Responds positively in person but never initiates anything

[kareemm]

Whats up gents...long term lurker, first time poster...

Would appreciate if some of the more experienced guys on here could chime in on my situation

Saw a girl ive met several times through friends about a month ago, ended up having sex the first night we met at a party....took her number down.

1st time i saw her post sex, my buddy was with her and some girls at a bar and he invited me. We had plans to hang and it was a coincidence that she was there. She ended up having work in the AM, opportunity for going home together wasnt there so we made out and decided on making plans for the following week.

Saw her the following week, had drinks. Were making out and touching each other in the booth...she invites me back to her place....despite wanting to I deny....mainly because i had to be up at like 8am and she lives far + in my past experience, turning down sex after you already had sex is a powerful move

Last night, I hit her up and ask what she has going on for the night. She tells me her friend is hosting a party downtown and to text her if im in the city...no invite. My buddys girlfriend and said chick are friends so when i meet up with him, he suggests we go there to which i agree. Me and 5 of my friends get there, i say hi to her but do my own thing with my boys for most of the night drinking and chilling.

She decides to have a huge house party afterwards and like 20 people go back to her house, including me. Literally could not isolate her the whole god damn night because theres people all over. We make out a bit and I tell her im out.

I hit her up for a hungover booty call, she tells me shes tired from last night. I suggest we meet up Thursday and she says "sorry baby i cant thurs" with no resced offer...i didnt reply

Not sure if I should next her or not....on one hand we've already boned, she reacts positively in person but she neverrrrrr facilitates anything...i feel like im doing all the work and making all the requests to hang out.....shes pretty hot and has a huge social circle so i can see her having a princess attitude that "the guy should do all the work" but i dont buy into that BS and im honestly getting sick of it...

i mean i would say shes not interested but she literally reacts so positively physically every time i see her....i mean why is she inviting me back to her place if she isnt into me?


How should I proceed? This has been an issue with me and women....i basically cut off girls who dont throw themselves at me...which is good because it wastes no time and but it has stopped me from getting with the chicks i actually want

I think im gonna ignore her for a week or so and hit her up again....


Any suggestions/input on the situation is greatly appreciated ....thanks bros

 

[zekko]

Not sure if I should next her or not....on one hand we've already boned, she reacts positively in person but she neverrrrrr facilitates anything...i feel like im doing all the work and making all the requests to hang out..

She sounds like she has low interest, probably because she has a lot of options. However, some people are just very passive. And women especially, if they are getting asked out a lot without having to put in any effort. I mean, why should they if they don't have to?

This has been an issue with me and women....i basically cut off girls who dont throw themselves at me...which is good because it wastes no time and but it has stopped me from getting with the chicks i actually want

The cutting off girls who don't throw themselves at you bit, that's Anti-Dump's philosophy, basically. It's a good one, I think, but then you say it stops you from getting the girls you actually want - if that's important to you then yeah, you're probably going to have to put in more effort. It's all about risk/reward, and how much you want to tolerate.

I think im gonna ignore her for a week or so and hit her up again....

If she's really that hot and she's hanging out with that many people, she may not be on the market that long. But she doesn't sound like she would make for a good long term thing anyway. You've already banged her, I'd put her in the win column. Then if you get anything else from her, that's just icing on the cake.

 

[kareemm]

Thanks guys

Ive cut off some absolutely beautiful and fun girls I probably could have had something with simply because they never threw themselves at me....anyone I know who has the super hot, super popular girl theyre seeing did so by jumping through hoops and staying painfully consistent...I've always been against this and always thought going against the mold was good....but its never really worked for me.....things always just go completely cold.....it only works on girls with no lives, less attractive chicks and clingly basket cases......im tired of those kinds of women

The thing is im getting a response just good enough that I feel like i shouldnt next her.....We've already slept together, we physically escalate when we're together, she answers all my texts, she told a mutual friend "Kareem is cute I just wanna bang him", we went out a few days ago

But no matter what, its pissing me off that she doesnt meet me half way at all...I feel like I'm doing all the asking, all the work, seeing her at parties other friends are inviting me to instead of her....

