reunited with an old HS friend, made plans for concert in 3 weeks now what?

[08gsxr1000]

Alright I need help bad!! I met my dream girl and I do not wanna screw this up. Alright here's the details: About five years ago I had a class with this girl my sophomore year in high school. We were both young and shy, I sat far away from her in the class but I still talked and interacted with her. I could always tell she had interest in me and so did I. But again we were both young and shy and didn't do anything about it. It was a big school so I never had a class with her or saw her around after that. Okay.. so now were both in our twenties and I was at a concert here in town and of all the people there I happened to see her. I hesitated a little but finally walked over and asked if she remembered me, and she said said yes! She remembered my full name the class we had and everything! We really hit it off we caught up on past things, why we never saw each other after that and so on. She told me several times how handsome and grown up I was. And she had turned out very gorgeous herself and I made sure I told her. So to sum it up she invited me to go with her to another concert there scheduled less than a month from that day. So I got her number talked a little bit more and we went our separate ways. I texted her later that night saying hey this is so and so good seeing you here's my number. She replied back confirming it. I texted her again two days later with just a little humorous small talk back and forth. It has been over a week since then and the concert we made plans for is about 10 days away. I don't wanna seem like im trying to get into her pants. Should I text or call now? I don't know if I should continue to text her or just wait until the concert is closer? I don't want to annoy her with to much texting. This is one of those girls that fine! but down to earth and chill. Should I just leave it be with what ive already done, and wait til the concert is closer? Or text her some more to keep her interested. Which im pretty sure she still is. What should I do???

 

[Harry Wilmington]

First.... aaaaaawwwwwwwwwww! This story is so cute!

Okay, now that I got that out of the way, a few things:

1. Always remember: the way you caught them is the way you keep them. Dude, she's liked you since high school and still likes you now, as evident of the fact that (a) she remembered your full name and various details about you and your time in class, and (b) that she asked you for a date, meaning she was looking to see you again.

Now, you were able to have her keep you on her mind for 5 years without so much as a phone call, FB friendship or text message. DO NOT START OVER-DOING THESE THINGS NOW. Part of what kept her attracted to you was the mystery of what you "might" be doing. When you call/text her repeatedly, she knows what you "are" doing, which takes some of the fun out of it for her brain. You don't need to call/text her repeatedly before the show - she remembered you for 5 years, so it's safe to say she can remember the time and day of the date SHE asked you on for the next 10 days without you being all in her ear.

2. Please add the following 2 sentence into your head, and repeat them ad nausea:
1."Women LIKE having sex with men they like."
2."It's okay for me to like, pursue, and have sex with women that I like."

To point one: if she finds you attractive in any kind of way, she's already thought about having sex with you. However, most girls will still wait for the guy to make some kind of move so they have they okay to do it.

To point 2: Be real with yourself - you WANT to have sex with this girl. And it's okay if you feel that way, and also okay if you DO end up having sex with her. Right now you're coming from the "Nice Guy" school of thought (which is the same thing I used to do back in my "not getting laid" early 20s days), whereby you view certain girls as too precious to want to do anything physical right away. Don't fall for it - I lost my virginity to a preacher's daughter, and to this day she's the freakiest chick I've ever been with.

That's not to say you just show up on the date with your junk hanging out telling her to s*ck it. Again, it's about knowing how to read signals, escalate appropriately and make the right moves at the right time. And BELIEVE me, if you're paying attention to the moves she's making towards you (i.e. any light to medium touches, walking close to you, complimenting you constantly, asking "so, what do you want to do now that the concert's over?"), it should be easy to tell if she's taking it slow or ready for you to pounce on her.

Hope this helps!

 

[08gsxr1000]

Thanks for the reply! This is very detailed and exactly the answer I was looking for. Initially after texting her the second time I planned on just asking her about five days before the concert because the same band she wants to see is playing two nights in a row. And I wanted to verify which day is best. This band is really popular and could sell out so to be on the safe side thats why I wanna ask her five days before. What you think? And also should I offer to buy her ticket? And yea im gonna try not to drink to much and really pay attention to her. I definitely have alot better game than back then. Ive just gotta really read her like you said and ill know exactly what she wants. If she feels the same way I do that she is the one im golden. But no matter how much she likes me or no matter what I say or do im not gonna get her in bed on the first night. I could just read that off her in that short time talking to her that its real and she wants more than just my d***. But you never know if she's down ill know how to tell. Im just gonna go with the flow on the sex part. Im just ready for something real im tired of "fu** buddies".

 

[Greasy Pig]

Dude! Calm the fvck down. I can tell from your post that you're waaaay too excited about this. Don't worry, I've been there and felt exactly the same and fvcked it up by being too keen and trying too hard.

Don't ask her which day is best, tell her what day suits you and you'd like to meet her there. If that doesn't suit her, then negotiate.
Do NOT offer to buy her ticket. Just be cool and casual or you run the risk of scaring her off by being over-eager.
Don't pay too much attention to her. Be a fun, cool guy. Talk to other people around you but stay close to her.
There's an art to showing a girl you're interested but not appearing desperate.

Harry is spot on (again). She's been thinking about you for five years, so a few weeks is nothing.
But I'm curious. Why the hell haven't you scheduled to see her sooner or is a month off the only time you can organise?

 

[08gsxr1000]

Alright thats good advice I need to just chill. See idk that's what im trying to figure out. Should I txt or call her and try and set up a sooner date? I dont think she realized how far away it really was when she asked me. Or should I just play it cool and not text or talk til its closer? Were both work and are finishing college locally. So maybe because of these circumstances and that this is a popular band and that it just happened to be a month later. But I dont know. Ive never been in this situation. Ive got everything going good so far so i wanna make sure the next move I make is different and intriguing because thats how ive played this out since the beginning. Thanks!