"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Response to a flaker

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As part of my work its ingrained into me to keep my appointments and be on time. So naturally in my casual life keeping meetings and plans are just as important to me.

A girl I'm mildly interested in texts me and asks me to hang out. We make a time and date for next Tuesday. I had a suspicion that she would forget or cancel on me. But seriously... she's not working or going to school, she's got nothing going on in her life that would make her too busy to forget.


Come Monday next week I get a text from her: "hey i totally forgot about tomorrow, but we can still hang out if you want to"

My reply: "If you've forgotten then don't worry about it, maybe write it down next time"

Thoughts? Anyway you would've changed it?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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p.s. Chick didn't flake. She was testing to see if you were still interested. Instead you kind of went off on her. She's probably used to being chased. You had her where you wanted her. Then you kind of f'd it. My opinion. BTW, my above response would have disarmed the whole situation.
 
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