When I first came here about 8 years ago I was a serial monogamist, in unhappy relationships with the wrong girls, unsatisfied with my life and generally feeling trapped in everything I did.
These days, I'm a single guy, happy to be so, and I've got my life well on track. I feel free like the world is my oyster and I'm not even stressed about the fact that I'm soon gonna turn 32. I generally always have somewhere between 3-8 girls I can booty call at any one time. In fact I usually cut them off if they start to get too attached.
I just want to come back and share some of the core values that help me sustain this lifestyle. Many of these are concepts and tips that I read on here some 8 years ago, but it's hard to realy internalise these things unless you've had a chance to live them out. I just want to confirm that yes: they work. These are my 5 keys to success.
1) The state of your life is more important than whether or not you have a woman in it.
Or to put it another way, having a beautiful girlfriend will not make you happy if your life is a mess. Whatever it takes, if you have no life, career, education, passions, skills, friends then put your pursuit of women to the side and sort this stuff out first. Women just get in the way. If you do manage to score a hottie first (I did, several times) then you will have no power in the relationship and she will walk all over you. However, if you have a real sense of your own value and direction in life then you will be more inclined to stick up for yourself, and even walk away if necessary. This is the kind of person that women want to please.
2) Presentation is everything.
It doesn't really matter if you're the smoothest talker in the land. She'll put you in the 'yes' or 'no' category immediately. There IS a small grey area between the 2 that is based on your conversation, and crap chat can get you dropped from 'yes' into 'no' if you're not careful. It doesn't work the other way. But your looks are less important than your general health and grooming. Too fat? Sort it out. Too scruffy? Sort it out, unless you want to attract a certain kind of girl. Honestly, HEALTH AND GROOMING are the keys here. Eat well, excercise, wear sexy clothes and accessories, shave and get a haircut.
3) Pick the ones who are interested.
This seems like an obvious no brainer, but people think it takes some skill to spot this. It doesn't really, just some awareness. If a girl likes you she will give subtle cues IMMEDIATELY. Once you train yourself to look for this you can tell within a few seconds whether a girl likes you or not. And it may be the one next to the girl you're wasting your time with. Very simple people: the first eye contact is maintained? Check. She smiles or smiles back? Check. She says hi first or otherwise starts a conversation? Check. She asks your name? Check (I always ask hers and dont offer mine unless she asks). She touches you? Check. She reciprocates when you touch her? Check. (Make sure you do this!!!! Touch her hands etc..) She stays talking to you longer than she 'needs' to? Check. To be honest any one of these cues is enough for me to go for a kiss or a number or a dance, or all of the above, or just take her home.
4) There's no need whatsoever to play games.
How many days should I wait to call? Who cares, call when you have time. You do have other stuff going on in your life right. You can be pretty blatant about what you're looking for. In my case I just invite them to my place for dinner and wine. Why bother going on dates? I'm not necessarily interested in anything other than sex and this invitation makes that pretty obvious. If they are looking for more they will probably suggest something more date-like. If I'm interested in that kind of scenario, I may meet them elsewhere. If they come round, I generally talk about my commitment issues before the sex just so everyone is clear on the matter. If they really aren't interested in no-strings sex, then I might start to evaluate their LTR value. But be a gentleman, there's no need to lie.
5) Women are infinite.
For me, it's a numbers game. Why would you waste your time on a particular woman when there's 10 more hotter, more intelligent, exciting, educated women round the corner waiting for you? I guess this depends on where you live. I live in Glasgow (pop. half a million) but I'm planning to relocate to London (pop. over 7 million) since I have a 100% success rate when I visit there compared to around 70% where I live. This also has a lot to do with the diversity of people in London compared to Glasgow, and a high quantity of young, single, female immigrants from all over the world. If you're having trouble scoring and you live in a small town, get yourself somewhere where there are more opportunities!
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Hope this helps someone, despite being rather obvious
These days, I'm a single guy, happy to be so, and I've got my life well on track. I feel free like the world is my oyster and I'm not even stressed about the fact that I'm soon gonna turn 32. I generally always have somewhere between 3-8 girls I can booty call at any one time. In fact I usually cut them off if they start to get too attached.
I just want to come back and share some of the core values that help me sustain this lifestyle. Many of these are concepts and tips that I read on here some 8 years ago, but it's hard to realy internalise these things unless you've had a chance to live them out. I just want to confirm that yes: they work. These are my 5 keys to success.
1) The state of your life is more important than whether or not you have a woman in it.
Or to put it another way, having a beautiful girlfriend will not make you happy if your life is a mess. Whatever it takes, if you have no life, career, education, passions, skills, friends then put your pursuit of women to the side and sort this stuff out first. Women just get in the way. If you do manage to score a hottie first (I did, several times) then you will have no power in the relationship and she will walk all over you. However, if you have a real sense of your own value and direction in life then you will be more inclined to stick up for yourself, and even walk away if necessary. This is the kind of person that women want to please.
2) Presentation is everything.
It doesn't really matter if you're the smoothest talker in the land. She'll put you in the 'yes' or 'no' category immediately. There IS a small grey area between the 2 that is based on your conversation, and crap chat can get you dropped from 'yes' into 'no' if you're not careful. It doesn't work the other way. But your looks are less important than your general health and grooming. Too fat? Sort it out. Too scruffy? Sort it out, unless you want to attract a certain kind of girl. Honestly, HEALTH AND GROOMING are the keys here. Eat well, excercise, wear sexy clothes and accessories, shave and get a haircut.
3) Pick the ones who are interested.
This seems like an obvious no brainer, but people think it takes some skill to spot this. It doesn't really, just some awareness. If a girl likes you she will give subtle cues IMMEDIATELY. Once you train yourself to look for this you can tell within a few seconds whether a girl likes you or not. And it may be the one next to the girl you're wasting your time with. Very simple people: the first eye contact is maintained? Check. She smiles or smiles back? Check. She says hi first or otherwise starts a conversation? Check. She asks your name? Check (I always ask hers and dont offer mine unless she asks). She touches you? Check. She reciprocates when you touch her? Check. (Make sure you do this!!!! Touch her hands etc..) She stays talking to you longer than she 'needs' to? Check. To be honest any one of these cues is enough for me to go for a kiss or a number or a dance, or all of the above, or just take her home.
4) There's no need whatsoever to play games.
How many days should I wait to call? Who cares, call when you have time. You do have other stuff going on in your life right. You can be pretty blatant about what you're looking for. In my case I just invite them to my place for dinner and wine. Why bother going on dates? I'm not necessarily interested in anything other than sex and this invitation makes that pretty obvious. If they are looking for more they will probably suggest something more date-like. If I'm interested in that kind of scenario, I may meet them elsewhere. If they come round, I generally talk about my commitment issues before the sex just so everyone is clear on the matter. If they really aren't interested in no-strings sex, then I might start to evaluate their LTR value. But be a gentleman, there's no need to lie.
5) Women are infinite.
For me, it's a numbers game. Why would you waste your time on a particular woman when there's 10 more hotter, more intelligent, exciting, educated women round the corner waiting for you? I guess this depends on where you live. I live in Glasgow (pop. half a million) but I'm planning to relocate to London (pop. over 7 million) since I have a 100% success rate when I visit there compared to around 70% where I live. This also has a lot to do with the diversity of people in London compared to Glasgow, and a high quantity of young, single, female immigrants from all over the world. If you're having trouble scoring and you live in a small town, get yourself somewhere where there are more opportunities!
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Hope this helps someone, despite being rather obvious
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