"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Responding to neg-hits

crust45833

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After targetting and attracting a particularly feisty HB9.5, she has recently responded with some neghits to me. After applying some good kino on her, she has been jokingly responding "don't touch me" and then smiles or laughs. I have been thinking of different ways to react to it, but when she said this, I only said "you know you like it," with C+F. She also said "no i dont" in response to this one time, and then smiles again. How would you fellow DJs respond to a confident HB9 or 10 neghitting in general or in this way?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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smoove

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i've been experimenting with this. this girl i've recently been gaming uses neg-hits on me (i actually find it funny) and i just sorta agree with her but in a way that is condescending.

For ex.
ME: sup
HER: hey loser

***neg-hit #1, just for laughs****

ME: right back at u
HER: what did u do last night?
ME: went to this bar and then blah blah blah
HER: so what r u a player? u really like those scandalous hoes?

***her judging me/neg-hitting***

ME: u should come with me one night, hoes are entertaining. they come out half naked and shake their asses everywhere. it's kinda funny actually...like they're desperate or something.
HER: hahaha! i prefer movies for my entertainment, thanks.

***her weak attempt at a neg-hit***

ME: listen, if you're trying to ask me out you're gonna have to offer more than just a movie


Do you see how i turned that around?

But every once in a while i actually go with their neg-hit and exagerrate whatever it is that she negged me on, this sorta makes u look humble so she doesn't have her defenses up at all times.

good luck!
 

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Umm...Personally, I think that was a weak neg response. It's important to not only shoot down their negs, but to use them against the women to point out their insecurities. Also, you don't want to display the "player" mentality because it may ruin your rep. In doing so, any girl you come across that has heard of your player status will instantly put up a b**ch shield. Try using some false disqualifiers to break them, but make your own game easier and form a more amicable identity. If anything, good job on not letting this girl steamroll you.

-Damian
 

smoove

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Originally posted by Damian
Umm...Personally, I think that was a weak neg response. It's important to not only shoot down their negs, but to use them against the women to point out their insecurities. Also, you don't want to display the "player" mentality because it may ruin your rep. In doing so, any girl you come across that has heard of your player status will instantly put up a b**ch shield. Try using some false disqualifiers to break them, but make your own game easier and form a more amicable identity. If anything, good job on not letting this girl steamroll you.

-Damian
sorry, maybe i didn't explain myself properly, it was late....what i meant was, i was experimenting with going along with their neg-hits to see what happens. I do usually turn it around on them the way u described.

I've found the textbook way to neg usually gets a jaw-drop type response where as this way gets a more playful, pull-push type response. Which one I use all depends on the way the girl is acting too.

oh, by the way, wtf is a false disqualifier? LOL...i probably know what it is, i just don't know the term for it haha

PS. i've been talking to this chick for about a week or two now so this isn't our first convo, she calls me and stuff and she's shown a lot of IOIs so this convo is actually taken out of context.
 

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Originally posted by crust45833
After targetting and attracting a particularly feisty HB9.5, she has recently responded with some neghits to me. After applying some good kino on her, she has been jokingly responding "don't touch me" and then smiles or laughs. I have been thinking of different ways to react to it, but when she said this, I only said "you know you like it," with C+F. She also said "no i dont" in response to this one time, and then smiles again. How would you fellow DJs respond to a confident HB9 or 10 neghitting in general or in this way?
oh, one thing, i've found that "u know u like it" line typically falls flat, unless u say it with a lot of confidence and playfulness and that has been somewhat reciprocated. i would have probably said something like "oh, excuse me your highness" in a overly serious tone and then busted up laughing while at the same time....touching her HAHAHAHA.

try out different things, see what works for you...and remember it must be congruent with your personality otherwise they'll sense that it's a canned line
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Flabbergasped?

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My style:

Her: Don't touch me.
Me: *kino more* If you don't like it, the sexual harassment office is just a phone call away.

Say it with bravado and a good attitude and you're set.
 
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