled into a worthless LTR and several years later are back on the street. You think their "game" and "attitude" come right back? It's takes constant work. All of it.

Being in shape > more confidence/respect > more girls
Having money > more confidence/respect > more girls
Looking good/style > more confidence/respect > more girls

You gotta combine everything man.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Well, if you get your hand chopped off or don't even have a car, you can still "game" them as long as you maintain the belief that "I am the prize, She is trying to win over." Sure women are gonna be weirded out by the missing hand but if you reframe everything she says or does as keeping the metaframe that You are the prize, then she or others will become attracted to you (and sleep with you). You just have to be able to "shunt off" negative reactions immediately and turn it around on her. Guys with no car get women all the time to chase them by the use of one word in our vocabulary and that word is "No."

 

[FutureSpartan]

If you think your attitude will do all the work for ya, good luck bud. All that wealth, exercise, power, style, whatever, it's all part of the game. A DJ improves all aspects of his life and relies on everything in combination to get what he wants. And of course those aspects enhance what you already have. I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Sure you could get in a wreck and be out of the gym for a while, but what are you saying, you'll still be pullin HBs in a wheelchair? Come on now. And if it's about "attitude", what about all those playas who used to get all the girls, then settled into a worthless LTR and several years later are back on the street. You think their "game" and "attitude" come right back? It's takes constant work. All of it.

Being in shape > more confidence/respect > more girls
Having money > more confidence/respect > more girls
Looking good/style > more confidence/respect > more girls

You gotta combine everything man.

I agree...but a lot of guys i know seem to have this mindset

"Geez shes gorgeous, but because Im not built, rich, and stylish like those GQ models, I wont talk to her"

Excuses man. Thats what I am sayin, guys underestimating themselves because they feel they're not built enough, rich enough, DJ enough, drunk enough etc...
to just even approach a girl they like.

Im all for self-improvement, but it takes time to develop yourself into your ideal. In the meantime, going out and approaching and conversating with attractive women, alone, would help improve your game tremendously.