"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Response for when she gets nosey?

Brighty

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How do you guys respond when a girl asks about specifics on who it was that you hung out with? This girl flaked on me this weekend and apologized the next day. I told her not to sweat it and that things ended up working out, and casually mentioned hanging out with another friend. She brought it up later, as if to try and get me to go into specifics, and I kind of just ignored it and changed the subject, we're not even dating and it doesn't seem like it should be any of her concern. A few days later She measages me and makes small talk, but this time deliberately and bluntly asking me who my friend was and what we did. I know why shes doing this, but theres no Real way to just avoid the question This time.

She's a nice girl, but that's a bit nosey, I don't want to bluntly tell her it isn't her business and have our interactions turn sour. Im not interested in this girl after the flake, but we both have good mutual friends and will Run into each other. At the same time I do secretly get a kick out of leaving her in the dark since she flaked on me to begin with. I'd rather not be overt about it.

I was just going to keep teasing her by withholding who it was, but I didn't expect her to be so forward. How would some of the suave-ier dudes duck the question?

I didn't really feel like this would warrant its own topic, but considering how often the situation arises where the girl gets curious and you want to keep playing into that, I figure it would be interesting to have some good lines.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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YouKnowI'mRight

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Brighty said:
How do you guys respond when a girl asks about specifics on who it was that you hung out with? This girl flaked on me this weekend and apologized the next day. I told her not to sweat it and that things ended up working out, and casually mentioned hanging out with another friend. She brought it up later, as if to try and get me to go into specifics, and I kind of just ignored it and changed the subject, we're not even dating and it doesn't seem like it should be any of her concern. A few days later She measages me and makes small talk, but this time deliberately and bluntly asking me who my friend was and what we did. I know why shes doing this, but theres no Real way to just avoid the question This time.
Sure there is. Ignore it. You're not required to fill out a form detailing your activities in life and if you DO start doing it you'll have to keep doing it.

She's a nice girl, but that's a bit nosey, I don't want to bluntly tell her it isn't her business and have our interactions turn sour.
They're all nosey. It's built in to women and there are good reasons for it.

When I'm asked a nosey question (a "nunya" one), I either just stare like I didn't hear the question, or go over the top in a fun way.

For instance: If a girl flakes on a date and then asks me what I did, I may say "strippers!" and smile at my joke. That's it. If she wants to know details about what I'm doing then she needs to be there instead of flaking.

Once someone starts regularly getting answers to nosey questions it doesn't stop....you'll spend more time explaining what you're doing in life than actually doing it.
 

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This is why it's bad to talk to a girl like a girl. So that you can always say "I was out with my buds" and leave it at that. No explainations necessary, no story, no hot gossip about my night. If she keeps asking it's because she wants to know somehting in particular. So i'll be like "what? what do you want to know?" then i'll go back to the original "I dunno, we were just chilling." and call her weird or something for being so nosey.
 
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