responding/not responding - being rude?

[pete101]

we all know women will contact you for attention.. if she has been polite with you as in you ask her out she replies but doesn't agree etc should you show her the same courtesy when she contacts asking how you are etc? they say you should just ignore her and not repsond - this is rude esp if she has always replied to your messages.. and by not responding you are perceived to be rude and impolite.. how many of you actually reply to these attention seeking messages?

I just feel now I will not reply and risk a blocking on whatsapp or whatever.. i know they only want to see if i'm still interested and want my attention so there's no point giving my attention.. i should risk losing them due to my impolite/rudeness but should i really give a fvck? whenever i dont reply and give them silent treatment they inevitably start sending messages to get a response like 'are you ok?' or '?' if they didn't put a ? mark at end of initial message.. then they end up blocking me .. all to get a reaction but generally it's a 'ok fvck you then your loss' attitude they give. even if she had some IL in the beginning would her blocking you be the end of it? I always thought silence was your friend to getting what you want if you play it right. but all i end up getting is blocked.

 

[om1xr]

It all comes to being needy or outcome dependent. You must realize that there are some things that are under your control and some other things that you can't control.
you can't control how a girl respond/react to your moves and actions but you have total control on your own reactions and responses toward those girls actions and responses. Think about it for a second.

So the problem is not in how a girl is responding to you or if she will block your arse on some stupid messaging app/phone but in being needy for other people attention and validation.

The point is really simple: Act/Respond on things that you have control over and Let Go of reactions toward what you have no control over. Until you master this skill you will always be a slave to how other people perceive you and react to you.

 

[LMFAO]

I just feel now I will not reply and risk a blocking on whatsapp or whatever.. i know they only want to see if i'm still interested and want my attention so there's no point giving my attention.. i should risk losing them due to my impolite/rudeness but should i really give a fvck? whenever i dont reply and give them silent treatment they inevitably start sending messages to get a response like 'are you ok?' or '?' if they didn't put a ? mark at end of initial message.. then they end up blocking me .. all to get a reaction but generally it's a 'ok fvck you then your loss' attitude they give. even if she had some IL in the beginning would her blocking you be the end of it? I always thought silence was your friend to getting what you want if you play it right. but all i end up getting is blocked.

Most girls will not block you, at worst they will just ignore you/delete your number, but you shouldn't give two fvcks anyway. They are evolved apes just like us, and the monkey behaviour shows too frequently. If you have a girls number you might as well burn it to the ground and do as much as you can to get a date out of it. You're not going to talk to her again anyway. If she ignores your request for a date and then just messages you about something else then yes it's a sign of low interest. Bring it back to the subject say something like "my mum told me not to talk to girls who ignore my messages". If she still doesn't answer positively delete her number.