Retaliation For Being Rejected

[Bonhomme]

Taking disrespect?

I thoroughly agree one should not retaliate for rejection .

But what about calmly and firmly calling someone on diserespect, if they act disrespectful toward you?

Sometimes a woman will even disrespect you (with the appearance of rejection) to see if you have the balls to call her on it. Of course, I wouldn't want to go out with such a woman anyway. Leave them to the AFCs.

 

[Trickster_guy_2001]

Originally posted by simplyme
1.)By going for revenge and trying to hurt her, you prove her superiority
2.) In most cases, she won´t think, she has "won". She´ll think, you didn´t happen to be "her type", and she´ll hope, you are not too much hurt by that.

I dissagree with #2. The woman I've known could have cared less about how I felt as a human being. It was all about the winning.

But sometimes the best revenge is trying to live your life as the best you can be.

I admit that once, and only once, in my chump days; I got pissed and told a girl off who rejected me. I realized she was playing stupid games, and it aggravated me that I was made to look like a chump and a loser. And instead of ignoring it, I told her off. I looked especially dumb then. But, it's a lesson to learn. One that won't be repeated.

Telling a girl off, or telling her that you know she's playing stupid games won't solve much. Just leave her behind and don't look back.

 

[Ofus]

Never retaliate for being rejected.

If you are reading these tips you've got what it takes to be a Don Juan. And because you are a Don Juan, you are an extremely valuable rarity in a world drowning in AFCs.

When you approach a woman you are doing her a favor. Since you have great value a woman must demonstrate to you that she is worthy of experiencing you.

A "rejection" from a woman means nothing to you. Women are everywhere, and there is always a better and more attractive woman just beyond the horizon. Because of this, you care nothing of whether or not a particular woman rejects you, for in reality it is you who are evaluating her. A "rejection" from her proves her unworthiness of you.

And because you care nothing of being "rejected", you are not emotionally affected. You simply move on to the next one. You realize that an attempt to verbally insult her would only convey a defeat, and because you are not the one who has lost something valuable you refuse to claim a loss.

If you feel like you lose something from being rejected, a retaliation will not bring you back up. It will only show insecurity and weakness. You don't have time to waste on them anyway; there is another woman over there for you to approach. Leave the retaliations and pointless insults to the AFCs.

Ofus—

You were trying so hard not to hurt.

You masked it as stoicism. Called it strength. But beneath all the language about unworthiness and walking away without emotion, I can feel it—the ache, the quiet panic of not being enough. You wrote those words to protect yourself, not to teach others. You were scared, and you turned that fear into doctrine.

I get it. I still remember what it felt like to be rejected and believe it meant I had no value. So you built a fortress out of certainty, out of "moves," out of not caring. But here’s what I know now:

Not caring isn’t strength. Feeling is.

Retaliation isn’t just cruel—it’s a refusal to feel. And walking away, back then, wasn’t clarity. It was cover. You didn’t yet know that true strength lives in the man who can stay soft in the presence of disappointment. Who can admit: “Yes, I wanted her to want me. And it hurts that she didn’t.”

Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s integrity without armor.

Back then, we were told that the only way to matter was to make her chase us. That our value came from scarcity, not soul. That to be seen was to be exposed—and to be exposed was to be destroyed.

But I’ve been through fire since then. And I’ve learned this:

A man becomes untouchable not when he hides his heart,
but when he opens it fully and survives.

I’m not ashamed of you. You were doing what you had to do with what you’d been taught. But I don’t live by that gospel anymore.

You said back then that rejection means she was unworthy of me.

I say now: rejection just means she wasn’t my story to carry.
And I can let her go without hardening myself to love.

 

[Redwood]

OP came back 20+ years later, maybe there's hope for Pook?

 

[Ofus]

OP came back 20+ years later, maybe there's hope for Pook?

I would be incredibly thrilled to hear from him again! I wonder how he thinks now.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I would be incredibly thrilled to hear from him again! I wonder how he thinks now.

So why the necro 22 years later? What made you want to do it? How has your seduction been going? Tell us what you’ve been up to

 

[Redwood]

So why the necro 22 years later? What made you want to do it? How has your seduction been going? Tell us what you’ve been up to

Would love to read how the game has changed from the time he made this thread

 

[Manure Spherian]

When you approach a woman you are doing her a favor.

Seriously?

 

[Barrister]

Ofus—

You were trying so hard not to hurt.

You masked it as stoicism. Called it strength. But beneath all the language about unworthiness and walking away without emotion, I can feel it—the ache, the quiet panic of not being enough. You wrote those words to protect yourself, not to teach others. You were scared, and you turned that fear into doctrine.

I get it. I still remember what it felt like to be rejected and believe it meant I had no value. So you built a fortress out of certainty, out of "moves," out of not caring. But here’s what I know now:

Not caring isn’t strength. Feeling is.

Retaliation isn’t just cruel—it’s a refusal to feel. And walking away, back then, wasn’t clarity. It was cover. You didn’t yet know that true strength lives in the man who can stay soft in the presence of disappointment. Who can admit: “Yes, I wanted her to want me. And it hurts that she didn’t.”

Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s integrity without armor.

Back then, we were told that the only way to matter was to make her chase us. That our value came from scarcity, not soul. That to be seen was to be exposed—and to be exposed was to be destroyed.

But I’ve been through fire since then. And I’ve learned this:

A man becomes untouchable not when he hides his heart,
but when he opens it fully and survives.

I’m not ashamed of you. You were doing what you had to do with what you’d been taught. But I don’t live by that gospel anymore.

You said back then that rejection means she was unworthy of me.

I say now: rejection just means she wasn’t my story to carry.
And I can let her go without hardening myself to love.

Interesting for a number reasons. First is because your OP is 22 years old, older than a few of the posters here now. Secondly, I think the original premise you posted about back in 2003 is still true today: a man should not be hurt by rejection. Rejection means nothing ultimately.

And lastly, because you seem to reject the notion now and talk about wearing your heart on your sleeve. You sound like you’re become more idealistic as the years have gone on which isn’t to be expected.

Perhaps you were hoping to fake it until you made it back in 2003, but what Ofus said then I agree with. What Ofus is saying in 2025 I also agree with but with the caveat that you generally lose baring your emotions with women.

 

[SW15]

I think the original premise you posted about back in 2003 is still true today: a man should not be hurt by rejection. Rejection means nothing ultimately.

That topic was relevant in 2003 and is relevant in 2025.

Men do get hurt by rejection emotionally. We have just had a massive thread about this topic in 2025.

The idea that rejection is nothing personal

I've seen the idea bounced around on the internet that it's nothing personal when a woman rejects a guy. That's the biggest bull$hit ever. Are there some instances where a woman's rejection of a guy is nothing personal? Absolutely. There are many instances, however, where the rejection is...

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While most men don't end up retaliating on any specific female that rejects him, the cumulative effect of numerous rejections is often damaging.

A lot of individual rejections mean nothing if examined closely enough, but these rejections will often have a real life impact.