"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Restraining order might be in my future

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I sure hope the hell I don't have to file one :eek: ..... there is a good chance of my ex moving back to my town. She moved away about a year ago its been nice to not have any threat of running into her at the grocery store or seeing her on the road.

The damn b*tch will have the opportunity to return the division of the corporation in my town probably in a couple months. She moved away because the lack of consistent work so she couldn't survive on the money. She attended college when she moved to the town where her at the time boyfriend lived.

I get the feeling she's going to move back, the guy she just dumped is a few bricks short of a load. She has some good friends here none where she lives now, its also farther for her to travel to see her mom.

Nice having a 250km buffer zone, funny sh!t happened to me when she was around even when we were split up she still smear campaigned me. I wish there was a way you can snap your fingers and BPD exes disappear from the planet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just ignore her.

Even if you bump into each other, smile at her and be polite.

I do bump into exes and I'd be polite mainly because they do look older and drooping in certain places.
 

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The smear campaign never ends with BPDs its been nice with her gone and out of the area for a year people realize I'm not the evil nasty person she claimed I was.
 

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I've been called bast@rd, @sshole, evil, demonic and others, its a long list and I've yet to see something new added to that list.

I've gotten all these super nasty names.

Everything seems so super, nothing plain.

Reminds me of super man.
 

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I learned a new word from my BPD ex. "Vitriol." It means 'harsh insulting language.' Merriam-Websters lists 'abuse' as one of the synonyms of vitriol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ya my ex has aged she's not the young good looking woman she used to be, she's gained weight, aged herself she starting smoking again. I didn't go to hell in the handbasket like she hoped, I'm healthier than ever, happier than ever, life is good. Its the fvcking smear campaign I know damn well she will start it again if she see's me, gets jealous she hates seeing me happy. One of her friends she hung out a lot with when she lived here has realized I'm not the evil person she portrayed me as we've interacted on social media he's found out I'm not who she claimed I'am.

I wish she would stay in the new town she lives in, the opportunity to take a full time position I have a feeling she will take it, where she works NOBODY trusts her they want to see her gone. I've said before she walks into a room with other staff they all walk out the room, they have very little interaction with her. I wish I never got to know her 6 years ago, oh well live and learn.
 

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I learned a new word from my BPD ex. "Vitriol." It means 'harsh insulting language.' Merriam-Websters lists 'abuse' as one of the synonyms of vitriol.
Woah, I learned that word when I was like 10 or 11. People usually use it in regards to speech like “that lying SOB was just spewing out vitriol at me just to start something” or something like that.
 
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