"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Adding to my last post of her updating her profile...

I told her that “it sorta changes things...” and sent her a screen shot of her updated pics in a text.

She responded many times and I remained quiet but responded once after her, what I call “false male validation” (I want you blah blah) texts, and I responded to her asking if I want her to delete her dating profile. To which I replied “Don’t delete it. Keep those options wide open lol”

That was followed by some more attempts at reassuring and her saying she’s not like that and likes me and again, blah blah and later wishes me good night. I have said nothing. A day has gone by and she sends me this around 5p:

Her: “Hope you had a good day. I don't know why you're mad at me. ”

So my question is more about response etiquette. I looked online again today and it said she was online today and her updated profile remains.

I get that many of you have been down this path of selfish woman bs and I’m not pissed but I can’t say it doesn’t bother me..

I am seeking advice on how or if I should respond
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Two things triggered my alarm bell:

"her saying she's not like that"

"I don't know why you're mad at me"


The first is her denial. The second is her starting to gaslight you. Tread with caution.
 

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She said she’s not like that and doesn’t want to talk to other guys.

She said “I like you hun”

She said she updated that the first week we dated. She actually updated it the first time we slept together, last Thursday. Day sex. She loved it and I consider her borderline boring

I don’t know what else she said because I’ve deleted her messages along with my dating profile. She said nothing along the lines “well we weren’t exclusive”
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I dunno what you've written about this woman before, but obviously any kind of commitment is out. Which means that whether you respond or not, and what you respond with, is trivial because all she can be is a plate. So knock yourself out, just ask yourself what some fun things to say would be or move on to new women if you can't be bothered.

Don't waste more time taking this woman seriously.
 

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She’s calling now. I’m running my kids around.

Any other thoughts would be helpful.

Thank you
 
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