Responses to "hello, how are yous?"

[BigCat]

Say you are on POF like I am and 1 of the following scenarios happens:

1) Woman initiates by messaging something like: "Hey there how are you?"

2) Woman responds to your email saying basically the same thing "How was your day...?"

Obviously in latter case it is important what you said to her beforehand but what is the basic gist?

Example email I got that I haven't responded to yet:

hey,

Sorry, i havnt been on this very much to be honest, it is full of creepy men so i kind of gave up and didnt come back on until tonight. Have you had a nice day? been up to anything exciting? what is it you do?
Im a student radiographer, just about to graduate, just need to find a real job now!
x

So what is the best way to respond to this simple situation? I'm really new to the whole PUA thing as you can probably see. I do have history with the whole game thing - story 4 another day i think. Recently I've been learning from InsiderInternet Dating - pretty good stuff.

Any ideas on a good, snappy response that allows for taking things that much closer to meeting etc. would be much appreciated

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Considering the abundance of freaks on these sites, I'd probably go less with PUA stuff, and more with sounding like a cool guy.

She's asking how your day went, if you've been up to anything exciting, and what you do....


You want to get her closer to meeting you. So make your life sound like one that she'd want to be involved in.

"Have I been up to anything exciting? Everything is exciting now that this long winter is over. Hell, walking to my car is exciting. But seriously, I've been doing lots of (blah blah) which is lots of fun.

You think the guys on this site are creepy? You should see the stuff these girls are sending me. My hands are constantly on the delete button."


Now you're coming across as a guy who loves life, and you're so desirable that you're constantly deleting messages from creepy chicks. Then you finish up with some talk about your local bars/clubs/social scene. Ask her what she does for fun in her area.

Then she'll reply. And then your final reply to her will be "Well I think you'd love (Blah Bar). You should come grab a drink with me. What's your number?"

Some guys might tell you to ask her out straight-away, but I think on the internet, you have to do 2 or 3 messages of rapport building. Not dozens of messages. Literally 3 messages should be the maximum. You can't be dedicating hours of correspondence to some girl you havent even met.

 

[BigCat]

That sounds gold Mantis, it really does. I instinctively understand the pua approach isn't the best when it comes to online sarging - but I don't want to be generic and boring - InsiderInternetDating has helped a lot. You are bang on about the number of messages before meeting too. This one girl replied to me asking if I had msn and gave me her msn address. I still haven't responded cuz I know (and ppl have said) its bad to im girls online when trying to date. What should I reply?

Its funny that such simple messages can make me scratch my head for ages thinking about what to reply with. I always leave it a day or so in between messages so I don't come across as too eager - I want her to think I am in demand and the format you suggested compliments that nicely!

So what do you reckon would be a good on the spot approach to a woman initiated email ? ...saying: "Hi How are you?" Frankly I was tempted to just delete the message lol - its what 99% of guys send to women and I totally feel them when they get that sort of lazy, dumb messages in their inboxes

 

[BigCat]

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