Yea i know spin more plates, talk to more girls, next her, but that doesnt get me the ass I want

I almost wish she was giving me less so making the decision to cut her off ....I truly cant gauge her interest level....i mean do low interest girls make out with you, sleep with you and invite you to their houses late in the evening?

 

[pyros]

Reality check:

if she is not initiating anything after you had sex...she is not interested, or more precisely, she is more interested in another dude. Sad but true. Happened to me

If you persist, ask her out, text her etc while she does nothing...you may get another bang, but she will likely next you very soon, so I would focus my energy in another chick.

I say this because I've done it before, I persisted...intitiating everything...until she finally told me to be just friends, while she fu-cked another guy she liked more.

Life is hard.

 

[kareemm]

Reality check:

if she is not initiating anything after you had sex...she is not interested, or more precisely, she is more interested in another dude. Sad but true. Happened to me

If you persist, ask her out, text her etc while she does nothing...you may get another bang, but she will likely next you very soon, so I would focus my energy in another chick.

I say this because I've done it before, I persisted...intitiating everything...until she finally told me to be just friends, while she fu-cked another guy she liked more.

Life is hard.

Yea agreed. Doesn't add up....any girl whose actually been interested me has done more than this chick

She invited me back to her house when we had drinks the other day...When I told her no she was surprised But I thought I played my cars right and showed her Im not going to accept her every request.....texted me when she got home and i told me she wants to come by place soon

We've made out whenever we've seen each other.

She calls me baby and replies to every text. To be fair, shes only ever denied meeting up once

She told all her friends shes down for friends with benefits

like i would say these are all high signs of interest...but the fact that she initiates absolutely nothing takes away from all of that in my eyes...

really dont know what to make of this broad

 

[El Payaso]

Yea agreed. Doesn't add up....any girl whose actually been interested me has done more than this chick

She invited me back to her house when we had drinks the other day...When I told her no she was surprised But I thought I played my cars right and showed her Im not going to accept her every request.....texted me when she got home and i told me she wants to come by place soon

We've made out whenever we've seen each other.

She calls me baby and replies to every text. To be fair, shes only ever denied meeting up once

She told all her friends shes down for friends with benefits

like i would say these are all high signs of interest...but the fact that she initiates absolutely nothing takes away from all of that in my eyes...

really dont know what to make of this broad

You're just rationalizing her responses. Listen to what your brain is really telling you and go with it.

 

[Stugots26]

Once you've had a beautiful, intelligent, sexy, successful woman really throw herself at you, and lavish you with sex and BJs that don't slow down with time, fly you places to shack up with her in 5-star resort hotels, buy you deep-tissue massages, plan your vacations for you, all words backed up by action...

...and float the idea that for your next birthday she's taking you to Vegas, to the Crazy Horse, to bring you into the back room WITH HER...

...your expectations for treatment by other women rises significantly. These are the types of liaisons that spoil you, and you find yourself unwilling to put up with less in the future. It's important to keep an objective mindset and an ability to scrutinize and compare, from a negotiation perspective. The more you profit for less effort, the less you're willing to put forward effort in the future because you realize that the really interested ones with good attitudes will lavish you with femininity because they consider you alpha and you make them feel feminine by comparison.

 

[uadialej]

If you persist, ask her out, text her etc while she does nothing...you may get another bang, but she will likely next you very soon, so I would focus my energy in another chick.








Text Messages to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

 

[VladPatton]

She's only lookin to get laid, man, just like a guy would. Accept that you're her beef stick for when she gets horny, and that's it. She's a good-time chick, for bangs only, and is totally useless as an LTR. Keep her in your phone for the horny days but look somewhere else for a girlfriend.

 

[kareemm]

She's only lookin to get laid, man, just like a guy would. Accept that you're her beef stick for when she gets horny, and that's it. She's a good-time chick, for bangs only, and is totally useless as an LTR. Keep her in your phone for the horny days but look somewhere else for a girlfriend.

Yea thats fine Im literally only looking for sex, ive completely dismissed her as a real partner

Thing is booty calls for me in the past have always been a two way street so i didnt feel overbearing calling them cause i knew they also come around wanting to get some...she doesnt

i dont want to keep hitting her up cuz it may look like i caught feelings beyond sex...whats a safe distance/intervals to invite her over with that wont make her think im trying to romance her?