"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Responding to apologies

Lexington

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So, there's a girl I'm working on who was a bit of a biatch the other day. I guess she was in a bad mood when I called her and she was being very stand-offish. I didn't take the abuse (I probably would have it was even just a few months ago). I just said, "Okay.....bye" and I immediately hung up the phone.

Well anyway, a day later she's messaged me and told me that she's apologizing for being a biotch....yes she used that exact word. Basically she said she was in a bad mood. The apology seemed genuine.

Is there a standard rule for responding to apologies? I'm very much a softy when it comes to apologies. I can get mad at people, but I am very quick to bury the hatchet the moment a person makes an attempt to reconcile.

They say that being quick to forgive is a good virtue. Sometimes I wonder however if I'm being taken advantage of because of my forgiving nature. I do get very easily disarmed....even when I'm extremely angry.

How do you normally play apologies? Should I perhaps wait a while to leave her in suspense? Or should I immediately accept? Perhaps if I wait a while, it will increase my position of power and make sure she won't act up again in the future?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sir_Turtle

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Don't let it overly affect you in the same way you don't let her overly affect you when she pisses you off. you should be able to forgive without them asking for your forgiveness.

also remember that forgiveness does not mean you have to allow them a chance to screw you over again.
 

WaterTiger

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Your response, in a ****y/funny way:

"So, how ya gonna make it up to me?"
 
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